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aquaguy91
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posted August 26, 2022 11:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Asperger's and I'm not very good at reading women but I try my best. For the most part, I don't even try to engage a woman unless I get (from my perspective) strong vibes that she might be interested in hearing from me. This is just for the simple fact that I don't understand women and what they expect from me.

A new semester of grad school just started and there's an older woman in several of my classes who seemed very warm towards me in the beginning. She initiated conversations with me in class, she broke the touch barrier with me in conversations, and she was also friendly with me and liked my posts in the chat app students in the program use to communicate with each other.

Based off all her behaviors that suggested interest on her part, I thought it would be safe to try starting a casual conversation in said app. I didn't hit on her. I didn't do anything like that. I was just friendly and showed curiosity in her. She responded for a few minutes and then left me on read and has been completely cold to me in person since.

So what is a guy supposed to do? I tried being friends with a woman who seemed interested in being friends with me and still ended up getting treated like dirt. I'm genuinely puzzled and don't understand how I did anything wrong in this situation. I was just friendly. At what point am I a human being worthy of connection and being treated like my feelings matter?

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aquaguy91
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posted August 26, 2022 11:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just don't understand women's thought processes on things. If she is so repulsed by the idea of me trying to talk to her, why did she flirt with me and initiate conversations with me on multiple occasions? This is a woman in her 40s mind you. It does not compute. Female behavior does not compute.

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posted August 27, 2022 02:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do women intentionally play games with guys they deem unattractive in order to hurt us? I always get treated badly like this no matter what I do or don't do. Women just cause me to feel bad emotions.

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posted August 27, 2022 03:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted August 27, 2022 04:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Eternal Energy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't ever give up on your dreams. Even if you have fallen down a hundred times, get up and keep going. Love will find you in the end.

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posted August 28, 2022 07:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Eternal Energy:
Don't ever give up on your dreams. Even if you have fallen down a hundred times, get up and keep going. Love will find you in the end.

Eternal Energy,
Do you not see my dilemma? How does a man keep trying when he has been hurt so much and women are such fakes? Read my story again to see how fake that woman is. That has been my experience with women my whole life. Everything is fake with them. There's never any honesty or openness. It's all lies and window dressing.

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posted October 02, 2022 01:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Voix_de_la_Mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Love is a strange phenomenon. I didn't know what I was looking for until I found him 8 years ago.

There are plenty of fake men too, I've had the displeasure of meeting more than a few.
The best answer I can give is that I don't 'expect' more than the basics of respect, honesty, integrity and self-awareness. I also need to have a strong friendship with someone.

However, for me to experience love the feeling, I need to be drawn to the person. I don't need to know why, it just needs to be there. I find that love the feeling is a mysterious thing, it comes from somewhere very old (although my South Node is conjunct my Venus, so that may explain that).

Where does it come from? I don't know. Possibly the astrology, or former lives. But I definitely need a powerful spiritual connection unpinned by a strong friendship. Ethereal but earthy, I guess.

My current relationship is about 4 years old (with 4 years of friendship prior). I don't really have the words for it, even now. It's still otherworldly, so I am still utterly hooked. I feel like in every previous life and throughout this one I was looking for him. I didn't know what he looked like, I knew him by how he made me feel when he looked at me. We were friends for 4 years (completely platonic) before the universe cleared a path for us to be together. I would have stayed his friend if that was all that was ever possible, I just didn't want to be without him in my life. I never knew for all that time, but it turned out he felt the same. And he remembered me too.

Don't invest in anything less that mutually earth-shattering. Be prepared to wait, but live while waiting. Be spiritually open and self-aware. I was 36 years old before it happened, and my partner was 53.

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