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Topic: When a friend is deliberately rude to you....
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Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted November 26, 2013 09:29 AM
  
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posted November 26, 2013 09:52 AM
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charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
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posted November 26, 2013 10:01 AM
How long have you been friends? Is this the first time?It's hard to say not knowing the history and all that. I've had those reactions too where they insult you again after you express how they hurt you. Some are stubborn and blind because they're still in the heat of the moment and all they focus on is themselves without realizing how their words hurt you. Give it a day or so to see if she/ he does a turn around. Cooling off can help one think clearly. Hope that helped a bit.  ------------------
"DON'T EVER try and destroy someone's life with a LIE.....when yours can be destroyed with the TRUTH...."
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 26, 2013 10:01 AM
Shooting Rubberbands at the Stars...In the Immortal Words of John Wayne: "Don't let the b*****ds get you down..." I feel for you. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
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posted November 26, 2013 10:10 AM
Why, that depends on you, Faith! Everyone has their own personal boundaries...idk how severe the insult was or whatever, but like, I've been mean to friends and friends have been mean to me too, but it wasn't the end of everything right there.Eh, hope you can figure things out!!!! IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted November 26, 2013 10:33 AM
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charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 26, 2013 10:42 AM
Hoping that your friend will apologize. You also need to set this person straight and let them know that you will not tolerate them disrespecting you in any way.If it persists, move on. Your posts show you are deeply troubled by this so now it's time for you to set your boundries. ------------------
"DON'T EVER try and destroy someone's life with a LIE.....when yours can be destroyed with the TRUTH...."
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Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted November 26, 2013 12:29 PM
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 26, 2013 12:35 PM
Now, Buckingham and Nicks did get back again, and just look what SHE went through...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ud2XKt2N8fs
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teasel
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posted November 26, 2013 01:47 PM
This has happened to me this year, and it did mean the end of the friendship. It was a huge surprise, and incredibly hurtful. We've spoken a few times, remaining civil, but she treats me like a stranger now, so I'd rather not speak to her at all. The irony is that she was going on and on about how she was so grateful to have her friends, as she made huge changes in her life - how she felt so loved, and she couldn't get through it without them. I miss her, until I'm treated like she doesn't know me.
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Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted November 26, 2013 07:14 PM
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meissieri
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From: Neptune with Faith, Bella, Muddy and Doux. Commuting between that and Chiron.
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted November 27, 2013 10:39 AM
Ugh, Faith, that's awful. Fights with friends are the worst, especially when you don't see it coming like you said. Is she going through a rough time? If so, she may need some slack, it tends to make you say things you don't mean. But... Maybe you should take a short break from her, like, stay away and not talk to her for a week or so. To give yourself some time to think about what happened, how much she means to you. Let things sink in - you could find out how you really feel this way. Do as much iching as you need, talk here, look for signs around you. At the very least, you send out that you're not okay with what she said. Words hurt and to get another insult right back is not a nice feeling. It feels like you don't want to forgive her right away, do you? I often put up with too much from my friends, though, so I don't know how good my advice will be. If only we could just hug and make up all the time, right? *sigh* Keep us updated with what you're going to do. *hug* One for teasel too. As for songs, Fallen by Sarah McLachlan especially - last verse talks about it. For shows, if you can handle detective ones, the episodes "The Sleepover" and "Stand Up And Holler" from Cold Case deal with friendship issues. The Sleepover even uses that song, Circle, for their ending! IP: Logged |
Faith
Knowflake Posts: 21731
From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted November 27, 2013 04:25 PM
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meissieri
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From: Neptune with Faith, Bella, Muddy and Doux. Commuting between that and Chiron.
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted November 29, 2013 05:44 PM
^ WelcomeOh yes, the Cancer and Taurus really put their stamp onto it. Can't stick to the Capricorn on its own. And of course you're very maternal and just love to be with anyone dear to you. Haha, oh, sometimes... it's easy to go too far into that thinking, like they need us more than they realize. We really take any responsibility seriously and will see it through until the end. No matter how we get there. Yeah, I think that's a normal thing to worry about. When you care about someone, everything gets muddled. Bleh. Does everything have to be so confusing all the time?  But no, I don't think it's too sensitive. It's still a remark that she could've kept to herself, you know? Being sensitive can be a good thing, helping you to set boundaries like now with her being so rude. Gah. But that is awful, not being able to sleep on it. Then maybe you do make the right choice by doing things gracefully. If it's too hard to really fight it out. Which is totally fine. Don't rush yourself to make a choice... giving it time can be good. Yess she's amazing. I love her voice. <3 IP: Logged |
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