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Topic: What's the difference
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charlie
Knowflake Posts: 3646
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Registered: Jun 2012
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posted April 06, 2016 11:33 AM
  
between a human that is social and one that is clingy/needy/suffering from separation anxiety?IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 7847
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 06, 2016 05:50 PM
Guess there's a lot of room for interpretation there. But there should be a clear line somewhere, just as there is between healthy introverts who'd prefer to read by one's self and those afflicted with social anxiety that torments them as it keeps them from having any meaningful contact with others that they really want.I'd guess as a general rule someone clingy always needs approval and is worried they're on the outs or being excluded at any moment s/he isn't with the others (which turns into a vicious circle as that tends to annoy people causing them to distance themselves from the clingy person, thus escalating the clingy behavior). If you've ever seen the show Daria then Stacey Rowe is perfect as the clingy person suffering outright anxiety and abandonment issues. An example with a scene of her as she tries to be tutored: quote:
(It's Stacy's turn now, just to make the set complete. Unlike Sandi and Tiffany, Stacy actually seems to be trying.)David - During the Reconstruction, Southerners complained that the newly installed government officials were nothing more than carpetbaggers. Stacy - They were making fun of their butts? Wait, that would be saddlebaggers... (David gets a look on his face: "You can't really be that stupid, can you?") Stacy - (upset) Oh, no... that's the look my mother always gets when I say something stupid. I'm such an idiot. I'll never get anywhere in life! David - At least you're trying. Unlike Sandi and Tiffany, whom I had to drop. Now, the carpet... Stacy - Wait -- you dropped them? David - Yup. The carpetbaggers... Stacy - Why didn't they tell me? I'm being shut out. I can't believe this is happening to me. I knew this was going to happen to me. Oh, why did I wear that butterfly clip? (Stacy runs off, crying, leaving David alone to wonder what the hell happened.)
I knew a real life teen girl that reminded me of that character, probably the only reason she didn't text her friends for permission to use the bathroom was because she didn't want them to know she did that.  Narcissism could demand a lot of attention as well, which is similar in that s/he needs to be the center of attention yet distinct in that it usually doesn't come off as clingy to those fooled by surface appearances. Maybe later I'll talk about someone who was somewhat insecure and a bit clingy who blossomed later on, but I just don't feel like it right now. IP: Logged |
teasel
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 06, 2016 06:26 PM
I veer between the two, as a socially-anxious person. The first part of Pixie's post could be me - but at other times, I'm okay. And I recognize what's happening, but trying to calm that panic when it's fully happening - I have to wait it out, and prefer to leave the house, walk it off, or keep busy. If I can't do that, I get to live in that anxious space until I can rid myself of it for a while.For years, I was fine. The clingy behaviour has happened since my life imploded, and I've had trouble made for me. I was thinking through different things this morning, and I think the anxiety is pretty normal at times, considering the way things have gone. *edited. I will edit this out later on. I couldn't wait to edit out the explanation, sorry. IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 64537
From: Saturn next to Charmaine
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 26, 2016 04:03 PM
Just very generally speaking, one is a choice, the other, a compulsion.IP: Logged | |
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