posted July 26, 2014 01:33 PM            

During that time, I had many opportunities to meet him, and I actually was canceling plans that I had to attend events that he would also be at just to avoid being introduced to him. I simply was NOT ready to actually talk to him and interact with him and I knew it. The attraction I had for him was too deep, too intense, and too hot for me to handle. I had to take a long time to get a grip on myself before I actually had a one-on-one conversation with him.

The other problem I had was the fact that we will be primarily interacting at charity events... fund raisers, community events, etc. So, when we are introduced for the first time, it will be in a social setting with lots of other eyes and ears around. It won't always be like that. There will be times when we will be able to interact privately, but that won't happen initially. When we are first introduced, it will be anything but private. That has me worried about being able to maintain my composure. I HAVE to and I KNOW it because I refuse to make a fool of myself in front of him because I admire and respect him too much for that.

I'm at the point now where I feel like I may be ready to actually talk to him without losing my senses, so this has my mind chewing on the whole idea of the First Meeting Chart. I've read some people say that it is hugely important, that the moment when two people actually lock eyes for the first time and actually meet each other face to face is such a crucial moment that the chart of that moment is extremely meaningful.

I've started trying to learn about Electional Astrology for important moments and events. I feel like it's a great gift to be able to plan a First Meeting and to have the chance to choose the best time for it to have a nice First Meeting Chart. I know some may think it's going overboard, but I figure why not plan the best time to meet. It can't hurt... It can only help.

The gist of it is that I can pretty much be introduced to him whenever I choose, but some times are definitely better than others. Due to the nature of his career, there are some times when he is way too busy and under way, way too much pressure to try to launch a relationship. There are other times when his load is lighter, though, and those would be better.

Another thing is that I'm not in a rush. I can meet him next month or next year, even longer if need be. He has been very personally involved with this charity for over 10 years and has said he plans on being very personally involved with it for the rest of his life. So, I'll have tons and tons of time to meet him and be around him. I'd rather make the right plans at the right time than rush things, so if a First Meeting Chart for the near term future is horrible, then I can wait till it isn't horrible. He isn't going anywhere and neither am I.

There are some Progessions coming up in our Progessed Charts that do look promising, but they seem to indicate that if anything serious takes off, it might not be for a few years anyway. I'd like to meet him before then, though, to at least enjoy a friendship and actually work together on fund raising events and spend time around him getting too know him better.

If the Progressed synastry aspects like pr. Venus conj. pr. Mars, pr. Venus conj. n.Venus, pr. Sun conj. pr. Moon, pr.Sun conj. n.Moon, etc. actually do trigger a romantic relationship, then us having gotten to know each other first will be all the better.

My problem is... Electional Astrology is a daunting subject. What is the best way to go about planning a First Meeting Chart? I would love it if anyone who knows anything about First Meeting Charts and has used them or worked with them can offer any tips, advice, or tidbits of info.

What would the ideal First Meeting Chart look like?

If you could plan the perfect First Meeting Chart, then what would it look like?

If you could have planned your First Meeting with the one you love, what would you want the chart to look like? What would you change from the chart you actually have?

I know every little tiny aspect of the chart can't be planned, but whatever can be can be.

posted July 26, 2014 03:50 PM            

You are putting the cart before the horse (no pun intended). Exactly as KM suggests - leave it to the universe. There is nothing to be planned except not deny a meeting. If your relationship must be life-changing then the meeting will be synched, without any effort on your part.

posted July 26, 2014 07:26 PM            

I know we can't control everything, but the things we can control, well, why not? I mean, I'd like to avoid an ugly applying Saturn or Uranus square to a personal planet or angle of a First Meeting Chart since I have the choice of when I can meet him. I'm not opposed to Electional Astrology at all. I mean, if we wanna say don't think about it at all and just blindly let the universe handle it, why would anyone ever look at transits, or why would anyone care about Void of Course Moons, or Mercury retrograde, etc. I believe in taking whatever measures are in your power to take, and then letting go and letting God.

posted July 26, 2014 09:27 PM            

Trying to choose the First Meeting Chart wasn't something I had made a hard and fast decision on already. It's just a notion I've been strongly considering. I've got that natal Moon-Pluto conj. 3° in my 3rd house, so whenever it comes to emotional decisions, I can definitely overanalyze and go into research attack mode. On top of that, right now, transit Pluto is opposite my natal Mercury 0°, so I've been overthinking absolutely everything.

I guess it would just be best to take it out of my own hands completely and let the mutual friends who will be introducing us choose when to introduce us. That way, at least I won't go crazy trying to play God and pick the perfect moment. I'll just tell them pick the date, and, then... whatever is meant to be will be.

Thank you two for talking me out of going down that rabbit hole. Knowing myself the way I do, I would have just ended up with analysis paralysis anyway.

posted July 27, 2014 04:41 AM            

I wanted to add a life changing FM most of the times has some important outer hard aspects to personal planets or angles, definitely at least one heavy square (for the impact and the turning point potential). And the FM is usually very "red". The planet is personalized for the people in questions: for example, it may be Venus square Saturn, but Saturn is your DSC ruler, which gives this square a different meaning for you.

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