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Topic: Suppressing anger?
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Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 689
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted June 05, 2015 04:49 PM
  
Is it a good thing or not? In what situations have you let rip and it all turned out ok, and other times when it just made things worse?I'm going through some personal stuff right now against a specific person related to this. I might elaborate later. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 6483
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 05, 2015 04:58 PM
And then there were times I acted in anger which had negative consequences for me...but it was still better than the alternative which would have had even worse consequences. Sometimes there's just taking the least damage rather than not getting scraped at all. I'm not up for sharing any personal stories right now, but maybe later. IP: Logged |
Odette
Moderator Posts: 5616
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 05, 2015 06:08 PM
I try to express everything I have to say in a non-angry way. I'm very focused on the end result (Cap Mars).
I don't normally *suppress*.I don't lose my temper with most people. But when I did let it rip, it was usually with a fellow fire sign who managed to instigate. Sagittarius takes the cake lol.. And it always turned out ok 😙 IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 969
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 05, 2015 06:59 PM
You have to. No it's not healthy but the consequences of acting on your anger are often times worse. If hurting someone's feelings, injuring them, losing a job or going to jail worth releasing your anger? Never.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 05, 2015 07:40 PM
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MillyX
Knowflake Posts: 1372
From: canada
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted June 06, 2015 12:25 PM
Suppressing anger is not good. I did it before and usually it bites me back, and it comes out 10 times worse than before.IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 6911
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 06, 2015 05:15 PM
I prefer to find a way to deal with it without anger, but there are times when it's necessary. IP: Logged |
lildiamond33
Knowflake Posts: 45
From: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 07, 2015 09:30 AM
i have a huge problem with this...i have mars in the 12th so that explains a lot of it...
i know it's not healthy but it's my go-to way of dealing with anger. growing up i would have lots of punishment if i showed any sign of anger (think "conceal don't feel" from frozen, thats how i was raised) so i try to keep it inside to keep others happy, my libra sun also contributes to this i think.
i do try to channel anger into healthy outlets like exercise and songwriting, and sometimes i try and take my negative feelings and turn them into positives by being excessively nice to people. but alot of times i feel like i just go into denial about what i'm feeling and make no mistake about it, if you do this it will manifest in some area of your life, you can't hide it forever. :/IP: Logged |
Voix_de_la_Mer
Knowflake Posts: 1480
From: You.
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted June 07, 2015 10:12 AM
Suppressed anger will find a way to express itself anyway, I think. Along the lines of manipulation and passive-aggression, and sometimes depression.Most of the time, a bunch of other anger from the past latches onto a current event. I try to reason with my anger, and trace it to its source. This process itself can reduce the feeling that one must act on the anger in the moment. Discussion that seeks understanding, rather than "winning" or being right, with another involved can also dispel the anger.
Often anger is based on an assumption or a misperception. But, of course, the other has to be willing in this process also.
If the above doesn't work for me, then I try to reason that I am actually hurting myself more by holding on. Forgiveness of self and others can dispel anger also, I have found. We all have a cross to bear, even those who *appear* to be making us angry. We can work with the source of the anger in ourselves, and that can alleviate the influence of others' behaviour. EDIT: having a list of alternatives to acting on anger can help too. Activities that help calm, which will be individual to everyone. Once calm enough to think again, the source of the anger can be reasoned with. 2 cents. IP: Logged |
Lerena
Newflake Posts: 24
From:
Registered: May 2015
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posted June 08, 2015 11:03 PM
I very rarely express anger. Throughout my childhood, I don't recall a single time when I got into trouble for my anger and honestly it's showing up in my present life. I have never dealt with past issues of anger. My brother lets it out when he gets angry, but I do probably "suppress" it since most of the time it's inappropriate to express my anger at the time it happens. I used to have dreams where I would throw public temper tantrums. I would wake up confused about what was bothering me, but it felt quite refreshing to let it all out in a dream. You don't want to let your anger remain suppressed. When you have time, it's extremely important to let everything out. Finding a way to release anger will keep it from getting bottled up for years. When someone bottles up their anger for years, it becomes a noticeable issue until it's dealt with. Some people never deal with it and others do. I've heard that exercise is a great way to get anger out. Unfortunately, I hate exercising alone, so that means I never do it. It's a shame, because if I had an exercise partner, I'd probably stick to it longer. Anyway, back to the subject. There are situations you shouldn't express anger, but definitely be sure you let it out when you can appropriately do so. IP: Logged |
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