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Topic: Erectile dysfunction
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Dancing Maenad
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posted October 17, 2016 02:02 PM
 
Several of the men I've been in relationships in the last 5 years or so have had problems keeping erections, including my current partner. In some cases it created frustration or alienation between me and my partners, anger (on their part) or simply sadness. You'd think that by now I'd be able to tackle this problem, but it's becoming a bit depressing for me since I tend to take it personally, some of them claim that it hadn't happened to them before. :/I know there is more to one's sex life than intercourse, however it can shatter a connection when it doesn't work. To be honest, sometimes when I think about sex I get more of a dread feeling than excitement, because I worry it will fail again and again. If you've dealt with this problem, how did you solve it? I like my current boyfriend a lot and I'd like to work this out with him. Astrology wise, his Saturn opposes my Mars. Go figure. I believe he's suffering from dysthymia and insomnia. He tried therapy before but had horrible experiences and he's reluctant to try again even though I can recommend some really good therapists to him. Many of them are friends of mine. I just don't know how to behave with him. I don't mind the lack of actual sex that much, I believe affection and intimacy are compensatory, but it worries me a bit. Without getting graphic, what advice can you give me? IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 17, 2016 11:08 PM
Does he watch porn and/or masturbate ? If yes, tell him to quit both of them for a while. Watching porn can cause erectile dysfunction in long term. Masturbation does not cause it, but quitting it for a while might help him to get back his libido back faster.About insomnia, I've read people who think too much suffer from it. Is he physically active ? IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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posted October 19, 2016 01:47 AM
I think his main issue is psychological. I think he watched porn at some point, but he isn't into that. He's not physically active much, but he also isn't precisely sedentary. He thinks too much, yes. I think since this is brand new, he was worried about me and how he'd perform. I'll give it some more time so we can adjust. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 19, 2016 05:05 AM
Yeah, might be performance anxiety.IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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posted October 22, 2016 04:33 AM
I think that's what it was. It's okay now.  IP: Logged |
DualGemV2
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posted October 23, 2016 06:00 AM
Why don't you take advantage of his "Morning Wood" as soon as he gets up.I'm male and unexpected erections do occurs as soon as you wake up. ====================================
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Aries Moon
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Dancing Maenad
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posted October 23, 2016 06:32 AM
Haha, thanks DualGemV2!We're both definitely into morning actions haha, but usually I am in a hurry to get to work and he doesn't do quickies. The only time when there was enough time for that (so far) it didn't happen because we got into an argument - which is what we've been doing a lot lately - and I just left. In any case, the sex got really, really good. His erection is no longer a problem for us. Btw, were you a member here before? Your placements remind me of someone I used to talk to years ago. IP: Logged |
DualGemV2
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posted October 23, 2016 09:19 PM
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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
...Btw, were you a member here before? Your placements remind me of someone I used to talk to years ago.
Yup, I've been here for a while. ====================================
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Randall
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posted October 24, 2016 08:21 AM
Who were you?IP: Logged |
DualGemV2
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posted October 24, 2016 02:45 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Who were you?
@Dancing Maenad
I used to be spool, i assume you use to be Anna something... ====================================
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andstuff
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posted October 30, 2016 10:27 AM
I'd say some kind of meditation that focuses on the lower chakras (the orange one especially) might contribute to solving the problem on their part. I agree sometimes it's anxiety and similar emotional barriers. As long as the hormone levels are ok. IP: Logged |
raindancer88
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posted December 12, 2016 12:26 AM
I had this with one man.I found one thing that cured it. I found his erotic "get up and get off" secret and then I used it to fit what he wanted. Turns out he wanted to get me pregnant! So during sex, he told me he wanted me to carry and have his children. Boooom. Mind you, guys is Scorpio asc
Sun, moon, mercury, Venus and Mars ALL TAURUS 7TH HOUSE. Made sense after I thought about it.
Good luck.
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charlie
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posted December 12, 2016 11:36 AM
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Originally posted by raindancer88:
I had this with one man.I found one thing that cured it. I found his erotic "get up and get off" secret and then I used it to fit what he wanted. Turns out he wanted to get me pregnant! So during sex, he told me he wanted me to carry and have his children. Boooom. Mind you, guys is Scorpio asc
Sun, moon, mercury, Venus and Mars ALL TAURUS 7TH HOUSE. Made sense after I thought about it.
Good luck.
Hmmm...interesting actually. My husband has told me some stories about previous encounters where the woman most definitely NOT wanted to become pregnant, at least not with him, and I have also noticed that when he feels me being on the fence about getting a child (it would be his second) his libido is probably 85% lower. I have tested it quite a few times. Now that I'm not on the fence anymore I am having a hard time keeping up with him..
He is a Taurus Moon. If it were up to him, he'd want 10 more children :-/ He LOVES them. Another thing I've noticed is that he cannot perform, at all, unless I am 100% into it. He is very sensitive to those type of undercurrents and he'll simply just ignore me and fall asleep. I think Taurus' need that sensual depth. IP: Logged |
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