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posted November 14, 2006 11:46 PM         

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What do you do when you are so sad and hurt about a situation but decisions have already been made and there is nothing you can do about it?

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posted November 15, 2006 07:57 AM         

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There are two wonderful books by the buddhist Pema Chodron "The Wisdom of No Escape" and "When Things Fall Apart". It got me through the most difficult times in my life. And still does...

In a very kind and gentle way she makes you understand that " we can endure a lot of pain and pleasure for the sake of finding out who we are..."

Love and Hugs to you. I hope you feel better soon.

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posted November 15, 2006 09:25 AM         

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All I can offer is

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posted November 15, 2006 06:21 PM         

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posted November 16, 2006 11:16 AM         

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What about if you *know* the decision made was wrong, but an upper hand has already put their foot down, so there is nothing you can do about it?

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posted November 16, 2006 12:34 PM         

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Nephthys..ask God..for the answer..you will work this through..have faith..Love and Light..

then a Magic answer

time passes..and things change and alter..project LOve into the heart of the situation..til things one day are clear!

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posted November 17, 2006 09:48 AM         

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Peace to you, Nephthys

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posted November 17, 2006 04:36 PM         

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I think it's important to grieve. Studies suggest that after a great loss or hard time, the people that recover the fastest are the ones who grieve. Try as you might to not think about this situation, you will end up mulling over it in your head, over and over, in a very tormenting fashion. But that's ok. It's part of the healing process to try and make sense out of things.

Try writing in a journal where you talk about the event, how it made you feel, what it means about you as a person, why you think it happened, how it will affect your life in the future and the decisions you make.

Set some time each day to think about the event and how it hurt you. Try and make this your special alone time to grieve over this event. It's ok to feel sad, it's normal to feel sad, and the tincture of time shall heal you.

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posted November 17, 2006 10:12 PM         

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Thanks, People. I am feeling a little better about the situation.

I have come to the conclusion in life that not everything happens for a reason, not everything that happens, is the correct choice.

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posted November 17, 2006 10:18 PM         

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do you speak of tricksters?

Have Faith..you can make and will make the right choice for you and all. ...

No one can decide for you. ...Only U

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