posted June 20, 2014 09:37 AM            

The first time it happened with of course a different person, we planned it.. I almost moved across the country. We waited about a month, at least. Til I snooped through their cell phone and realized it was a mistake. I moved back across the country and never said a thing or looked back again.

With this second person, I proposed to after about 2 months.. We had gotten into a bit of a dispute so I moved out and we weren't living together by that time.

Just the other day though, I text and they're m.i.a. and so I drive by the house and sure enough, from the hours of 10-2 they were gone without their phone and they only told me they had a "work emergency" because they saw my car as they were pulling in at 2am.

We texted the next day. I asked why didn't I hear from them. I was receiving seriously defensive reactions and we haven't talked since. I'm wondering if just like the other relationship, is this one over and I'd never look back again?

It's been two days. I have 3 dates set up already for this week and I feel a lot happier and better about myself.

Both composites had sun uranus conjunctions.

Ironically, with the second person, we had absolutely no harsh aspects at all in the chart. Not even in synastry.

Yet, I think their nodal placements don't help.. Something about a Sagittarius south node just does not like to talk or listen and they always think they're right and want to have the last word on everything.

posted June 20, 2014 06:25 PM            

I have URA conjunct SUN in one composite, and heavily aspecting in others. I've not experienced the sort of ... whatever that is you're describing. Deception? Impulsivity?

Perhaps you have an afflicted NEPTUNE?

In either case, it seems you're seeking the wrong sort of partner. Have you reflected upon why you're attracted to the type that you are? No one deserves to be with lying, dangerous, or generally deceptive people. First getting a better handle on what I can't help but notice is high impulsivity should help you be more selective in your lovers, and have better relationships.

posted June 20, 2014 06:33 PM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
I snooped through their cell phone and realized it was a mistake. I moved back across the country and never said a thing or looked back again ...

... (I snooped through their phone)

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That. It seems you also have a pattern that involves violating the privacy of your lovers. That's a red flag signal that you don't trust them. Since this has happened more than once, I really must urge you to be better to yourself and not get involved with anyone you don't trust.

Impulsivity involving unsafe sex has me wincing, too. I understand that many people ditch the prophylaxis when they're in a committed relationship, but you're having to go through their communications you're so suspicious of infidelity. That's NOT the sort of circumstances in which you should be practising unsafe sex.

posted June 21, 2014 01:49 PM            

Yea I moved in with him from the second date or so... verry heavy relationship and although I finally married him (so he could stay in our country) I was NOT ready to commit myself... much drama between us.. much much distrust from my side (yea: you only married me because of that residence permit!! etc.)

Only after our divorce.. I discovered how much he loved me .. truly. He did everything to get me back.. anything in his power.
But I was gone... NOT ready.

He finally married someone of his own culture.. and I'm STILL Always welcome with them...

Yea this was the REAL thing.. (is what I can say now).

posted June 21, 2014 06:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
Indigo,

Please, Stop judging other people. Its annoying.

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posted June 21, 2014 06:46 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Orange, please refrain from being antagonistic. It's unattractive.

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posted June 21, 2014 06:47 PM            

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Originally posted by mir:
Well, I didn't snoop through his cell Phone (technology had not reached that point back then / '89) but I snooped through everything I could find lol, from jackets to cupboards and bread boxes.. name it.

Yea I moved in with him from the second date or so... verry heavy relationship and although I finally married him (so he could stay in our country) I was NOT ready to commit myself... much drama between us.. much much distrust from my side (yea: you only married me because of that residence permit!! etc.)

Only after our divorce.. I discovered how much he loved me .. truly. He did everything to get me back.. anything in his power.
But I was gone... NOT ready.

He finally married someone of his own culture.. and I'm STILL Always welcome with them...

Yea this was the REAL thing.. (is what I can say now).

We had an EXACT Sun/Uranus conjunction in our Composite.

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See? There you go. When you act impulsively (as we can certainly see from a URANUS-SUN in composite) it's going to be there. But feeling the need to 'check up' on a lover AFTER we've made a commitment to them shows that we're NOT secure in that commitment.

posted June 21, 2014 06:49 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:

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It's like ... don't walk into a room with bologna on your head, and then say, 'I don't understand why everyone's always asking me to make sandwiches.'

posted June 21, 2014 07:12 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
It's like ... don't walk into a room with bologna on your head, and then say, 'I don't understand why everyone's always asking me to make sandwiches.'

When the Emperor's naked ... eh, you know the rest.

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You really needed to elaborate, huh?

posted June 22, 2014 06:44 AM            

I think when we enter fast and impulsively into relationships, the trust cannot be there, because trust requires time to be built and this is instinctual too. You can't trust people you just met. The hell, sometimes you can't trust people you've known for years That's why, personally, I see no reason in entering into love relationship impulsively (I mean a real relationship)...I call those affairs, and when I do it, I consider them affairs. Only excitement and danger and the unknown are stimulating in these cases, but trust? Really? Who can expect trust in such a case? Snooping in the other's things is futile, you can't possibly find out everything about the life of someone you know so little. And expecting sudden trust and commitment in such cases makes no sense. As it starts, so it ends, IMO.

On the other hand, if the other entered into an impulsive relationship with you, you bet he's doing the same with other people. I always try to see how someone treats other people, I know he'll do the same with me one day, no exceptions here.

posted June 23, 2014 09:09 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Forgive my pointing out the obvious, but do you have impulsivity strong in your natal?

I have URA conjunct SUN in one composite, and heavily aspecting in others. I've not experienced the sort of ... whatever that is you're describing. Deception? Impulsivity?

Perhaps you have an afflicted NEPTUNE?

In either case, it seems you're seeking the wrong sort of partner. Have you reflected upon why you're attracted to the type that you are? No one deserves to be with lying, dangerous, or generally deceptive people. First getting a better handle on what I can't help but notice is high impulsivity should help you be more selective in your lovers, and have better relationships.

I realise this is going outside of the intended question, but I have concern for an issue which I'm not sure is being addressed.

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I have a grand cardinal cross involving Mars in Aries.. Neptune in Cap is involved.

posted June 23, 2014 09:14 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
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That. It seems you also have a pattern that involves violating the privacy of your lovers. That's a red flag signal that you don't trust them. Since this has happened more than once, I really must urge you to be better to yourself and not get involved with anyone you don't trust.

Impulsivity involving unsafe sex has me wincing, too. I understand that many people ditch the prophylaxis when they're in a committed relationship, but you're having to go through their communications you're so suspicious of infidelity. That's NOT the sort of circumstances in which you should be practising unsafe sex.

Okay. I'm off my soapbox; I promise. It's just the Linda Land is a community of caring. I feel it's important we speak up when we have concerns for each other.

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posted June 23, 2014 09:16 PM            

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Originally posted by mir:
Well, I didn't snoop through his cell Phone (technology had not reached that point back then / '89) but I snooped through everything I could find lol, from jackets to cupboards and bread boxes.. name it.

Yea I moved in with him from the second date or so... verry heavy relationship and although I finally married him (so he could stay in our country) I was NOT ready to commit myself... much drama between us.. much much distrust from my side (yea: you only married me because of that residence permit!! etc.)

Only after our divorce.. I discovered how much he loved me .. truly. He did everything to get me back.. anything in his power.
But I was gone... NOT ready.

He finally married someone of his own culture.. and I'm STILL Always welcome with them...

Yea this was the REAL thing.. (is what I can say now).

We had an EXACT Sun/Uranus conjunction in our Composite.

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If they did everything they could to get me back, I'd believe it. But I haven't heard a peep.

posted June 24, 2014 01:29 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Apart from the impulsiveness, Sun/Uranus is also a sign for: long distance relationships, relationships between people with different ethnic/cultural/national background, surprising couples etc.

I think when we enter fast and impulsively into relationships, the trust cannot be there, because trust requires time to be built and this is instinctual too. You can't trust people you just met. The hell, sometimes you can't trust people you've known for years That's why, personally, I see no reason in entering into love relationship impulsively (I mean a real relationship)...I call those affairs, and when I do it, I consider them affairs. Only excitement and danger and the unknown are stimulating in these cases, but trust? Really? Who can expect trust in such a case? Snooping in the other's things is futile, you can't possibly find out everything about the life of someone you know so little. And expecting sudden trust and commitment in such cases makes no sense. As it starts, so it ends, IMO.

On the other hand, if the other entered into an impulsive relationship with you, you bet he's doing the same with other people. I always try to see how someone treats other people, I know he'll do the same with me one day, no exceptions here.

So I have to agree the explanation doesn't lie in astrology here.

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posted June 24, 2014 01:31 AM            

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Sounds very familiar...

I now (25 years later) go, in about any progressed compo chart you can think of (davison/composite/helio), through a Sun/Uranus conjunction (opp. in helio) with a guy that has lived on the street for at least a year. He still smells like the street (it's not that long ago) and the smell is great, no, better; comforting, restful. Especially through the blasts of perfume. Ok, the aspects are nog exact yet with a few applying degrees, but I'll promise to keep you all well informed.. :budha:

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posted June 24, 2014 04:30 PM            

That becomes an interesting culmination in 2018 when we have, as well, all the progressed Westran biggies perfectly lined up in a KITE + an extra stand-alone Venus/Mars conj.

I see this as a perfect description of who we are. Not REALLY capable of commitment in the traditional sense of the word (as I am admitting our Uranian Nature now, it's better to take that "NOT READY" post of mine with a grain of salt).

Natally he has a Venus/Uranus conj. and a tight Venus/Uranus/Sun parallel in declinations.

This is what I have for the next couple of years also in the progressed declinations, a Venus/Uranus/Sun parallel.
And take with that my Aqua Geo/Helio mars in an eternal progressed trine to Uranus.

And btw, that progressed Venus/Mars conjunction of ours will take place in Aqua in 2018 (trine my Uranus). While the Kite in earth-signs and a Water Venus.

You know.. ALL comes down to (find) a BALANCE between Freedom and Commitment, when it comes to relationships. And to let it work, a consensus on that needs its potential, depending on natal, progressions or whatever.

Men don't line up easily with me. Why? because they want too much.. I never found balance in the freedom department. The sexual component is, namely, something that I don't want to share freely. It has to be reserved exclusively for one.

I found it interesting to read your point about him longing for the shooting tension. Ooow my.. it sounded like music to my ears.. so typical Aqua-Mars (is what I thought).. a true sexual commitment without feeling safe .. is terribly frightening (and ofcourse, not-feeling-safe only exists when you FEEL for the other). But even apart from the safe-factor .. Aqua-Mars has its "weird" or unconventional ways. A fact.

I have my Mars/NN in Aqua in the 6th.
My Leo Sun/SN in the 12th.

posted June 26, 2014 11:06 PM            

I copied a few phone numbers before when I snooped to the phone. In particular one individual who was being asked to come over to hang out at 12 am..

In those texts, said individual never said anything about seeing or being with someone..

So I downloaded the app today. It gives you a disposable number and pluto opposing my ascendant is very good at this.

I texted them and started a conversation eventually asking to get together.

They said they recently started seeing someone when I did....

So, I raised the stakes and sent random nudes I found from a random dating profile to which they replied "send me more". I asked them to send some in return and then, once again asked to get together this weekend.

My intentions are to capture the nudes, find out who they are, full name, and if I'm up for it, asking them to meet me up and then f*cking their living sh*t up.

Yet, a part of me also feels good in knowing that the person I shared a composite with won't get away with it without getting a taste of their own medicine.

If they are together, a few days in, the other one is already predisposed to cheating.

posted June 27, 2014 08:14 AM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
If anyone cares, there's an app called Hushed..

I copied a few phone numbers before when I snooped to the phone. In particular one individual who was being asked to come over to hang out at 12 am..

In those texts, said individual never said anything about seeing or being with someone..

So I downloaded the app today. It gives you a disposable number and pluto opposing my ascendant is very good at this.

I texted them and started a conversation eventually asking to get together.

They said they recently started seeing someone when I did....

So, I raised the stakes and sent random nudes I found from a random dating profile to which they replied "send me more". I asked them to send some in return and then, once again asked to get together this weekend.

My intentions are to capture the nudes, find out who they are, full name, and if I'm up for it, asking them to meet me up and then f*cking their living sh*t up.

Yet, a part of me also feels good in knowing that the person I shared a composite with won't get away with it without getting a taste of their own medicine.

If they are together, a few days in, the other one is already predisposed to cheating.

Serves them well.
I hope it stings and I hope it hurts them. Very, very bad.

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posted June 27, 2014 08:20 AM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
If anyone cares, there's an app called Hushed..

I copied a few phone numbers before when I snooped to the phone. In particular one individual who was being asked to come over to hang out at 12 am..

In those texts, said individual never said anything about seeing or being with someone..

So I downloaded the app today. It gives you a disposable number and pluto opposing my ascendant is very good at this.

I texted them and started a conversation eventually asking to get together.

They said they recently started seeing someone when I did....

So, I raised the stakes and sent random nudes I found from a random dating profile to which they replied "send me more". I asked them to send some in return and then, once again asked to get together this weekend.

My intentions are to capture the nudes, find out who they are, full name, and if I'm up for it, asking them to meet me up and then f*cking their living sh*t up.

Yet, a part of me also feels good in knowing that the person I shared a composite with won't get away with it without getting a taste of their own medicine.

If they are together, a few days in, the other one is already predisposed to cheating.

Serves them well.
I hope it stings and I hope it hurts them. Very, very bad.

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Wow, you scare me. I have Sun conjunct Uranus in Composite by 1 degree, and I have Pluto opposite ASC myself, but I've never experienced what you did.

posted June 28, 2014 11:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Tulipe:
Wow, you scare me. I have Sun conjunct Uranus in Composite by 1 degree, and I have Pluto opposite ASC myself, but I've never experienced what you did.

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I don't know what happened.. Both times it was in the composite, things were wonderful and moving forward at a speed that I like and satisfies my mars in Aries and then.. The first composite person was texting everyone our personal business and secrets we've shared. Telling me one thing and then somebody else something else.. I realized that because of their abusive childhood, they developed some sort of personality disorder and it was all about receiving sympathy and attention.. When confronted, they shut down, distanced themselves and in knowing they crossed a line, didn't make any effort to work anything out. I moved out, left, never looked back and we've never talked since.

posted June 28, 2014 11:13 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Are you trying to find a relationship or practicing for getting into MI6?

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Do they pay well?