posted February 18, 2015 10:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
OH. Hang on.

Are we talking a BDSM relationship here? If you're play partners, that's VERY different.

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Haha, different how?? All biases aside. NOT that I'm saying you'd have any, but just, astrologically speaking. Does it make more sense? I'm not sure what the red flags were to begin with, but would that make you less inclined to say that there are red flags, since the 'red flag' energy would be channeled quite differently than if it were not a BDSM relationship? Hope I'm making sense :P

posted February 19, 2015 01:35 AM            

I liked the title of your post so I read. I have 0 astrology knowledge, but lots of living experience.

You're already in love. Can astrology change that? Can astrology save you from having your heart broken? Or can it lead you without fail to your dreams?

We can't avoid love or broken hearts. But we can avoid regret, and I see regret as the only true poison in love, and life. If you're willing to learn from the good and the bad, dedicate yourself to your personal evolution by embracing the joy and the pain, then you'll be fine.

Maybe Aubyanne can give some more clarity about the warning signs. That would be great. But I say go ahead and love! You're there already, at loves door. Do the best you can, so you can be proud of yourself. Life is so much fun, and such a blessing, fear of pain and grief is the only thing that prevents us from having the full experience.

When it's time to laugh, laugh. When it's time to cry, then cry (and don't lament that you have to cry).

posted February 19, 2015 09:53 PM            

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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
Hi Selenite,

I liked the title of your post so I read. I have 0 astrology knowledge, but lots of living experience.

You're already in love. Can astrology change that? Can astrology save you from having your heart broken? Or can it lead you without fail to your dreams?

We can't avoid love or broken hearts. But we can avoid regret, and I see regret as the only true poison in love. If you're willing to learn from the good and the bad, dedicate yourself to your personal evolution by embracing the joy and the pain, then you'll be fine.

Maybe Aubyanne can give some more clarity about the warning signs. That would be great. But I say go ahead and love! You're there already, at loves door. Do the best you can, so you can be proud of yourself. Life is so much fun, and such a blessing, fear of pain and grief is the only thing that prevents us from having the full experience.

When it's time to laugh, laugh. When it's time to cry, then cry (and don't lament that you have to cry).

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Mmm, thank you for this. Exactly the sentiment I wanted to express, but much more tactful ^_^
Glad my 'Internet break' didn't last even a day or I would have missed this lovely reply. Forgive me, Aubyanne for my erratic responses as I am becoming increasingly emotionally volatile from years of avoiding emotions but it's liberating, a work in progress.. I'm also very much sucked in, vulnerable and afraid of where this is going, and I can only love with all i have and hope for the best

On another note, in synastry his Osiris is conjunct my moon 2º and my Isis is opposite his moon 1º
And my Isis conjuncts his Osiris 3º I have no idea if it's significant but it resonates with me in a strange way

posted February 20, 2015 04:39 AM            

If it were a BDSM relationship, it might stand greater longevity, as it would be a logical anchor for the intense sexual dynamics.

As it stands, the 'morning after' I fear will come once the passionate Piscean influences have cleared out, mid next month, and things will gain greater clarity.

You already know that you have a Soulmate connexion here, but you may be blinded to the reality of what is. It's wonderful to disappear into a beautiful world of your own joint creation, but they rarely withstand reality testing. You can't exist in a vacuum forever, so enjoy the fantasy while it lasts.

I fear he will be the one with the worst reaction once reality sets in, and harbour tremendous guilt over the sexual relationship. Masculine psychology is rather straightforward; they desire what they want, but don't always wish they'd gotten it. After a certain age especially, other natural dynamics begin to set in. The two of you are flirting with their foundations, to put it lightly, and I fear, with your being so sensitive, you will be very hurt by his rejection.

Instead, I urge you to consider this is a sort of test you're both being given in regards to how easily either of you give in to your desires.

I'm curious as to why you have had a difficult time with expressing your emotions?

Unfortunately, I feel that engaging this as a sexual relationship was a mistake. There are basic principles here at work which can make for a passionate and very intimate fling. But once it's time to reflect, I worry that the rose-coloured lenses are all that's making it seem like a good idea.

It's my sincere wish that you're both able to enjoy a genuine friendship after this, but that's going to be difficult. I'd say 'tread lightly' but you've no intention to, nor is that really part of this.

posted February 22, 2015 02:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Selenite:
He's also made me realize, just by being himself, that the kinds of people I've been attracted to in the past (emotionally unavailable, mysterious, non-commital, hot and cold) are just not good for me and I feel I've let that entire part of me go and I feel so much stronger as a result. I am sensitive but I've already had my heart broken in the worst ways possible, I'm not worried about being 'together forever,' that kind of thinking and pressure is never healthy and is something I've learned the hard way but grown from

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