posted April 03, 2012 03:12 AM            

Valentine - What does this word make us think of?

Valentines Day of course! A day where everybody on the globe is bombarded with hallmark card "romance". Husbands grab a bunch of flowers at a service station to avoid getting glared at by their wives. Millions of single people feel more aware of being alone than ever. While "happy couples" show off their bunches of flowers and stuffed teddy bears... Is this what love really is? Being forced to be romantic?

Or is Valentine trying to show us something different?

Like the desperate young man who puts 30 roses in the locker of the girl he loves - even though he has no guarantee that she will give him one back- Valentine shows us the part of ourselves which is willing to sacrifice for love.

But it also shows the kind of love bound by duty. Like the bored couple that eat at a restaurant " because its "Valentines Day" - and yet have nothing to say to eachother.

What does Valentine mean to me? Well it's something of the two. I know the pain of being bound by duty - a love that is almost impossible to walk away from, but deep down one knows it is holding them back from their true happiness. Like the perpetual "Valentines day" one puts on an act of love because one has to.

I also know the maddening obsession of loving someone hopelessly and irrationally, The kind of love where you would do anything for the person but forget yourself completely, you lose yourself, your highest destiny, all because this "special" person has such a hold on you.

And while these two senarios seem to be opposite - I actually believe Valentine is trying to teach us the same lesson.

- That you can only Love someone else, if you truly, truly love yourself.

You have to love your dreams and passions, your strengths and your weaknesses, you have to be able to look into your own eyes and know you will honor and commit to yourself- no matter what. But most of all you have to love your own heart - and everything, (and I mean everything!) it has been through.

Only then can you deeply love someone else- and be deeply loved in return.

True Love is not selfish, or self sacrificial, - It is meant to set both your souls free.
It is the paradox of a deep, unconditional, passionate love and the freedom to let the person you love be all that they can be- whether it involves you or not.

True love does not smother or push away - It trusts.

When two people are truly happy with themselves, their life, their connection to the universe... and fall in love at THAT frequency - it is an indescribable magic- This is the true" twinflame love".

Two equal, whole, passionate souls- by law of attraction- attract an equal, whole passionate Love.

Valentine shows us in our chart where we easily and selflessly give love to another person- Which is a wonderful essential thing!! However in order for the positive attributes of Valentine to be present in our lives. We must also give that same unconditional love - to ourselves.

Happy Love People!

posted April 03, 2012 04:29 AM            

But then again maybe it is simply different in Germany. Noone here is really "forced" to celebrate Valentine`s day.

Furthermore I simply haven`t seen it yet to play out like this in synastry.

posted April 03, 2012 12:55 PM            

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posted April 03, 2012 10:26 PM            

And yes I definitely know what you are saying Ceri.
I did recently notice strong Valentine aspects in a couple of charts of people who wanted to leave their partner, but felt like they couldn't - But my research is very limited.
This is more an observation of what the word "Valentine" conjures up at this present time - Most think of "Valentines Day". Some see this as a day to celebrate Love in all its forms and embrace it, others celebrate it halfheartedly because they feel like they should - and I also know those who choose not to celebrate it because they see it as a "fake romance day".

posted April 04, 2012 08:18 AM            

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Originally posted by BrightStar23:
Thankyou for reading Ami and Ceri! x

And yes I definitely know what you are saying Ceri.
I did recently notice strong Valentine aspects in a couple of charts of people who wanted to leave their partner, but felt like they couldn't - But my research is very limited.
This is more an observation of what the word "Valentine" conjures up at this present time - Most think of "Valentines Day". Some see this as a day to celebrate Love in all its forms and embrace it, others celebrate it halfheartedly because they feel like they should - and I also know those who choose not to celebrate it because they see it as a "fake romance day".

I just wanted to explore some of these sides of the word Valentine and see what positive lessons it can teach us.

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Dear Bright
I get some flak because I got out on limbs with new topics. However, Astrology is an ever evolving science. One can put several old ideas together to come up with new ones. This is the way for any exploration of anything.
Things are not static such as we have to do it the way it was always done. Asteroids are an even more fertile ground as they are in the discovery stage. Explore on, Friend. I, for one, am waiting for more insights from you

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posted April 04, 2012 08:51 AM            

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Originally posted by BrightStar23:
I just wanted to explore some of these sides of the word Valentine and see what positive lessons it can teach us.

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That`s a good approach.
I did not want to judge or belittle you in any way. Just adding my thought that I had not oberved it in the way of "duty-bound-love".

But as Ami said, much more exploration is needed. And I am also awaiting your future essays/ thoughts/Ideas.

posted April 04, 2012 02:53 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i had one sided valentine in synastry, my valentine trined her venus,sun,moon,and mercury, i was hopelessy in love with her and was willing to do anything to be with her,but she saw me as expendable,when valentine is one sided it sucks

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Fascinating Aquaguy. Thanks so much for sharing. I am sorry you went through that though!

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posted April 04, 2012 03:14 PM            

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Originally posted by BrightStar23:
I just saw this Aqua guy!- I know the feeling- Character building though right

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posted April 04, 2012 03:36 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yes it was,if i had the chance to go back in time i would do it all again

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Me too. I grew so much because of it.

posted April 05, 2012 11:14 AM            

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Originally posted by BrightStar23:


Valentine shows us in our chart where we easily and selflessly give love to another person- Which is a wonderful essential thing!! However in order for the positive attributes of Valentine to be present in our lives. We must also give that same unconditional love - to ourselves.

Happy Love People!

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I absolutely, 100% agree. You have to love yourself before you love anybody else, or you will be incapable of real love. Every Valentine's Day I've been single, I buy myself flowers. It's great to be loved. It's great to love yourself. It's not always easy . . . and boy, do I know that.

My Valentine is conjunct my Asc in Aquarius. You would think this means I am willing to . . . what exactly? Openly embrace love and show it off to the world? I try, but I don't know if I'm getting it exactly. Any suggestions?

posted April 05, 2012 01:30 PM            

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posted April 05, 2012 10:36 PM            

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Originally posted by inthemisosoup:
I absolutely, 100% agree. You have to love yourself before you love anybody else, or you will be incapable of real love. Every Valentine's Day I've been single, I buy myself flowers. It's great to be loved. It's great to love yourself. It's not always easy . . . and boy, do I know that.

My Valentine is conjunct my Asc in Aquarius. You would think this means I am willing to . . . what exactly? Openly embrace love and show it off to the world? I try, but I don't know if I'm getting it exactly. Any suggestions?

Thanks for your article.

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You are so welcome!

posted April 09, 2012 08:29 AM            

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posted April 09, 2012 08:30 AM            

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Originally posted by girl27:
can anybody shed some light on the aspect valentine opposite ascendant? what is the meaning of that?

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Is it conjunct the DSC. How close?

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