posted June 12, 2016 04:36 PM            

So there is this guy I met online about a year and a half ago. There was definitely an instant attraction for both of us, as he told me 'I like you' after we met. He lives about 2.5 hrs away, so we didn't see each other much, but texted daily.

He did stop texting me suddenly, for about 3 mos. The started again; he said he gets bored with just texting and prefers face to face, which I get. Anyways, the texting became less as time went by. I drove up to see him around Valentine's day. Wanted to add that I always felt so awkward around him, but so attracted to him. He also acted shy around me. It would take a while to just kiss. I never felt that way before.

So after visiting him, we Just stopped talking. For months went by and he sends me a friend request on Facebook. He hasn't talked to me yet though. I have no clue what that means. I thought about sending him a message, but after we last hung out, I sent him a text and he never responded. I do still have feelings for him.

posted June 12, 2016 08:04 PM            

What I would do. Well there was no bad feelings unless you count his disappearing as leaving you with bad feelings. I think he probably still cares but I'd leave it at that. He may not specifically be interested in starting anything more than friendship.

posted June 13, 2016 12:04 AM            

I accepted the friends request almost right away, on Wed. I commented on one of his posts today, because I just wanted to say something to him.

Its hard because I started to really end it in my mind, then that just sort of restarted it. Made me think of him an realize how much I like him. He is perfect for me, but oh well.

posted June 13, 2016 12:56 PM              

If you're not in too deep yet, could you withdraw a little? To make sure he's worth your time..

posted June 13, 2016 01:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
How much do you like him?

If you're not in too deep yet, could you withdraw a little? To make sure he's worth your time..

Don't give him too much headspace if he's making it clear he doesn't want anything. I mean, yeah, sometimes people don't mean it when they say that. But to be safe, just take it at face value, and distance yourself from him.. If you text when he's not making that much of an effort, he'll take you for granted..

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We haven't talked for about four mos now. If he isn't contacting me, I won't be doing that to him either. The only communication has been the comment I made yesterday on his post. I don't know, I don't get why he looked for me at all.

I think I like him a lot.

posted June 13, 2016 02:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Yeah, don't text him personally, maybe social media is a neutral enough zone..

And don't feel bad, if it's meant to be, it will happen..

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Thanks Talking about it helped

posted June 14, 2016 12:30 PM            

There is so much non-verbal information lost in the online world.

Before language, this is all we had. I think it matters more than we realise sometimes, in this hi-tech age.

posted June 14, 2016 12:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
I think you really need to be physically around someone to truly judge how you interact.

There is so much non-verbal information lost in the online world.

Before language, this is all we had. I think it matters more than we realise sometimes, in this hi-tech age.

In the future, the gift of remote-viewing may be strong enough to close this gap, but I think we are currently in a time where this is in its early stages of development, and not quite effective enough to replace physical presence.

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I agree, for sure. We haven't been physically around each other since last Feb. IMO, we had a strong connection when we were together.

posted June 19, 2016 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by madelineleo23:
Your situation sounds very similar to a situation I am in with a guy that I had a strong connection with. The contact started fading in April, and I tried to reach out in April and May. He did respond but I decided to stop replying back. I felt like an idiot. He hasn't tried to add me on social media. Won't go into details because this is your thread but I will say as much as it hurts leave him alone.

Trust me I know it's tempting to want to reach out but just tell yourself: "If he's not making an effort to contact me, then why should I bother?" They should be chasing YOU. That's just my opinion. As much as you want to relive all of those great times you had with that person and as much as the connection was amazing, you have to be strong. Just walk away. I firmly believe that if it's meant to be they will come around.

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I agree with you. I have no intention of contacting him, I guess other than my comment on his post, which sometimes I feel silly about doing.

posted July 02, 2016 10:18 AM            

The thing is, I didn't get the feeling that he liked me, really, and I told him that. We are both Virgo Venus, so not the greatest placement for showing love. His is loosely square Uranus and mine is tightly conj Saturn, so yeah. For me, it takes time. I feel very insecure regarding relationships and have really only had one serious one.

posted July 23, 2016 07:57 AM            

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Originally posted by madelineleo23:

Trust me I know it's tempting to want to reach out but just tell yourself: "If he's not making an effort to contact me, then why should I bother?" They should be chasing YOU. That's just my opinion. As much as you want to relive all of those great times you had with that person and as much as the connection was amazing, you have to be strong. Just walk away. I firmly believe that if it's meant to be they will come around.

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posted July 24, 2016 03:16 PM            

one important lesson of pluto is surrender to your destiny, which may well be.. acepting that is not meant to be in spite of your feelings.. or letting go.. the more we hold on onto someone the more pluto hurts...

of course I may be wrong.. i dont know anything about that guy.

just be careful and kind to yourself.