posted December 13, 2012 10:51 PM            

Casanova was perhaps the most successful seducer in history; few women could resist him. His method was simple: on meeting a woman, he would study her, go along with her moods, find out what was missing in her life, and provide it. He made himself the Ideal Lover. The bored burgomaster’s wife needed adventure and romance; she wanted someone who would sacrifice time and comfort to have her. For Miss Pauline what was missing was friendship, lofty ideals, serious conversation; she wanted a man of breeding and generosity who would treat her like a lady. For Ignazia, what was missing was suffering and torment. Her life was too easy; to feel truly alive, and to have something real to confess, she needed to sin. In each case Casanova adapted himself to the woman’s ideals, brought her fantasy to life. Once she had fallen under his spell, a little ruse or calculation would seal the romance (a day among rats, a contrived fall from a horse, an encounter with another woman to make Ignazia jealous).

The Ideal Lover is rare in the modern world, for the role takes effort. You will have to focus intensely on the other person, fathom what she is missing, what he is disappointed by. People will often reveal this in subtle ways: through a gesture, tone of voice, a look in the eye. By seeming to be what they lack, you will fit their ideal.

To create this effect requires patience and attention to detail. Most people are so wrapped up in their own desires, so impatient, they are incapable of the Ideal Lover role. Let that be a source of infinite opportunity. Be an oasis in the desert of the self-absorbed; few can resist the temptation of following a person who seems so attuned to their desires, to bringing to life their fantasies. And as with Casanova, your reputation as one who gives such pleasure will precede you and make your seductions that much easier.

The cultivation of the pleasures of the senses was ever my principal aim in life. Knowing that I was personally calculated to please the fair sex, I always strove to make myself agreeable to it. — Casanova

posted December 14, 2012 02:18 AM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
You are far too good at this game~

That is above all others - my favourite piece of love poetry~ despite Byron's urmnnn sensitive subject of infatuation~

Color me impressed ~ lol

Romance era fashion, and arts are my weakness...
^*; strange, considering my views on Venusian themes are usually more tragic ~

Btw - that Casanova quote was sooooo fitting too - /shudder

U scare me sometimes, Sand ~ ><

Next, I suppose you'll be using Faust [opera] against me--- lol

If u guessed my favourite scene...

That ... Would... Be so Freaky! ><

I'd ask where you became so inspired to learn about these characters and their art... But, the answet is clear already! Lmao

You've gotten me to cheer up today~

I'll owe u one
Later,,,,, hehe

<----- out & about >< hard to type lol

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You mean billowing shirts and horse back riding turns you on? Sag Venus for the horseback lol!

I scare you? Y?

No no Faustian guesses from me.. Just cassanova and Byron..

..and what would that answer be?

posted December 14, 2012 03:02 AM            

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~ Les Liaisons Dangereuses
-------- so u do have a bit of a dark side?~
just when i thought all u cared for was sweet-as-pie love stories~ hmmmmnn ~hasbeenunfair~ sarry~

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It is my favorite type of chase.

posted December 14, 2012 03:21 AM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
good to hear!!! ^^ AG

stays in the system for a few weeks tho - make sure you keep up with fluids and take some vitamin c!!~ k!

<--- it's the mother/nurse in me... >.<; sorry

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posted December 14, 2012 03:46 AM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
i make a damn fine naughty nurse ---- i'll have you know!!! haha

but yes I'm a mother -- believe it or not...

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posted December 14, 2012 07:55 AM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
figures~

You're enough to make a saint go mad....

Put ur devil away - I won't have anything to do with that~

lesson learned~

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What? I am not trying to do a valmont on ya! if I was would I rly tell u? Rly???

posted December 14, 2012 08:36 AM            

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although... I refuse to compete. It's simply not my thing. Narcissistic - no... but proud... though I have little.~

I know better... you can't play a player~ *shakes head*
I'm older than you still...

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posted December 14, 2012 08:38 AM            

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and one more thing --- since I have some of your attention for the moment ---->

how come all of your topics and I do mean like 95% of them --- always end up inciting some kind of debate~ you are aware of this, no doubt.... I think it's your darkside, and your Scorpio side... but, if you want to play coy~ <3

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So now I have add?