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charlie
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posted August 24, 2016 11:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is first and foremost catered to those who practice Islam (for obvious reasons below) but others are welcome to chime in.

I will make this as short as possible.

My husband married a woman who at that time called herself a Muslim. She lied. Why she did this is anyone's guess. Anyway, they had a child together that is now 9 and spends her time divided between us and ex-wife 50%. Daughter already displays many psychological problems, some of which I've posted on here before, and one of them being sexual in bad ways. Latter is however a story for another time.

Time has come where ex-wife has met a new man. Said man has an 11 year old son. We have never met them and ex-wife seems to want to keep it that way. She does however keep threatening my husband that she is going to move in with new man and his son.

My husband and I think that in this point in time, where daughter is having issues (seeing a psychologist) it is NOT in her best interest, at all, to be in this new situation. She needs help. Mother however is adamant in playing her game. We also know that all humans are entitled to meet someone new.

Law goes before religion in our country so I guess my husband is screw**!?

And PLEASE (!): don't start shi* throwing or in any other way derail from specifics. Thank you!

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eyes_like_pisces
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posted August 26, 2016 04:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eyes_like_pisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorry this is hard for you.

If you've already discussed this with her mother and she cant see your point of view I would try maybing talking with the girls psychologist and see what his recommendations are and if he/she will write an opinion form to the mother.

Maybe you could all have a gamily session to air out your concerns and grievances?
How is the daughter feeling about this change? Maybe a custody arrangement could be made where the daughter stay with you for a longer period of time and slowly gets acclimated into the new house and family?

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venus2tinkerbell
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posted August 27, 2016 09:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for venus2tinkerbell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Charlie. Is the man she's met Muslim? If he is your husband might be able to make an appeal to him (regarding living arrangements) on the grounds that the children are na'mahram (if you're not familiar with the term, I'd rather not discuss it here...but you should be able to look it up). It should mean something to a sincere Muslim, given your daughter's struggles at this time.

If she's seeing a therapist can you get proof or a statement that living in a home with a boy her age or older is detrimental to her health and safety and maybe his?

I think you're right to be concerned.

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venus2tinkerbell
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posted August 27, 2016 10:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for venus2tinkerbell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Any man Muslim or no, should be concerned about the situation. Does he know?

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