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Topic: What Would Make you Cut Off a Parent?
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 04, 2015 01:50 PM
  
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Valentine
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From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 04, 2015 09:33 PM
I suppose if they abused me in any way.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 05, 2015 12:46 PM
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Originally posted by Valentine:
I suppose if they abused me in any way.
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Condoowit
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posted December 07, 2015 12:37 PM
I was seriously abused verbally and emotionally as a child. ..as a teenager. ...and as a young adult. ...by my mother. However I have mostly forgiven her for past deeds because she is not well psychologically. There is no member of her family she hasn't abused in one way or another. To this day she remains batsh@t crazy. She has spent her life in a downward spiral. Thus... I don't cut her off. I feel pity for her. Everybody does. She is still at times completely insulting or domineering and if I thought she was in control of herself I would stop talking to her. But somehow I feel she is powerless to control her rages. As in, she has a sickness. And I am the only one she has.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 07, 2015 01:25 PM
I asked for myself, of course lolMy mother called me today, after I cut off contact for 6 months. I realized that I would never heal my stomach if I had to "stomach" her gaslighting/lies At the point I cut her off, coffee hurt my stomach, as well as chocolate and wine. Now, I can have all of these and be OK. My stomach is nervous, anyway, due to the Cancer Moon and Mars, probably. I feel emotions in my stomach. I realize that my boundaries are really the issue. I need to love myself, EXPRESS my anger when people do me wrong lol That is really the core of my issues lol ------------------
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Valentine
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From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 07, 2015 04:51 PM
Ami for your health stay distant from your mother.Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, Which they don't get or give if they're abusive. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted December 07, 2015 05:13 PM
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Originally posted by Valentine:
Ami for your health stay distant from your mother.Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, Which they don't get or give if they're abusive.
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Ami Anne
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posted December 13, 2015 05:24 PM
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Originally posted by Valentine:
Ami for your health stay distant from your mother.Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, Which they don't get or give if they're abusive.
I got back with my mother and my sadness lifted but I started having stomach problems again. It hurt me all the time, so I wrote to her and told her I was not able to have a relationship with her and not be sick lol ------------------
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Valentine
Knowflake Posts: 439
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 13, 2015 06:24 PM
Stay strong, Ami IP: Logged |
StubbornVirgo
Knowflake Posts: 595
From: Sittin' on Mercury
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted December 14, 2015 01:05 AM
I recently cut off all communication with my grandmother. She's not my legal parent, but she was my caretaker when I was a child and acted as a parent when mine were both working.She constantly compared me to my cousins, pointed out all of my flaws, told me I would be perfect if I lost 10 or 15 pounds, scrutinized every mistake I ever made, encouraged me to "not make mistakes" and be "perfect", dropped me off a mile from home and told me to walk because I "needed the exercise", locked me in a bedroom until I stopped crying, chased me with a stick up a tree (where I waited for my parents to come home, even if it was cold and dark), allowed my cousin to abuse me right in front of her, and lots of other things... She totally crippled my self-esteem. I moved back home after college and was immediately confronted with her abuse again. Then she started to reject me completely, as if I wasn't even related to her. I think she was finally starting to feel guilty for all of the things she had done, but I'm not sure. Somehow, that woke me up. I moved away soon after. I don't intend to speak to her ever again. If I ever decide to have children, I won't subject them to her, either. Please don't quote. IP: Logged |
Valentine
Knowflake Posts: 439
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 14, 2015 02:09 AM
I find stories like this so upsetting, and hard to understand, That was definitely abuse, which should never be tolerated or forgiven.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted December 14, 2015 09:02 AM
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Originally posted by Valentine:
Stay strong, Ami
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Ami Anne
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posted December 14, 2015 09:02 AM
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StubbornVirgo
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From: Sittin' on Mercury
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted December 14, 2015 05:44 PM
Thanks Ami Anne & Valentine.  IP: Logged |
SDragon
Moderator Posts: 585
From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted February 05, 2016 08:24 PM
Yes, I still receive gaslighting from my mother and I basically don't communicate with her as it drains me energetically. I've told her in basic terms that we would have a much better relationship if she would stop trying to control me and tell me what to do which she denies of course. And I've also confronted her with the fact that her interaction with me continually includes comments that are belittling and condescending at times. To each their own growth and evolution but NEVER let anyone hold you back or keep your light from shining, even if it's family. IP: Logged |
StubbornVirgo
Knowflake Posts: 595
From: Sittin' on Mercury
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted February 06, 2016 02:22 AM
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Originally posted by SDragon:
To each their own growth and evolution but NEVER let anyone hold you back or keep your light from shining, even if it's family.
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