posted January 14, 2015 12:47 AM            

Did you check transit and how it affected your natals?

posted January 22, 2015 02:11 PM            

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Originally posted by PrettyPisces:
Peluches just wondering did you ever receive my email?

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Hi Pretty,

posted January 26, 2015 10:51 PM            

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Originally posted by PrettyPisces:
I'm sure Peluches is busy , but is there anyone else on this forum whom is able to tell based off the synastry / composite chart " Does he have any planets going into my 12th house?" Or vice versa . And also is there any sites to show what his plants goes into my houses

Thank you
I really appreciate it

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Are those your charts from the 1st page of this thread? If so, his moon is in your 12th house, cusp of AC

posted February 10, 2015 11:50 PM            

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Originally posted by PrettyPisces:
Does he have any planets going into my 12th house?" Or vice versa .

Thank you
I really appreciate it

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posted February 11, 2015 05:40 PM            

Years ago tragedy / unfortunate events happened in his life , and I was in college undergrad, so I didn't see him in person for a long time . Within those times we spoke and he would say things directly, sometimes subtle about him and I being together but I always was against it because I valued our friendship . About 2 years ago we reconnected and began talking EVERYDAY but the things he started saying sound more platonic and he wasn't flirty really and I was kind of cool with that being I looked at him as my bestfriend yet I did have some feelings for him , however my issue is I felt he said those things to me because he knew how I felt about him , I feel he may have payed on my feelings , maybe thats me just being insecure .

However as of last month we got into a heated disagreement, because I felt he became too comfortable with me/ somewhat controlling , and he felt I complained about everything he did . I told him him and I weren't getting along .

His last words to me was since him and I aren't getting along this was the last time he was calling me and it's going to be " whatever " but not right away , he also said he appreciated everything and he wished me the best " I didn't say anything , I just hung up my phone . Since then we both haven't contacted each other .

I'm having mixed emotions because part of me feels like the end of our friendship feels like the death of someone . And I miss our talks , we always motivated each other and had the same life story , sense of humor.

The other part of me feels misled , mistreated .

I kind don't know when I will no longer feel this way as I feel I've lost a bestfriend / soulmate .

posted February 11, 2015 07:43 PM            

When two people are in sync, a MOON / 12H overlay can be ineffably beautiful to the point of being surreal. As if you're creating a joint fantasy in which you both participate.

When they aren't, the stage is set for miscommunication, misinterpretation, and emotional 'signals' being confused. The MOON may feel it's emoting into a black hole, or at least the message is getting lost in between transmission and receipt.

Much like the now classic rom-com, 'When Harry Met Sally', opposite-sex friendships tend to have a shelf-life on their own, with a definite expiry date. Why the friendship 'expires' has to do with one or both contemplating whether or not a romantic relationship, or at least a sexual dalliance, should be on the table.

We women often play the 'don't want to ruin the friendship' card because the honest truth is that we're not into them as romantic partners. We'd all be best to hold off on friend-zoning at the get-go, however, because a staggering number of male-female friendships either turn romantic, or, as you've said, end in disaster. In fact, I never had a boyfriend who wasn't first a friend -- and usually for several months, if not longer.

The both of you need to bite the bullet and be honest. There's only one way this thing can go, and I think you're the one who's got the most thinking to do. It seems you don't actually want a relationship, if his 'familiarity' felt controlling to you. That's something you'd need to address within yourself.

The reason things are coming apart at the seams, though, is obvious. You probably were never truly just friends. You've both been playing the 'do I, or don't I?' game with each other, in your own way, since the beginning. He's likely acting very 'whatever' and casual about everything because he's tired of the merry-go-round. I think he either wants to know if you're in, or you're out.

If you're in, then you've got to come to terms with the aforementioned issues regarding control, and be up front with him about that.

If you're out, then consider it done and move on. People generally need awhile to recover after a relationship changes status, typically moving from 'friendship with potential of turning romantic' to 'friendship that will never be romantic (or even contain benefits)'.

You may also be concerned over whether or not his feelings have changed over time, and there's no longer an option for a romantic involvement. And, if you are, and he rejects you, ohhhh, it hurts. Your friendship is also done at that point. And, the next time you two attempt to have any kind of personal relationship, it's going to have to get through a rough period of awkward readjustment.

But a lot of this is just part of being human.

So, my best advice is to stop beating around the bush and confront him. Just go ahead and ask the question: what is this? What are we? What's going on? Is this what we want, or do we want something more?

Be honest with your feelings about it, too. If you want more, and he doesn't, give yourself time to eject from the whole thing and take some distance. If he does, but you don't, let him know how much you value his friendship, but you also understand that he may need some time to regroup, and that you'll be there once he has.

posted February 12, 2015 02:49 PM            

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I understand , I have to be honest I've always wanted a relationship with him it wasn't something I've said though . I meet his mom a few years ago and she asked me what her son and I were doing . I just laughed it off .I would say a few years ago I didn't mention relationship because I was truly concern about if things didn't work out our friendship would be gone . However the older him and I became I was more willing to say it but the closer we got meaning the communication was constant verses hearing from each other once in a while they more he started to act platonic or whenever a disagreement he would say things like " you're not my girl " which had nothing to do with the disagreement at hand .

I hear you about saying tell him however he hasn't said he's no longer speaking to me , and telling me well wishes which I took as him and I NOT being friends which at the time I felt too because of issues I was having with him. So I don't know if that conversation meant that was the end for him and I , because when it happened last month I wanted to be, but I feel like I lost apart of me or perhaps I'm just going through the motions

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You're overcomplicating this.

You're having a fight. He grew tired of the runaround, so he made a grand statement, and is very likely waiting to see if you accept it or fight it. Simply put, he wants to see if you're going to fight it.

The friendship is over. It's not going to be the same, or for a very long time. From its ashes, can either come a romantic relationship, upon which a strong foundation is built, or an estrangement.

Now isn't the time to chicken out, but be honest. If you want him in your life, you have to be clear about that. The ball is in your court.

There's a rather famous line now from an Amy Winehouse song, 'Back to Black'. It always comes to me in these moments. 'We only said good-bye with words.'

No one has been horribly betrayed, or did an unspeakable thing, or changed numbers and moved houses or issued restraining orders.

You're having a fight. That's all. FRIENDS do not fight this way, with such passion. There is something else going on here, and it's BEEN that way for a long time.

posted February 15, 2015 12:04 PM            

I'm going to really take some time to see what I need to do .

You're right the friendship is over , I really need to say something about what's going on and I've been put in a position to say how I really feel .