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Topic: Have you ever just hated someone for no reason?
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aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 06, 2016 07:15 PM
  
Like have you ever just written someone off before they've even opened their mouth or before you even knew their name? I have heard people say things like they knew they couldn't stand a person as soon as they laid eyes on them and I've never understood it because I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt.The reason I ask is because there's this girl at my college campus who acts so freaking ugly towards me and I've never even spoken to her. I have only run into her in the computer lab between classes and anytime I go in there and she's in there she'll flash me a dirty look and immediately get up and leave. The first time it happened I got a really strong vibe that she was leaving because of me, but I just rationalized it and thought "nah, she was probaby in a bad mood (thus the bitchy scowl) and was getting ready to leave when I came in anyway". I found out my initial gut instinct was right because I headed to my next class upstairs about 20 minutes later and passed another computer lab and she was there! She had moved computer labs to get away from me. This same scenario has repeated itself numerous times over the semester. Just the other day I was sitting at a computer in the back corner of the computer lab and she came in. A few minutes later someone else in the computer lab asked me a question and I answered. The very moment I spoke to answer the person's question that girl turned around, flashed a look of pure hatred and got up and left. Keep in mind I have never spoken to this girl or anything and she treats me like i'm Michael Myers or something. All I can think when I see her is "WTF is your problem?" because I know it's not my problem or anything i've done. I actually have positive interactions with everyone else there for the most part, but not her. It's just that one girl and I guess I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does. It just seems so immature and petty to me. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 06, 2016 08:56 PM
I've heard some interesting experiences of others that were even more intense than that, and could be mutual (one guy instantly hated the guy who walked into the locker room before he even saw him as he was taking his shirt off, and turning to him, which was unusual, he saw him glaring back hatefully), but I couldn't really speculate in the case you described. Maybe she witnessed or overheard something (either directly or indirectly through gossip) that has left a really bad impression, probably something she misunderstood or isn't justified in believing since you're just baffled by it.It could be interesting to get her chart, and she very well may have some social media page that you could at least get her birthday. Interesting enough, one girl absolutely despised me on sight back in high school, and we were both shocked to find out we were born in the same hospital on the same day (and even our names were similar, which is why the teacher sat us next to each other as she liked to sit us alphabetically, all part of the socialization you learn in school, don't you know  ) as well as wishing us both happy birthday on our shared birthday. I doubt most astrologers would've guessed we were born on the same day at the same hospital either given how different we were. Well over a decade later I'd get her birth time and thus found her houses, and houses make a lot of difference (and my guess was that her 12th House stellium took exception to my 5th House stellium, among other things, whereas I didn't really care, but my Sag stellium mixed with 3H Libra was willing to take her crap and then throw it right back at her, but even then I just didn't care outside of class until I got into astrology and wondered why she hated me when I got along with other astro-twins). IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 06, 2016 11:28 PM
Yes, and it is, always, I think, shown by the charts.------------------
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Selenite
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From: Lyra
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted April 06, 2016 11:52 PM
It might not be about you per se. Maybe she is affected by peoples' vibes really strongly and feels a draw to you but isn't in the mood for talking to anyone in general so she tries to flee to a space where she can think clearly on her own about how to fix her life that is falling apart.
Just a wild guess She probably doesn't hate you! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 07, 2016 12:32 AM
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Originally posted by Selenite:
It might not be about you per se. Maybe she is affected by peoples' vibes really strongly and feels a draw to you but isn't in the mood for talking to anyone in general so she tries to flee to a space where she can think clearly on her own about how to fix her life that is falling apart.
Just a wild guess She probably doesn't hate you!
That's a really optimistic way to look at it.
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 12006
From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 07, 2016 12:33 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I've heard some interesting experiences of others that were even more intense than that, and could be mutual (one guy instantly hated the guy who walked into the locker room before he even saw him as he was taking his shirt off, and turning to him, which was unusual, he saw him glaring back hatefully), but I couldn't really speculate in the case you described. Maybe she witnessed or overheard something (either directly or indirectly through gossip) that has left a really bad impression, probably something she misunderstood or isn't justified in believing since you're just baffled by it.It could be interesting to get her chart, and she very well may have some social media page that you could at least get her birthday. Interesting enough, one girl absolutely despised me on sight back in high school, and we were both shocked to find out we were born in the same hospital on the same day (and even our names were similar, which is why the teacher sat us next to each other as she liked to sit us alphabetically, all part of the socialization you learn in school, don't you know ) as well as wishing us both happy birthday on our shared birthday. I doubt most astrologers would've guessed we were born on the same day at the same hospital either given how different we were. Well over a decade later I'd get her birth time and thus found her houses, and houses make a lot of difference (and my guess was that her 12th House stellium took exception to my 5th House stellium, among other things, whereas I didn't really care, but my Sag stellium mixed with 3H Libra was willing to take her crap and then throw it right back at her, but even then I just didn't care outside of class until I got into astrology and wondered why she hated me when I got along with other astro-twins).
I would like to look at our synastry, but I don't even know her name. And given her behavior towards me I'm certainly not going to ask. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 07, 2016 12:34 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Yes, and it is, always, I think, shown by the charts.
Yep! IP: Logged |
Elysia
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From: Gotham
Registered: Aug 2015
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posted April 07, 2016 12:48 AM
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Originally posted by Selenite:
It might not be about you per se. Maybe she is affected by peoples' vibes really strongly and feels a draw to you but isn't in the mood for talking to anyone in general so she tries to flee to a space where she can think clearly on her own about how to fix her life that is falling apart.
Just a wild guess She probably doesn't hate you!
^ Either this or someone bad-mouthed you to her and she believed it. What Selenite says is a possibility, 'coz I used to be (maybe still am, in different ways), quite contrary when I liked someone.. Be standoff-ish and/or act like I really disliked them. Just #DefencesUp. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted April 07, 2016 07:08 AM
I haven't, but it's odd that you should bring this up, because I was just thinking about someone who has acted the same way towards me. Only it was online, and I finally found a way to shut off her little passive-aggressive barbs. When it started, she didn't say anything directly, but I later found out she was talking about me, after she had written something about not liking someone, and she didn't know why. How she would normally like someone like this. I remember commenting quickly on something else, and not long after, there was just a "grr" commented at the beginning of something else. I made excuses for her, and thought she might be picking up on my nervous/depressed energy - even online - avoided interacting with her, and she seemed okay after a while. About a week ago, I saw something from her, and "liked" it because I was feeling the same way, and the next thing you know, the comments have started again, vague comments that invited questions from a friend of hers, "Oh, no, what's wrong? Message me!" She acted like a victim, because I "liked" something. She has never deleted or blocked me, so she must get something out of hate-reading. I don't get it. Her mother might die, so I excused it away before: she's rightfully angry there, and terrified, so I thought she needed an outlet for that anger, that she's mostly shielding from her mother. What interested me for a while, was that she got off on it. She didn't question her own feelings beyond the first comments - she just decided that she was going to find a reason to not like me, even if it wasn't there. She was going to dig until it became clear. I've stopped taking responsibility for someone's feelings towards me, when they're uncalled for. Once she started up again, I just thought, "oh, no, I'm not doing this." The other day, I finally found a way to shut off her comments, and it's been a relief. She can hate as much as she wants to, I just don't have to see it. It still hurts at first, and it's bad enough online - I'm sorry that you're dealing with this in person, regularly. After this happened, I was upset at first - this person has spoken to me before, and a year ago, was very kind. She's never said anything about this directly to me, though. I ended up emailing Faith, because it was upsetting to me. I didn't sleep, got out of the house the next day, and when the rubbish continued over the weekend, I finally found the way to say, " Bye, Felicia" (not her real name, obviously). IP: Logged |
Lerena
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Registered: May 2015
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posted April 07, 2016 10:49 AM
I have a history of hating my own brother. My case is complicated since I could technically have an unconscious reason for hating him that isn't rising to the surface. Either way, I can't figure out why I still hate him. I'm not passive-aggressive about it though. I typically keep my feelings to myself around him and just treat him like I would anyone else. However, as a child, I wasn't mature enough to do that and I was often envious of his happiness. However, not everyone can treat someone they hate with respect. I do it to maintain the peace. Simply put, I don't let hatred affect how I treat someone. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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From: INTJ
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 07, 2016 11:48 AM
Edit: I just ramble. 😑IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 07, 2016 11:59 AM
I have only one person I feel that way about and she absolutely produces pure and utter revulsion in me, lol, it is probably that she touches my Unaspected Venus in a bad way  ------------------
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Vajra
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posted April 07, 2016 02:21 PM
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Ami Anne
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posted April 07, 2016 02:56 PM
Mine is not for no reason lol------------------
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Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmaine
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2016 08:09 PM
Nope, but I've been on the receiving end for no apparent reason. Could be something going on behind the scenes.IP: Logged |
Elysia
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From: Gotham
Registered: Aug 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 08:30 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Nope, but I've been on the receiving end for no apparent reason. Could be something going on behind the scenes.
Really?
Who was it? Someone at work? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 17, 2016 09:09 AM
For me, it takes a lot for me to hate someone, but I do hate one person but she earned it lol------------------
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Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmaine
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posted April 17, 2016 01:16 PM
There have been a few.IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmaine
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posted April 19, 2016 02:26 PM
And one was at work.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 19, 2016 06:44 PM
I talked to a guy at school about her (He works there) and he told me she is from another country and can't speak English very well. He says (his own words) she has a bad case of "resting b*tch face", but is really nice if you talk to her. So I dont know what to think about her.IP: Logged |
diamondbaby
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posted May 05, 2016 12:08 AM
No, when I hate someone, there is a reason.IP: Logged | |
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