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charlie
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posted August 15, 2021 06:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So, Iíve bought some new clothes lately and when I do, I always donate something that I havenít been wearing for a while. This time it was 3 pair of shoes, 2 pants and some shirts. Nice, clean items!

Husband thinks I should give it to his 14 yr old daughter (and this I do when the clothes are appropriate for her) but I said ďno, these things are not appropriate for herĒ.

So he looks at me with hatred, takes the bag of clothes and tosses it out the CAR window! He then proceeds telling his daughter that if I ever give her anymore clothes in future she should burn it.

Iím kindaÖnumb. Who and more importantly, what, does this??

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MoonMystic
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posted August 15, 2021 07:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's awful. Is it due to budget?
Does he think she is in need or is he just simply being a jerk? Have you told him him isn't behaving fair with you, Charlie?
I wonder if he has a transit of Saturn,Uranus or Pluto?

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posted August 15, 2021 08:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your synastry shows these things. It is not like I have not made a million mistakes but we should never discount the charts

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posted August 15, 2021 08:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PlutoWasHere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, that is some seriously disrespectful behavior. I donít want to sound overbearing but I think itís important to set boundaries in a relationship. A lesson I needed to learn the hard way myself. You posted this behavior on the forum so it seems to me that he crossed your boundaries. Now itís up to you to decide how you want to deal with that. Wishing you lots of courage and (self)love.

Edit: It sounds power related so a Mars, Saturn or Pluto transit could be into play. However you need to determine for yourself how to deal with this. These transits could challenge you to grow.

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charlie
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posted August 15, 2021 09:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
That's awful. Is it due to budget?
Does he think she is in need or is he just simply being a jerk? Have you told him him isn't behaving fair with you, Charlie?
I wonder if he has a transit of Saturn,Uranus or Pluto?

We have money, not rich but we donít starve for anything, and she always gets what she needs and sometimes what she wants!

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posted August 15, 2021 09:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by MoonMystic:
That's awful. Is it due to budget?
Does he think she is in need or is he just simply being a jerk? Have you told him him isn't behaving fair with you, Charlie?
I wonder if he has a transit of Saturn,Uranus or Pluto?

He has a Taurus moon, Aries Sun, Cap Mars.

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charlie
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posted August 15, 2021 09:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
Wow, that is some seriously disrespectful behavior. I donít want to sound overbearing but I think itís important to set boundaries in a relationship. A lesson I needed to learn the hard way myself. You posted this behavior on the forum so it seems to me that he crossed your boundaries. Now itís up to you to decide how you want to deal with that. Wishing you lots of courage and (self)love.

[b]Edit: It sounds power related so a Mars, Saturn or Pluto transit could be into play. However you need to determine for yourself how to deal with this. These transits could challenge you to grow.[/B]


I understand transits and behavior. Been dealing with tPluto on all my cardinal planets for many years but Iíve never shown him disrespect! I have a HOT temper and I tolerate little BS (Mars 1H conjunct Asc and parallel Pluto) but I was just totally mute and numb :-/

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posted August 15, 2021 09:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PlutoWasHere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by charlie:
I understand transits and behavior. Been dealing with tPluto on all my cardinal planets for many years but Iíve never shown him disrespect! I have a HOT temper and I tolerate little BS (Mars 1H conjunct Asc and parallel Pluto) but I was just totally mute and numb :-/

I can understand how this kind of behaviour can just leave you speechless. It is so hurtfull when someone close to you behaves in such a way. My ex has had some moments with behaviour where I should have snapped back in the moment. Somehow your brain just shuts down because you can't believe they actually did that.

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posted August 15, 2021 11:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
I can understand how this kind of behaviour can just leave you speechless. It is so hurtfull when someone close to you behaves in such a way. My ex has had some moments with behaviour where I should have snapped back in the moment. Somehow your brain just shuts down because you can't believe they actually did that.

Took him 7 hrs to calm down. So I asked him why he puts his daughter in this situation where she will feel bad for saying no to something I might give to her in the future just because heís told her to do so. He had no answer and walked away so thatís all I need to know. Heís a low human and I need to find a way out.

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posted August 15, 2021 12:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Charlie, is he this way towards anyone else?

I wonder if his prog chart or the transits to it or natal might reflect something. I mean as to" if this will be a new permanent attitude " or if he is going through bumpy transits showing a nasty side. One which hopefully you'll not see for long - or again. BML, as well Pluto, Saturn and Uranus can be at work. His Moon in Tau, is it near the tr Uranus? Or might his Capricorn energy be touching the tr Pluto?

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posted August 15, 2021 01:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As someone who's experienced this sort of thing, it sounds like controlling and abusive behavior.

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posted August 15, 2021 01:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Dee, do you suppose Aries? I'm thinking Earth can be controlling but Aries is infamous for that.

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posted August 15, 2021 01:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
Charlie, is he this way towards anyone else?

I wonder if his prog chart or the transits to it or natal might reflect something. I mean as to" if this will be a new permanent attitude " or if he is going through bumpy transits showing a nasty side. One which hopefully you'll not see for long - or again. BML, as well Pluto, Saturn and Uranus can be at work. His Moon in Tau, is it near the tr Uranus? Or might his Capricorn energy be touching the tr Pluto?


He's not like this towards anyone else because he's always wearing a "mask". Ask someone else and they will tell you what a lovely, understanding, funny, sexy man he is!

A few weeks ago he very vaguely, while arguing about something else, said that he doesn't like himself and I believe him. The thought of projection has crossed my mind many times but he's so very intelligent that when you think you have caught on to something, HE will have caught on to you, and readjusted himself. Hope that makes sense?!

I will look at his charts again.

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charlie
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posted August 15, 2021 01:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dee:
As someone who's experienced this sort of thing, it sounds like controlling and abusive behavior.

Yes, I think you are right. I've thought about this many times. The nature in me wants to know why he has a need to control but in this case I think I might have to accept that there won't be an answer for me.

He was born in a war-zone and many of his family members are still in it. He's told me a little about those times but I'm wondering if he's suffering from PTSD. I'm not using it as an excuse. I just like to understand, if there's a way to.

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posted August 15, 2021 01:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Charlie, this looks like a transit may be activated "within your" chart? A moment of clarity. Finally seeing something you had never taken serious or maybe did not realise?
Maybe it just finally hit that right snag with you?

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posted August 15, 2021 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
@Charlie, this looks like a transit may be activated "within your" chart? [b]A moment of clarity. Finally seeing something you had never taken serious or maybe did not realise?
Maybe it just finally hit that right snag with you?[/B]

Maybe. Let me think about that. Another thing I realized is that ALL outer planets are rx in his charts. Does this mean he feels them inward/internally but when a planet gets a direct hit it means he would then turn it outwards?

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posted August 15, 2021 08:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Could be. What condition were these planets in with this happened? Direct? Maybe he's unaware he is more direct, in those energies where he usually is internal with them?
Similar to a inside voice/outside voice.

The PTD is curious though. All people are different but if he was militarily, idk if this could be a behavioral issue from that.


I hope things are ironing out for you two.

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