posted January 08, 2015 03:37 PM            

Here is our synastry:

And here the composite:

posted January 08, 2015 08:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Aj2095:
I've always thought synastry only kicks in once you and the other person actually get to know each other and feel comfortable around each other. Or he might be one of those guys who acts aloof/ ignores people he is attracted to hoping the other person makes the first move haha, I know a couple friends like that

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I agree with this. As I understand it synastry really doesn't come into play until you're interacting/dating a bit. It's how your energies engage with one another. The composite is even further down the line where your energies are merging together.

The very first thing that you should be looking at when you meet another person is their natal chart. That is the baseline. And a very broad simple analysis is a good start. In this case his Aries sun inconjunct his Scorpio moon may be all that you are picking up on. This is a demanding inner aspect at the heart of his chart. And if you reach out to him you may feel that, but it has nothing to do with you. If and when he turns his attention to you, you may find the "dream" synastry come into effect.

The fact that you're a Scorpio sun may accentuate this effect. Imagine his inner world as an awkward, uneasy, challenging relationship between his two centers (sun and moon). Most people might sense the difficulty within him but will not take it personally. But your sun will align with his moon and the complex long standing feelings his sun has about his Scorpio moon may feel like they're being addressed to you, but they're not. His sun may not have even noticed you.

He is also one of my aries generation born with Sun opposite Pluto. I can't help but think his aries sun is going to feel a general sense of attack coming from all things Scorpio/Pluto/8th house (there is no attack of course, but aries will interpret it as such). Your 8th house chiron could likely help him, but to do so chiron will draw his energy into the 8th house which may just be too much for him.

His sun is broadcasting a message aimed at his scorpio moon and Pluto and you're reading it as if it's being sent to your scorpio sun. And it is a confusing message. Scorpio is a challenging energy to relate with period, but especially for the inconjunct energies of aries and gemini. His sun cannot see or ignore his moon. Clear communication is not possible, yet required. At the same time Pluto is in open confrontation with his sun. His inner world is unlikely to be harmonious, it would be a mistake to take that personally.

posted January 11, 2015 10:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Sephora:
Anyone any ideas?

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posted January 12, 2015 12:55 PM            

Actually, I only have to offer:

My uranus bi-quintile his venus

Apart from that:
My Venus conjunction Moon orb -1°42'
My Venus inconjunction Sun orb +0°15'
My Venus semi-square Mars orb +0°02'
My Venus inconjunction Mercury orb +0°50'

And

posted January 17, 2015 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Sephora:
Ooookay and this is because they don't know how to behave because it is too old for them or because they would like to make an impact? Besides, I know it's hard to believe, but I'm looking more like being in my 20s. Got that from my parents who are mid 60 now and look no older than mid 40.

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Hey, I'm in my mid-thirties, and always being cast in high school. Trust me. I get it. But do you ACT as if you're in your 20s? I don't. I've always, believe it or not, acted as if I'm in my 40s. (Ditto on my parents; 65, and, honestly, I'm flabbergasted about their genetic fountain of youth.)

But men? Men are funny creatures. They're terrified of us anyway; toss a few years ahead of them, and they start getting nervous. Make it a decade and some change? Ohhhh, no. Only the most suave and secure will survive that gauntlet. The lesser won't even try to run it.

That's why men love age 19 females; they can do no wrong. They're sexually newly blossomed, and just on the edge of having a clue in their heads what to do with themselves or their lives. Zero pressure. (That's the above male impression, incidentally. I've known several 19 year old women who were way ahead of their time.) And, would you believe, even THEY terrified the guys who were their own age?

Men can't handle smart women until they've reached a certain level of maturity. They cannot manage a woman who's responsible, intelligent, and secure. They feel out of control -- and, deep down, they have a desire TO control. It doesn't work in their favour -- they think -- to be with a woman they CAN'T control.

In my experience, men start removing their head from their -- ahem -- behinds -- at around age 40. Oh, sure, you've got some hella talented and mature 25-year-olds out there -- but they were exceptional 20-year-olds, as a rule.

The average 30-year-old man who might turn into an incredible 45-year-old man, is STILL trying to play the 'I'm the big man on campus' game -- until he either stops listening to his ******* friends, (ALL men give each other the most horrible advice when it comes to women; too much ego, and the advisor ALWAYS wants to seem 'better' than the one receiving the 'advice') and really, REALLY grows up -- that means, emotional maturity -- he'll try and control.

That means fumbling, mumbling, and having NO idea what to do in the presence of a smart career woman who's got it together -- and DOESN'T NEED HIM.

Bottom line? If you're not a damsel in distress, you're Lilith. You thrill, deeply antagonise (on a subconscious level) excite, and confuse men who DON'T have it together themselves. AND, should he be among the rare few who COULD, he's GOT to get that masculine ego in check.

posted January 17, 2015 03:09 PM            

That 19 female, oh I so do know what you mean! But wait until they get into their mid 20s. Then they toss that guy they're with since they were 19 and go for something more grown up and, well, male.

So, you think it always has something to do with control? I would have thought it is more a 'not wanting to blame themselves' thing. Never thought about it that way.