posted May 23, 2009 09:07 PM            

Anyway: In SYNASTRY - are there ANY positive experiences you have made (personally), when the other person's Neptune was squaring one of your personal planets - or vice versa? Who'd run the higher risk of being "misled"? The Neptune- or the other person?

posted May 23, 2009 10:58 PM            

I've been completely honest and 100% open with him and there are no communication issues so far. The aspect is indeed manifested spiritually since we often communicate about spiritual subjects.

But I did notice a possibly negative effect of Neptune in this case. His admiration is a bit too strong and I get the feeling he idealizes me to the point of obsession. As far as I can tell, he seems to perceive me in a way that's different from my actual persona and he seems to be focusing purely on the aspects that attract him. I noticed this tendency and that's precisely why I always try to expose myself to him as much as possible, and that includes negative aspects and traits that I know he wouldn’t appreciate. I'm trying to draw his attention to my actual personality.

posted May 24, 2009 04:25 AM            

So he has natal Mars Square Neptune, and his Neptune Square my Mars (and his Mars is Opposite my Mars).

Positive experience, yes, spiritual ones during shared pleasurable acts. (It took me a while to think of a suitable way of putting that).

posted May 31, 2009 09:29 AM            

The description on cafeastrology says " The important thing to remember, with the square and opposition, is that although the Sun person seems to want to see the best in a Neptune person, people are not able to completely snow themselves. The Sun person will eventually feel a certain level of mistrust, and might even swing from seeing the Neptune person as completely wonderful to seeing that person as someone who is completely evil. "

Now that is just scary! Especially seeing as I'm not doing anything to consciously deceive this person and I'm not encouarging the way he perceives me either. It sounds like the planet person initially forms a positive, even idealistic vision of Neptune based on specific traits they perceive and when Neptune fully exposes him/herself without filtering the traits he/she expresses (which is certainly my case), the planet person insists on perceiving Neptune in a subjective way. The planet person's perspective goes through a transformation even if Neptune doesn't actually change and as the planet owner goes through this inner monologue, he/she ends up seeing Neptune differently. And when he/she realizes that Neptune has a different nature, that's when the frustration begins. They may not realize that the only change is in their perception.

So in some cases, it may not be about outright deception, but maybe just a form of subjective perception on the other person's part, a mental monologue?

Have any of you experienced the outcome in that description? As the planet person specifically?

posted May 31, 2009 09:52 AM            

About neptune and venus I think that if you have a negative aspect you would need a positive one between those planets to balance the other. Like a DW
where A has nep opposition, or square B's venus
B has neptune trine or conjunct A's venus

posted July 02, 2014 01:47 PM            

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Originally posted by vesta:
I am not sure about neptune square venus,
However I have neptune opp my husband's sun and he idealizes me. However, I don't want to be idealized and this frustrates me. I tend to feel like a bad person or that I am deceiving him in some way.

About neptune and venus I think that if you have a negative aspect you would need a positive one between those planets to balance the other. Like a DW
where A has nep opposition, or square B's venus
B has neptune trine or conjunct A's venus

any thoughts on that theory?

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posted July 02, 2014 05:29 PM            

Me and my sweet boyfriend have been together for 1 year now, and we always have a nice time, never any problems. I think he idealize me a lot, and in his eyes I'm probably the princess, while in my eyes he is sure my angel, my knight on the white horse AND my savior. And thats just how it is.

We have sun square neptune in synastry, and this is our very strongest aspect. (it's like 0 degrees).

I'm aware of the fact that he doesn't see the true me, because of neptune constantly painting his glasses rose-red whenever he looks at me… he calls me beautiful everyday, he does everything to me, without I could ever give as much back.
But I tell him this every time. I feel completely myself around him, I don't hide anything from him. (Well except I'm into astrology lol).
But no matter what I do, I can't prevent neptune from deceiving him. You see what you want to see, until the day that you don't! And I can only wish for that day never to come, where he starts to believe that I'm "evil" and not as good as he thought.

BUT! There is always a BUT!!! If you also have saturn in your synastry with some heavy aspect, this could really make things complex. My theory is that with saturn also making an aspect in synastry with your personal planet, you are able to see the reality, yet the delusion at the same time.
We have sun-saturn double whammy in synastry, so my hope is that this will help him to see the true me, and the reality.

I have not heard him say anything that wasn't true about me so… maybe I'm just really lucky!

posted July 03, 2014 01:05 AM            

I think when it comes to Neptune aspects it matters less who's Neptune and who's the planet due to he nature of Neptune, shifting, illusion, deceptive, no boundaries. We both put each other on a pedestal and have been deceptive in stupid ways. However he is a Saturnian Pisces and my Neptune and Venus are conjunct Saturn. So I think even though I am grounded in reality, I can still let my idealism take hold and see my boyfriend in the best light. Like I know he is flawed but it doesn't matter, it's everything including his flaws that make him so perfect and lovable.