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Topic: PMS-impulsive reactions
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Kat
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posted November 08, 2008 10:56 AM
 
I'm generally very level headed, but occasionally I have quick impulsive reactions to a situation and say something that can be very damaging. I've realized it is ALWAYS just before or during my cycle. One day just a day before my cycle I got upset at someone I was dating - very minor - and walked out. that was the end of the relationship. One day just a day before my cycle I said something that upset a friend of mine. Just yesterday at the end of my cycle. A boss (big boss) mentioned how a client is changing my art and I said "I'M NOT DOING IT!" He got upset and said then He'll find someone who will and walked off. He slammed his door behind him. My boss had a talk with me. I admit I'm a bit cranky but this is really bad.Frankly my job is as a designer and not an illustrator. the big boss discovered that I could illustrate and told me to make a series of art for this project. I never volunteered and never would have because this client is notorious at changing things. I paint for myself not as a profession and I felt put in the spotlight to produce - I knew the client would change things and my Menstral reaction was "NO!!!!" I realize afterward that this "hormonal" impulsiveness was going on. So here is my question. I realize I need to advoid people during this time because I don't know what impulsive emotional reactions will come out. the rest of the month I can control them, but not during PMS. I think since I hit 38 I'm a little nuts! and it keeps getting worse. Exercise has been a help but now I realize I need to watch this because I can mess up my job and now I think my reputation is damaged. What kinds of things can I do to take off the wired feeling I get during PMS? I'm debating whether I need to get some sort of antidepressant, but whay take it when it's needed only half the time? IP: Logged |
bunnies
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From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 08, 2008 11:28 AM
Dong Quai or Agnus Castus (probably the latter) but I also think St Johns wort is a fab supplement.Having said that perhaps people need putting in their place when they expect too much! IP: Logged |
ellabelle97
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posted November 09, 2008 02:46 PM
I have the same problem! I freak out over the littlest things and it messes with my personal relationships about a week before my cycle. I drink a tea with honey that helps balance out my horomones. I forget what it is called, but if you go to a natural health food store, there should be a section, or it will be labeled on the box if you want to try it.IP: Logged |
GemLover
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posted November 10, 2008 02:47 AM
Yeah I can tend to get more impulsive like that when I'm PMSing. It's not good. Just try something to balance your hormones like the suggestions above... also maybe cut down refined carbohydrates and caffeine at that time of the month?IP: Logged |
SunChild
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posted November 10, 2008 04:27 AM
I had the same problem years ago (there's an old thread of mine where I thought my pms had ruined my life), until I understood the true meaning of equanimity. Since then I have been able to remain level... even during the most heart pounding moments. Equanimity is where it's at. Equanimitous thoughts have a way of balancing hormones. Not vice versa.  IP: Logged |
Kat
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posted November 11, 2008 07:58 PM
When I was in my twenties even thirties no problem!! I couldn't understand why some women couldn't control their behavior. But since I hit my forties the PMS hits really hard! Many of my friends say the same thing. I understand the the idea of Equanimitous thoughts but.............. (just wait!)I'll try the tea I think it's called PMS tea. St John's Wort is also a possibility. I do not use caffeine, but I think cutting the carbs are a a good suggestion. that's my biggest problem. Yes some people do ask alot from me, but I think there are more tactful ways of putting them in their place especially since some ways can get you fired. I really do a good job at work and I know this will be overlooked but still feel that it has tarnished me and I want to prevent similar circumstances from happening in the future. Thanks all IP: Logged |
vansio
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posted February 11, 2021 12:21 PM
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Stawr
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posted March 07, 2021 08:26 AM
I got a lot of wedding planning done while pmsing. IP: Logged |
Pathseeker
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posted March 07, 2021 02:11 PM
Hello,I have a friend does does retail security and he has sensed a correlation with women who shoplift with their menstrual cycle.
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Snake Lady
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posted March 18, 2021 04:33 PM
Generally, I've noticed that during PMS, I feel less of a filter between what I want and my ability to choose it. The hormonal changes incite a change in consciousness and a focus more on what we feel is essential. We are less open to outside input due to internal overstimulation. There is less mental activity, so we rely more on our feelings. For me, and I suspect this is the case for women in general, if I find that I'm aggressive during that period of time, it means that I've been in a situation where I'm regularly compromising on some of my core values and I haven't been communicating my needs and drawing boundaries. I find that when I'm aware of my needs and feel that I have a right to meet them, I am not aggressive during PMS, but more decisive. If you want to try this, you might want to write down the things you got upset about and what need you think was behind it. Do this with no filter and try to get down to the essence of it. I've found that just acknowledging consciously to yourself that you have a specific need and you have a right to meet your needs can calm me down. EDIT: just realized this post was from 2008! Well, hopefully other women with similar experiences are getting the answers they need. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted March 21, 2021 10:49 PM
Very well said Snakelady. I agree!IP: Logged |
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