posted January 06, 2015 02:14 PM            

Ok so over the Christmas period I met up with an Aries guy, first date went well and had lots of laughs and wanted to set another date which we did about a week and a half later. I must point out I find him a bit intimidating as he is so freaking hot! and he's also a lot older than me. I'm nearly 29 and he's nearly 42, doesn't look it at all.

While on the second date I found it so hard to read him, he was obviously interested and there wasn't many times that the conversation stopped, but I still felt unsure.
We left and as I was about to go he went in for a kiss.. A few times haha and I said that I'd love to invite him back but I'm not going to (and didn't!) got home and he sent many messages about meeting for a 3rd date and was looking forward to kissing more. Since then I've put him off twice due to circumstances and I'm meant to be meeting him tomorrow.

Where my confusion comes from is he doesn't chat much via text, he will send a message now and then and when he does we have a laugh, but I don't know there's something I can't put my finger on. He most certainly single and I know he has dated other women (I'm not bothered about that, I'm dating too) I just can't work him out!

What's others experiences with the Aries man, especially 'mature'.

posted January 07, 2015 01:17 AM            

I am currently dating an Aries as well. I wouldn't say he's "mature" as numbers go him being 31, but he seems to act his age. I think what you're seeing is the Aries need for independence! Mine does that same thing, not endless hours of texting convos like I can have with others, but just enough to let me know he's thinking of me. I honestly think they're not reflectors so much as doers so endless hours of conversation don't interest them as much as say a Gemini. That he texts as all is a good sign I think; if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't text at all!

By contrast, I am also dating a Taurus and he is very forward, makes no bones and texts me throughout the day, often manipulating much of my time, I'm sure just to remind me that he's after me and that I better watch out because he's coming my way!

posted January 07, 2015 05:04 AM            

I'm a taurus by the way, I do like texting to find out more but I can see he prefers it face to face. It's a new experience for me as I'm used to men constantly messaging!

posted January 07, 2015 09:06 AM            

He can be very friendly towards other women, without flirting, and they sometimes take it the wrong way. He will just laugh it off.

He wants me to be independent and strong and he HATES when I whine or complain. He wants me to be able to fix my own problems and only come to him should I need help.

His mind is lightning quick (Aries Mercury, Sun 1H) and he can do 14 things at the same time. I also have a quick mind but need to concentrate real hard to keep up sometimes.

There are a few things I have issues with and I have mentioned them in other posts so I won't repeat myself but I don't peg them on him being an Aries.

I think Aries' in general need women that are driven and strong. They tend to just do what they want so best is to just go along and not fight the currents. Trying to control one will just end up in them being agitated and frustrated.

posted January 07, 2015 05:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Aurorablue:
Thank you for your reply! I think you're right, as I'm going to his tonight to watch a film.... Haha.

I'm a taurus by the way, I do like texting to find out more but I can see he prefers it face to face. It's a new experience for me as I'm used to men constantly messaging!

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posted January 07, 2015 05:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Mmmmmmkay:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Aurorablue:
[b]Thank you for your reply! I think you're right, as I'm going to his tonight to watch a film.... Haha.

I'm a taurus by the way, I do like texting to find out more but I can see he prefers it face to face. It's a new experience for me as I'm used to men constantly messaging!

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posted January 07, 2015 07:06 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
He is very independent and can ignore phone calls and txts for an entire day or days.

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Originally posted by Mmmmmmkay:
I'm a 40 yr old Aries and I text as little as possible no matter how much I'm into a woman. I'm not sure if it's an Aries thing or a generational thing. This 42 year old of yours was almost 30 when texting became prevalent. He learned to court in real life, not electronically. You may not recognize this, because texting has been around as long as you've been dating, but texting is very limiting, prone to misinterpretation, lacking in spontaneity, distant, and almost dead way to relate in my opinion. It's a bother and annoying. I use it for practical communication. I'm not going to have a relationship via text. Meet me at 5? Text. Talk about feelings, jokes, chit chat. Live, in person or not at all. He's communicating to you that whatever ends up happening between you is going to happen in real life not over text. He is not communicating a level of interest, he will do that in person. Now if he stops texting you that seems pretty clear.

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I'm not an Aries, or a man, but this is how I feel/how I am. Re. Charlie's comment, this has actually caused a problems for me with friends/family, lol. Oh well.