posted February 08, 2015 11:37 AM            

Right, below is a synastry chart of me and a "friend" of mine. Back in the day, I told him that I liked him but he knocked me back. He eventually got with another girl, they are now living together. I've met her and I've come to terms with all our **** now. It literally is the case that she seems to be a better match for him than I could have ever been.

Since I have become cool about their relationship, we have been friendly. A couple of times the lines have been blurred in terms of comments/flirting, but that's it. I am conscious of the fact that he loves her and also that anything with me would be a second choice.

However, he often asks me about my love life and what is happening with it; when I give an answer which suggests that I'm not seeing anyone or which indicates that my latest "attempted" thing is over, he appears to be humoured by it. Like me being single is funny or commonplace; and that's odd to me.

Also, when I tell him about guys that I am talking to, he tries to get as much information out of me as possible and then goes to research them or attempts to and won't stop asking me questions about the person.

What aspects in our synastry would prompt this type of behaviour? I want to say it's possessiveness; but I don't think so. I feel like it's more a 'I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you either' vibe?

Here it is...

posted February 08, 2015 03:22 PM            

I always forget to state who is who!

Thank you for your reply.
I am on the outside, he is on the inside.

So that would be my NN and his Venus.
My Venus and his Mars.

posted February 08, 2015 09:49 PM            

With a Moon-Mercury conjunction in Gemini, you would have easy communication perhaps on a more superficial level, but you also have a Mercury-Saturn conjunction that falls in his 3H, and his natal Neptune is in the 3H, which suggests things are left unsaid or he's being indirect, although from what you're describing of your interactions, he's interested in you. His Saturn squares your Mars, which can manifest as his frustrating your desire. You expressed your interest in him and as you said "he knocked you back." That's an example of his Saturn square your Mars. His Uranus also squares your Mars and you have a Mars-Pluto opposition between you which can generate intense sexual energy but also a contest of wills and fighting.

posted February 09, 2015 08:13 AM            

This makes complete sense and sums up our relationship so well. Funnily enough, I told him to f himself last night (jokingly, because he was trying to take the **** ) and he said something like 'I know you would' - really?

I have received calls from a drunk him telling me that he loved me (a few years ago).

On his side, I definitely think there is an element of things being left unsaid. Instead, what he will do is dump heavy stuff on me. For example, he went away and called me from abroad (after telling him about another failed relationship) and he was saying how I was such a great girl, with a great body etc. All this nice stuff, but tbh it angered me because I felt that it was all a little too late lol.