posted December 12, 2014 04:42 PM            

We might provide more knowledgeable guidance in the instance where no relationship exists between the two in question, but the querent is obsessively attached to the individual / love object. If the natal indicates a tendency to love addiction, we may be able to rate these case studies a bit lower in regards to research into soulmate astrology.

I'd like to target those charts which are clearly a result of karma or destiny bringing the two together, rather than pathology.

An excellent example is Ceridwen's chart. Since when have you heard of an AQUARIUS MOON getting obsessive? SAG SUN might, with the right configurations, but with a lunar Aquarian influence, it tends towards the opposite: avoidance and distance.

Or, take gals like me. SCO MOON, but URA 1º conjunct. I can find myself obsessive in the face of destiny, and called by karma. But I've never experienced 'withdrawal' from a relationship. I've experienced the pain of rejection; the despair of loss -- even if I was the one to leave. It was self-limiting, and I kicked myself for being foolish.

Love addicts, on the other hand, have a chemical need for fulfillment of certain behaviours and experiences. They long for the dance of infatuation; the ones blaring Gaga's 'Bad Romance' and, akin to Taylor's megahit, they've got the blank space in which they'll write your name.

I'm curious, how many lovelorn are actually addicted, who cannot see beyond the haze of their own brain chemistry, which is potentially feeding them to the wolves time and again. A legitimate high being sought, each infatuation. Each crush. Each (abusive) relationship. Each instance of casual sex, where the inevitable walk of shame does nothing to prohibit future behaviour. Like any addiction, the love addict is caught in a destructive cycle. They lack self-esteem, or a true estimation of their worth. Their history tends to feature betrayal and abuse. They long for love with a desperation that it infuses every other waking moment.

Perhaps we could find NEPTUNE. PLUTO. Configurations of MOON and VENUS. Certain asteroids: APHRODITE, BACCHUS, DIONYSUS. Afflicted DSC and 7R. A troubled 8H and 5H.

If we could find what drives them to have a 'bad romance', we might serve them better as astrologers and counselors, friends and guides. And, we could strengthen the research into karma, Twin Flames, and soulmate relationships, as we could 'control' for love addiction, as they say; it wouldn't 'confound' the data. We could know when it's karma that's driving two together, to have an intense, powerful, transformative experience -- and not just dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin.

posted December 12, 2014 06:08 PM            

The major drawback to simply relying on the charts to tell whether someone is a love addict or not is that it would be way too fatalistic. One would have to ask questions to the person to have an idea of past Pattern in his/her relationship. Questions whose answers would somehow indicate whether this is a wow event, not so like what the person used to be or if s/he had already been victim of his/her own addiction.
And could someone trigger those psychological need/pattern? (thus using synastry?)
I think overall it would require absolute honesty from the person.