posted April 10, 2015 07:59 PM            

I have been entertaining the idea of moving to a more remote very beautiful location for some months now and have an opportunity to move there with job/housing covered to start. There are a tons of pros and cons to both staying and leaving and without getting into all the gory details etc this decision has been causing me a lot of anxiety and I should have made it 10 days and I did kinda, I decided to do it and gave my notices, but I have been experiencing such intense anxiety about it that I asked if I could take it back, and my employer and landlord said yes... It's not an easy move as I don't drive and it's a good distance on top of other reasons but the main thing that is really really bothering me is my cat. She's a rescue cat and very afraid of other people, but very attached to me. She is used to being able to go outside in a beautiful meadowy yard and if I move then she will have to be kept mostly indoors, then they told me that one of the other girls in the apartment is allergic to cats so they want me to keep her in my room when she's not outside. I have never lived with a roommate before, only alone and with my ex partner and I would be sharing this apartment with 2 other coworkers who would be sharing a room. Anyway, my main concern that I would like advice from is what do you think about the move for my cat and if it will be a bad move for her. She is very skittish and hypersensitive and I'm also worried the girl who is allergic to cats will resent me. I would also have to keep her litter box in my room!

Please keep in mind before you respond:
She is not "just a cat." We have a bond and it's too long to get into detail but she is very special to me for many different reasons and I know she would be heartbroken if I gave her away, giving her away or letting someone else take her for awhile are simply not options. Also her happiness and well being is very important to me.

posted April 11, 2015 05:04 PM              

I of course can't know how your cat would respond and I hate to discourage you from anything that you want (moving)
But I really don't think your cat would take it very well.
They may take a new home better but I don't know, obviously. I think the right home with someone who knows cats and how to love them might be ok.

posted April 12, 2015 07:02 PM            

@Valentine I'm really sorry you and your cat went through that. I have heard other stories similar to yours. It's so hard not to feel guilty and beat yourself up about things like that. At least your cat in resting in peace now.

posted April 13, 2015 05:13 AM            

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Originally posted by deepseablues:

@SaturnFan, I am glad you see the other side now that you have formed a bond with your cat! It can be very frustrating when people tell you oh it's just a cat, you can't hold yourself back because of your cat etc etc. I see taking in an animal as a huge responsibility and it's unfair to view them in that light or treat them as anything less than a member of the family. My cat is essentially my only family, and in dark times when I contemplated suicide, not wanting to leave her alone prevented me from doing it, and I think she deserves respect and equality for that. She is there for me even when the humans in my life have all left and gone. Adorable picture by the way.

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