posted January 16, 2015 12:20 PM            

His mars's in (Cancer 1) falls in his 7th house as well.

posted January 16, 2015 06:09 PM            

I would definitely watch out for abuse, loving you will bring out a very raw powerful feeling in him...and yes if he's not in complete control over himself emotionally it could turn on you.

posted January 16, 2015 08:19 PM            

His Nessus conjunct Mars (7th house)
His Nessus Trine Uranus (10th house)
His Nessus semisquare Mercury (11th house)
His Nessus Semisextil Saturn (8th house)

posted January 16, 2015 08:46 PM            

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Originally posted by mztiny:
His Nessus is retrograde Cancer 2 (7th house)
His Progressed Nessus is Cancer 1

His Nessus conjunct Mars (7th house)
His Nessus Trine Uranus (10th house)
His Nessus semisquare Mercury (11th house)
His Nessus Semisextil Saturn (8th house)

His Natal Mars Cancer 1 retrograde (7th house)
My Natal Venus Cancer 1 retrograde(11th house)

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Whoa!! His Nessus is so much like mine!! I have Cancer rx, conjunct Mars rx, trine Uranus...semi sextile Saturn, quincux Merc.

posted January 16, 2015 09:12 PM            

I'm really looking for a sweet, sexual,loving relationship. I'm not sure I can take a very raw and edgy ride.

This makes me nervous...I am assuming a raw and edgy side means...kinky and rough?

posted January 16, 2015 09:16 PM            

When I started standing up for myself, let myself hate the way I was being treated and wanted not to be hurt anymore, i became full of rage for ALL the ppl who had hurt me, and it was focused at him. I went from complete doormat to kind of evil overnight.

I have to be honest I had times when i was scared of myself.
My thoughts were dark and intense. At times they were so full of negativity and rage, the ideas that would come into my head were violent and focused against him.
Of course I never acted on them but I was still scared of what was going through my head, I couldn't believe it was me thinking that....he's told me he became scared of me, I'm only 5'2! Lol
It only lasted a few years and that darkness has disappeared now, but no one is hurting me and triggering that Nessus energy in me anymore.

Its intense and it's not something to play with, Nessus is a very dark energy.

My sons Sun trines my Nessus, his Mars squares my Neasus
I dated a guy who's ascendant sat on my Nessus
Dated a guy who's Venus trined my Nessus
Another guy who's AC squared my Nessus
My daughters Mars squares my Nessus

Even with all those ppl touching my Nessus, ive never had any of those feelings with anyone else but my ex husband....and my kids are teenagers so it's possible!! Lol

posted January 17, 2015 08:33 AM            

All your insight is really good, still trying to process it all. I will take all your advice and experience with me on this date.

I tend to attracted a lot of scorpions and my pluto is square my venus natally. I know for a fact I cant experience the dark side of sex with someone...as I just finished with a man that already did that to me. I survived and know I NEVER want to do that again.

posted January 17, 2015 11:24 AM            

The last guy I dated had Venus square Mars natal.....I kind of try to feel ppl out early to see if they are open, as I don't want to hurt anyone when my own Nessus energy rears it's ugly head. I want to find out if they have the ability to work with me and what I go through and need when his ugly energy comes out.

His Pluto square Venus was not a good match, he was very sensitive and I could tell it would not work. I was afraid he would get emotionally hurt instead of being able to understand. Its one reason I broke it off.
Sadly this energy is now part of who I am.

I went the 1st 25 years of my life without realizing it was there.....total denial of the truth.
Although I have to admit I had very dark terrifying dreams and emotions at times, but it seemed like I was in a different world. It felt like I was someone else when I felt them. I let myself believe it was ONLY a dream.

It was not until my ex woke me back up to the abuse id went through as a child and was repressing. He woke me up through his abuse, it was the same kind of abuse Id already been through.

I have a feeling anyone with Nessus closely touching them personally probably has some serious repressed memories of some sort of abuse. I wouldn't want to be the person that brings things memories to the surface! Lol

I'm so glad my Mars is in gemini, Mars gemini@29.33/Nessus cancer@2.50.
I'm glad because a mercury mars isn't physical, my thoughts were easily contained in my head, not having so much intensity and desire to physically act on.
If someone had this with an aries, scorpio or capricorn mars....whoa! Run for your life! Lol

Funny thing is my nessus in cancer wants to nurture you....be your everything(watch out for this) this nurturing can be to the point you can't live without me, but it's not a kindness, it's not love, it's a way to control someone.
This is something I must watch in myself and not allow it to take over.
I try to find the positives in these messed up energies/aspects and use them for the good they can provide.
This particular one does give me a drive to fulfill someone's every need...I just have to watch out that it doesn't turn dark on them and become something passive aggressive and dark for them or me.

See how real I have to be? It's the only way to protect others from what's going on inside me...it gets easier everyday. The more you learn to love yourself and stop looking to others to meet all your needs, the energy will weaken and not be in control of you, you can control it.
Maybe I see this because it's retrograde and I internalize the energy and my mars is gemini a very thinking sign.... so don't count on all person, esp one with a direct Nessus to see this.(but his is retrograde also)

If he's not this open and real with his own issues, willing to see where things are wrong inside himself, take responsibility for it and keep it in check I would not want to be in a sexually close relationship with him.

posted January 18, 2015 12:26 AM            

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Originally posted by mztiny:
Thank you gabby, you really are a blessing to expose all this. I really appreciate it and hopefully this can help someone else who might encounter this along the way.

The guy that I'm soon to have a date is already showing the urgencies and we haven't even had our first date...ugh. Anyway...my eyes are OPEN thanks to you!

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Don't put up with any pushy behaviors. End it quick if he seems to push to hard and doesn't respect your need for independence and space. Don't let him get attached to you if you feel anything that makes you feel pressured or uncomfortable!

posted January 18, 2015 05:53 PM            

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Originally posted by la_mer:
this is very helpful, thanks for asking about that contact mztiny! had a fling with someone who has nessus conjunct mars in the 8th house in cancer and I've seen his blog which is full of kinky stuff.. I can easily believe that he would use 8th house themes to compensate his issues or release stress/anger/frustrations. it doesn't help that my venus is right in the middle between the two, my mars is in opposition to the conjunction and that his sun-stellium in virgo is square my sun-stellium in gemini. from time to time, when he suddenly signals sexual interest in me again, it feels like a heavy blanket around my shoulders. didn't notice that at first, because there was a build-up when we got to know each other, but now it's like walking from a room with air condition into the jungle, lol

no idea if he gets or knows about this side within himself like you do gabby but thank you so much for sharing your experiences!

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posted January 19, 2015 05:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
It's not all bad!

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posted January 20, 2015 01:30 AM            

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Originally posted by la_mer:
I believe you and nothing in synastry is just plain bad or good, still important to be aware of the energy

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Agreed, esp this one because it's so hard to handle and quite frankly it's hard to talk about with others. It's like this dirty little secret that you think shows your a bad person, do your terrified to tell anyone about or talk about it for fear of condemnation and judgment.

I think if more people come out and talk amount these dark things we hold inside, it would give us the power to overcome them. By hiding them they keep us in their control...but by exposing them to see them in light of day they don't look so big and bad. They become something manageable and we can find others that also deal with it, see we are not alone and dark thoughts don't make us a dark or bad person...acting on them might? Actually acting on them only means we need up our self confidence and love for ourself, because we hurt ourself just as much as hurt the other person when we act out on our pain.
Nessus is scary but if i can talk about it, I can understand it. That's really all you need to start the healing process of releasing it's ugly side and find it's more positive side.