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Topic: Unrequited Love
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Koniucha
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 22, 2016 11:30 AM
  
Had anyone experienced this? How can I move on?I'm having such a hard time moving on, despite this guy not really taking to/ignoring me and being sort of a jerk. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 22, 2016 11:50 AM
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 22, 2016 12:02 PM
One guy took me a whole year off crying every night to get over, K His nessus conj my Sun,exact I find what you are talking about, often, to be Nessus/Deja. ------------------
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andstuff
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posted July 22, 2016 12:07 PM
Have you tried cord-cutting (praying to Archangel Michael )? I am not sure i experienced this or not, but I once fell in love with my teacher (I was 19, he was 27 and married with children), there were definitely vibes between us and he gave me his email address once the course was over so I could update him on the results of something, but lets say we never started corresponding properly Anyway, 10 years later he suddenly sent me a message re: how he found my website and how impressed he was and whatnot, I was just sitting there and laughing. He actually tried to start something, but I had experienced some real love in between and basically didn't care. Ended up blocking him on facebook because he left stupid comments to my status updates. But I was very heartbroken over the fact we lost touch and apparently he was cool with not being in touch with me Now I can't think of this without laughing my head off. IP: Logged |
Koniucha
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 22, 2016 12:28 PM
I feel like I started to get over him, then after 4 mos he requested me on fb. We talked a bit. He said he likes me, again. Getting together just didn't work out and now back to no talking. I don't understand why I feel this way. IP: Logged |
DopGang
Knowflake Posts: 2806
From: INTJ
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted July 22, 2016 12:41 PM
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Well, like Ami said, time. That's important.
The other thing is I would cut him out. No contact. Every time you let him in the door, as innocent as it may be, you reset that clock because your feelings for him are not at rest yet.
No FB, no texts, no email, no phone calls. Zero. IP: Logged |
madelineleo23
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted July 22, 2016 10:43 PM
I completely understand how hard it is to move on. I am in the same boat. We weren't even "dating", but we had a great connection. Everything was going fine until he disappeared on me. We haven't spoken in three months. He hasn't made the effort to reach out. Yeah I miss him... Initially its very difficult to deal with, but I've learned that we can't control other peoples actions. Silence speaks louder than words. If they don't want to make an effort to keep you in their life then that should be enough to tell you to move on. Time will heal it all. Stay strong!  IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 23, 2016 05:36 AM
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Originally posted by Koniucha:
I feel like I started to get over him, then after 4 mos he requested me on fb. We talked a bit. He said he likes me, again. Getting together just didn't work out and now back to no talking. I don't understand why I feel this way.
In my own experience with unrequited love is the small thread of hope. I once fell for a university professor and my hope was that his mind was so similar to mind that when he found this out he would fall for me until one of the students got him and married him.. now we are all good friends and I cannot be must turn off by him, but still i understand why i felt connected... on the other two cases, again, there is an on and off quality that keeps you hanging. you mention he inviting friendship in FB.. when we are into a guy, we take the slightest sign as a hope, but for them maybe just mean, "I am bored, lets see what is going on with that chick" or they may feel something but it is not stable, or (most likely scenario, but not always) they are into someone else and we are the 2nd, 3rd, or who now which number in the list of priority woman. we are not the ONE for sure, but they must feel some attraction (or horny moments in worst case), but for us it means the WORLD because were are into that man for good or bad... I agree with the non at all connection. that is the only thing that works for me. I was in on and off relationship for 7 years (with only 1 year of a true committed relationship) after the break-up he wanted me one day and he wanted me no the next day, so kept me hanging for ever. until one day i dissolved all contact for one year.. it worked,and one year exact later i met another man for whom I fell.. after that the spell of 7 years was gone. i dont have feelings anymore... but it took 7 long years... my advice, dont fall into any neptunian trap (sending flowers, or music or anything that triggers your romantic neptunian side)... i believe the visualization with breaking the cord that attach you to him is helpful, sending him good wishes, but separating your energy from him. I works for me. visualize yourself as full of energy and love... that helps to restore the balance.. and NO contact whatsoever. no FB, no emails, etc all the best wishes IP: Logged |
Koniucha
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 24, 2016 09:10 AM
I believe I figured it out, at least what I think and what I will be going by.I have an unaspected Sun, so anything that touches it in synastry is intense for me. His Pluto is conjunct my Sun, by 3 degrees. I feel like meeting him was meant to be and it is forcing me to evolve, as painful as it is. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
Knowflake Posts: 1200
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 24, 2016 03:05 PM
it is funny but i have found that pluto sun is more compelling that pluto venus. I once had a crush with someone whose pluto square my sun exact... i got obsessed and crazy to a point of doing insannity things.. never happened again.. thanks god!IP: Logged |
Koniucha
Knowflake Posts: 833
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 24, 2016 03:30 PM
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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
it is funny but i have found that pluto sun is more compelling that pluto venus. I once had a crush with someone whose pluto square my sun exact... i got obsessed and crazy to a point of doing insannity things.. never happened again.. thanks god!
Yeah, I can say I have never felt this way before, that is for sure. I will be letting him go, as hard as that is for me to say. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 12052
From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 24, 2016 04:35 PM
I don't even get that far. Every girl i'm interested in usually rejects me from jump street.IP: Logged |
Orange
Knowflake Posts: 5250
From: Georgia
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 28, 2016 07:25 PM
AmiWhat is it about Nessus - Deja? My guy's Nessus squares my Deja, btw
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lilithpluto
Knowflake Posts: 3016
From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted September 10, 2016 08:21 AM
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Originally posted by madelineleo23:
I completely understand how hard it is to move on. I am in the same boat. We weren't even "dating", but we had a great connection. Everything was going fine until he disappeared on me. We haven't spoken in three months. He hasn't made the effort to reach out. Yeah I miss him... Initially its very difficult to deal with, but I've learned that we can't control other peoples actions. Silence speaks louder than words. If they don't want to make an effort to keep you in their life then that should be enough to tell you to move on. Time will heal it all. Stay strong!
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