posted June 23, 2014 12:55 PM            

Some say that squares are more challenging because they create friction and " internal" struggles/strifes within a relationship which is generally hard to solve while opposition are easier since the solution of "compromise" is possible.

On the other hand, some say that oppositions are harder because they signals "incompatible" energies where the lovers/partners can find themselves in an endless struggle of " pull and push". They say that Squares, as hard as they are, are what help a relationship grow, mature and thrives which is not the case for oppositions.

posted June 23, 2014 10:35 PM            

Opposites, though, are a totally different story for me. The energy is harder for me to handle because I have less of it in my chart. I notice it immediately, but I don't seem to be able to process it as well.

For example, my husband and I have his Mercury in Libra squaring my Mars in Cancer 2°. This causes 99% of our arguments, but we are able to head off many arguments because I can recognize and relate to the square energy so well and know how to handle it. A real world example of this might play out like this: We'll be casually discussing something and my watery Cancer Mars will be processing what's being discussed in an emotional feeling way, while he's processing it all with his airy Libra Mercury logic and reason. This creates a very "Spock vs Bones" dynamic. We usually avoid arguments from it, though, or at least, they end up being short and sweet, because I recognize what's going on and can handle the energy of the square since I'm so used to it natally.

It's a completely different story if someone has their Mercury opposite my Cancer Mars. My Cancer Mars will perceive their Cap Mercury as way too cold and unfeeling. They'll usually get condescending with me because I'm being emotional, and I'll react with a "well, at least I have emotions you heartless ******* " type dynamic. Way uglier arguments ensue. We'll end up arguing way longer and way louder and something hurtful will end up being said by one person or the other. It's much harder for me to deal with that opposition because I'm just so unused to the opp. energy. I'll get way more frustrated with them than I will a Libra Mercury or Aries Mercury that squares my Mars. So, I'm glad my husband and I have the square instead of the opposition. Handling the square just comes more naturally to me.

I believe if someone had more oppositions in their chart and little or no squares, then those examples would be reversed.

posted June 24, 2014 07:27 PM            

I do NOT have a single Opposition in my Chart. It's all conjunctions, mostly squares and Trines. so I'm very familiar wit how Squares work.

I have harsh squares to my Moon from Uranus and Neptune and I think those aspects are the main culprit why my romantic relationships never last or work for that matter.. Even though I dated guys who aspected my Moon nicely yet I was not happy, I did not feel safe.

Finally, I have settled down in a quite satisfying relationship with someone whose placements I never considered before.

In synastry his Uranus and Neptune form a lovely double trine to my Venus and my Pluto and Venus to his Moon.

My Moon falls in his 7th House, unaspected, which intensifies its impact and feels so comfortable for me. It's like there is no "pressure" on my usually claustrophobic Moon thus that feeling of ease and safety.

We also Mars conjunct Neptune ( he satisfies my fantasies), Sun Trine Venus and ASC conjunct DESC.