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posted November 13, 2009 02:59 PM         

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he is not going very well;

he's lost 10kg

he's 82

i feel bad. a new age woman told me to start calling him grand dad. he's the second husband of my grand ma but i've only known him since my grand dad died before i was born. she had never seen him but she told me this summer to start getting closer, and i got scared to call him granpa. i've always called him by his first name but he's been my granpa since i was born. i feel so guilty

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posted November 13, 2009 03:06 PM         

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I'm really sorry about your grandpa, pire.
But please don't be so hard on yourself.
I am sure that the love you share with him is not dependent on what you call him. If it was that important to him for you to call him "grandpa", he would have told you years ago.
If he needs you now, you should try and be with him.

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posted November 13, 2009 06:09 PM         

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dont feel guilty Pire. just show him your Love now. And tell him how you feel about him.

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posted November 13, 2009 11:20 PM         

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I agree with the others ~ just tell him now. You seem so genuinely sweet, I can't imagine that he would have taken offense, and not mentioned it. I'm sure it will mean as much to him now.

By the way: Four years ago, a psychic/tarot reader, told my Aunt that Thanksgiving 2005 might be my grandmother's last. She couldn't say for sure, she just couldn't see anything for her past that point. Both my Aunt and my grandmother came to visit us in Ohio (from California) in July 2006, and she's still alive today. I hope you have more time with your grandpa.

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posted November 20, 2009 12:02 AM         

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you can CALL him whatever you have always called him. you can also TELL him that you hope he knows he is your granpa whatever you call him....is he nearby where you can spend time with him? it doesn't matter if he is conscious even. tell him how you feel. YOU will feel better for it. you will know he knows, though i am pretty sure when he's gone he will know anyway and probably does already. in fact even if you are too far to spend time by his bedside, you can tell him from wherever you are...but for you it will mean more if you are there and know he "heard"...

my exhusband and his father have always been called by their first names by all the kids and grandkids! everyone else has a mum or dad or grandsomething but they for some reason just have their names....nothing wrong with it!!

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posted November 20, 2009 04:04 PM         

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Just show him you care.
Hugs to you!

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posted November 21, 2009 12:02 PM         

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thank you for your insights and concern.

thank you.

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