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Topic: Unrequired love.Why it didn`t work out?
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bioephemera
Knowflake Posts: 31
From: dreamland
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 02:46 PM
  
Hi,all.This synastry never worked out.I was on the verge of obsession,ever before we officially met.I have to admit,that I stalked him on a forum,but I never initiaded a conversation.We met 8 months ago and we were colleagues.When we talked we finished each other sentences,we were literally reading our toughts.I didn`t have the courage to make the first step and this month I left my job (not because of him),without saying a proper goodbye
I hope I don`t sound like a creep.
Any insights would be helpful.
My planets are on the outside.IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
Moderator Posts: 8968
From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 03:13 PM
Hi,Don't worry about it, we all know obsession around here  You've come to the right place What happened, why it didn't work out? I notice you have some nice contacts, but you're not necessarily the right person for each other. I can see the good communication you had in your Mercury contacts and your Mercury/Juno, your IC ruler in his 7th house: he perceived you as someone familiar with whom he can communicate freely, a good friend/communication partner. What is the orb between your Sun and your Pluto? ------------------ I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... IP: Logged |
viiv28
Knowflake Posts: 123
From: kaspichan
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 03:28 PM
What I see are two of his "male" planets sun and pluto opposing your two female planets --moon and venus. I think this might lead to him activating both of your female aspects. Pluto-venus hard aspect especially can lead to obsession. Now on a not-astrological level. I was also madly in love and heart-broken by sagitarius man. This man is very tricky because he pursued me very long time, and when he got me he was not very interested. I am a person of strong passion and intensity, and he was very much about "fun". What he would say was "this is great fun". Well I do not know how to have fun in love, to me those two are mutually exclusive. So sagittarius men in general love only women, who are not in love with them. That is my nonastrological opinion on the matter. May they go to hell :P moon in capricorn is a selfish detached moon., btw. otherwise you have a very nice trine between his moon and ur venus. And you must be very attractive (to him) with this strong earthly venus. IP: Logged |
bioephemera
Knowflake Posts: 31
From: dreamland
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 03:53 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Hi,Don't worry about it, we all know obsession around here You've come to the right place What happened, why it didn't work out? I notice you have some nice contacts, but you're not necessarily the right person for each other. I can see the good communication you had in your Mercury contacts and your Mercury/Juno, your IC ruler in his 7th house: he perceived you as someone familiar with whom he can communicate freely, a good friend/communication partner. What is the orb between your Sun and your Pluto?
Heheh,I`m glad I found the right place.
Well,he is a scientist,very cerebral and completely obsessed with his work,he is going to finish his PhD this year and is concerned about his direction in life.He mentioned often,that he is unworthy of affection and he had terrible relationships when younger.Probably now is not the right time for romance.
"'I notice you have some nice contacts, but you're not necessarily the right person for each other.''
-Yeah,I think the woman of his dreams is Zena the warrior princess,and I`m deffinetely not her. 
He couldn`t deal with my robotic self-control
and was always trying to catch me off-guard.
I have a 6 deg opp between Sun and Pluto. IP: Logged |
Enneline
Knowflake Posts: 1779
From:
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 31, 2014 04:00 PM
His venus seems to be quite unaspected. That's never a good sign in love relationships. IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
Knowflake Posts: 4120
From: Venice, California, US
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 31, 2014 04:03 PM
Ahh, attraction -- it is not l'amour; these aren't always of the same family, and might be distant cousins. Attraction is a prickly, fickle thing. Attachment is the real deal. If you can weather the infatuatory storms and build something real -- that's the trick. Else, you're building on sand. In a tsunami zone. Attraction isn't the easy thing to ferret, and most people don't have the patience for friendship and forming attachment. In general cases, if a man isn't physically attracted, he won't hang on long enough to develop the attachment that CAN then lead to it. Women (typically) are far more forgiving in this area, accepting that attraction may take root as a result of companionship, shared values, and so on. Surely, we can see some of this propensity in the natal. Synastrically -- bit trickier. The common sense test will always be most revealing. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
Moderator Posts: 8968
From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 04:07 PM
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Originally posted by Enneline:
His venus seems to be quite unaspected. That's never a good sign in love relationships.
Yes, his Mars too. Bioephemera, I think your Sun/Pluto and his Pluto to your Venus and Venus/NN and Mars on DSC give you the "obssessive" vibe with this man. But perhaps you'll connect after the PhD ------------------ I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... IP: Logged |
Enneline
Knowflake Posts: 1779
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 31, 2014 04:38 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Yes, his Mars too.Bioephemera, I think your Sun/Pluto and his Pluto to your Venus and Venus/NN and Mars on DSC give you the "obssessive" vibe with this man. But perhaps you'll connect after the PhD
You are sooo right . And he seems to like "very serious warriors" but she might come across as soft, gentle and quiet (Asc in Cancer and moon in Taurus). Maybe he is of the opinion she is not his type but hey, she can convince him after his PHD IP: Logged |
bioephemera
Knowflake Posts: 31
From: dreamland
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 04:48 PM
viiv28, "So sagittarius men in general love only women, who are not in love with them.''
-This is definitely his case.Such elusive creatures.IndigoDirae,wise and true words. LeeLoo2014,eh,well,the whole situation left me frustrated and feeling unprofessional.Falling for colleagues should be forbidden with a law .I really need to pull myself together.
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peony
Knowflake Posts: 76
From: U.S.
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 29, 2014 02:40 AM
I've seen oppositions between Sagittarius and Gemini work because of the mental affinities between these two signs. But, he has five planets in fire signs and you have five planets in earth, so your temperaments are very different. Your planets don't resonate with his 5th and 7th houses. But, looking at his chart by itself, with all the planets in Sagittarius in the 3rd house and Venus conjunct Saturn, he looks like a predominantly intellectual type of man and that feeling is an inferior function. Venus-Saturn can mean his emotional development has been obstructed and overhadowed by his intellectual side and that can cause problems for him in relationships. You do have Moon-Venus trine between you and with Sun and Moon across the 3rd and 9th houses, you probably make good friends and intellectual companions. IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
Moderator Posts: 1921
From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted December 29, 2014 09:44 PM
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Originally posted by viiv28:
... So sagittarius men in general love only women, who are not in love with them. That is my nonastrological opinion on the matter. May they go to hell :P ...
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Ceridwen
Moderator Posts: 17261
From:
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted December 30, 2014 09:09 AM
Nah not all are like that.
Though they do love to prove they can beat the odds. IP: Logged |
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