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sativa
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posted August 20, 2012 05:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sativa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Cancer Sun/ Sag Moon/ Aries Ascendant conjunct Aries Mars. I feel like my anger is out of control all of the time and I'm wondering if any of you with strong Aries in your charts ever feel this way. I explode over the smallest things. And it happens in an instant.. Later (within 30 minutes usually) I feel like an idiot. I'm completely embarrassed for taking it so far. But it's as if I'm posessed. I raise my voice, I get in people's faces, I dominate, and I always win the fight. But it's not satisfying in the long run because afterwards I feel like a bully and a fool. I feel very powerful and confident when I'm mad, but my anger pretty much strains any relationship I ever have. I can be voilent, irrational, scary to be around. My family walks on egg shells around me. Actually, I feel like anyone who has seen me get mad avoids ever seeing it again. Can any of you relate? I don't want to be like this.. I can't see how anyone could ever put up with someone like me forever.

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Ami Anne
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posted August 20, 2012 07:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting Sativa
I can see how Aries mars conjunct the ASC may have the effect you describe. I can't speak to it, personally, as I have the opposite problem.
I need to explode more

However, tell me about your Moon. What is the sign and what are the aspects? One needs to build up alternative muscles when one has a chart factor that you describe imo
Certain chart factors are not going to change. That is what I have found in my work with the charts and people. You have to work around them

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sativa
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posted August 20, 2012 12:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sativa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That you for replying! My Moon is in Sagittarius. I don't know what aspects you're asking for, but it opposes my Venus in Gemini if that's an aspect. My 9th house is in Sagittarius too, if that helps.

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AscTaurus
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posted August 21, 2012 08:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aries external approach is hardly ever compliant. So, I guess you'll just have to find a way to make your Areis /Mars conjunction work for you. Try sports.


Also, with your Sun in Cancer, you could feel like your feelings are "exposed". You Mars ascenndant could be a defense you use to prevent people from messing with ya.

To know what energy you want to dominate, ask yourself: if I were to die today, would I like to be remebered as a wonderful, caring individual who loved his family? Or The guy who took home 5 olympic medals and set the world record for the men's 800m?

The answer should give you an indication as to where you you harness that energy? On your family? Or on your achievements?

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Ami Anne
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posted August 21, 2012 08:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by sativa:
That you for replying! My Moon is in Sagittarius. I don't know what aspects you're asking for, but it opposes my Venus in Gemini if that's an aspect. My 9th house is in Sagittarius too, if that helps.

Yes, Saggi Moon can be kind of easy going as it is mutable. This will help. The opposition to Venus may make you afraid to love. Is this true?

Venus in Gemini is mutable/easy going. These 2 placements will help your anger. I am very mutable and it is a blessing as you can let things go, pretty well.

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Hera
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posted August 21, 2012 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was a bit like that when I was young. I've got an Aries stellium of Sun-Mercury-Mars. I learned to control it over the years, now I am sorry I did lol. I feel fake when I do, it is not my real nature. I am glad in a way I don't make scenes anymore, but suppressing anger is not the answer, either.

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hannaramaa
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posted August 26, 2012 05:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm an Aries sun, Mercury in Aries, Venus in Aries, Mars in Gemini which sextile Venus and conjunct my Gemini ASC.

You think you're bad? I'm pretty sure my B-vitamin deficiency plus having the Aries stellium in my 11th (which may be a saving grace actually, but I'll get to that in a sec) plus Moon opp. Pluto plus Mars conj. ASC equals one IRRITABLE person.

My family also complains of walking on eggshells around me. But my mom is an Aries with Taurus rising and Libra moon, and we walk (or did) on eggshells with her too.

I have a scary, nasty temper but I have no choice but to keep it under control. My value in friendships and relationships helps me do that. It doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion when I'm mad, I just had to challenge myself to do it in a more constructive way. It's good that you recognize your foolishness because there's a lot of Aries (and people in general) out there who don't and they stay unevolved their whole lives. I'm sure it's also a lot harder to control having Aries ASC!

Ironically, I don't like being around other fire signs for the long-term. I need people who intuit my needs and thus I'm surrounded by water sign friends (without seeking them out!). Fire and fire go well together if something needs to get done and you need that person who "gets" you for a short period, but long-term...not so much. Being around calm people might help you learn to be calm yourself and to solve your problems differently. As an Aries I think you'll enjoy the difference

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