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Topic: Help needed for my beloved Capricorn Friend
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MoonBunny
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posted February 17, 2015 02:03 PM
  
Hello all. This is my first time posting in Lindaland...soo here it goes! Here lately I have been playing match maker for my Capricorn friend Donald. He is the sweetest most creative guy ever and it makes me so sad that he has never had a girlfriend :0/. He asked me to help him find someone, because he is very lonely. Of course I said yes but I feel I keep running into difficulties. Mainly his stubbornness and slowness in this process is EXTREMELY challenging to work with. I may find an opportunity for him but he waits too long to take advantage of it and BAM it disappears. Also there is the whole lack of confidence thing he has going on x-x. I keep telling him that he is silly that he is intact handsome, funny, creative, definitely a catch for anyone. This is my first close relationship with a Capricorn male, can anyone give me advice on how to deal with these guys? I know all things saturn related are complex and harsh. Any advice is appreciated since I am desperately trying to help him >__<.[URL=http://s1301.photobucket.com/user/Starsbee/media/DonaldChart_zps15f81172.gif.html]  [/UR L] ------------------
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Lotis White
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posted February 17, 2015 05:39 PM
You should try to find a women who resonates with his 5th, 7th, and 8th houses, and their rulers. However this works best when you use placidus house cusps. Sometimes there is a sign change when you use placidus, and this is important to note for the 5th, 7th, and 8th house. His 7th house cusp would not change though. The chart above says he'd suit women with Cancer, Leo, and Scorpio planets. Placidus 5th, and 8th house cusps would give more insight. Most of his planets are in earth and water signs, apart from his Sag Mars. This could explain his extreme shyness. Venus conjunct Sun in the first house indicates he does have some attractive qualities. He just needs to have faith in this, and take initiative when the right opportunity comes along. Also, is he motivated to change, and does he actually want to have a girlfriend? Caps are good and working toward goals. If he wants this to work, he might need to make it an 'official goal' in his mind, so he can work towards it like he were fulfilling an ambition. He also would need to accept the possibility that he might fail a few times before he gets it right. This happens to most guys, as guys are often expected to take initiative. Most of them fall flat on their faces at least a couple of times in life. And that's okay. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted February 17, 2015 07:56 PM
He's a scorpio moon... He'll know it when he meets the ones he likesIP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted February 18, 2015 11:58 AM
Lotis White thank you very much for your reply. About the house system, I am very confused. I usually use Placidus, but changed recently because of a post on here saying Equal House is more accurate? I will reexamine both for sure.
I think for sure he is motivated to change, but is unable to accept the inevitable failures that he will encounter. You are so right they do need to fall flat on their face, but I guess he likes to save face too much for that. Sigh lol. With his moon being in the 10th its like he is a triple Capricorn......these guys are so hard to guide! However I can understand some of his hang-ups. For instance he has been told by quite a few girls that he is 'too nice'. These girls usually go off with rugged temperamental guys that they want to 'fix'. That would leave me confused as well.I can imagine all the above signs being a good match for him that you mentioned, Cancer, Leo, and Scorpio. I would hope all of these girls, would have a Venus in Aries, I think some directness on their part would help his confidence and fear of failure subside.
The unknown, I think his Scorpio Moon (oddly enough) gets overshadowed by his Capricorn energy. There has been many 'the ones', but the execution on his part always fails.
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themischievousone
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posted February 21, 2015 12:40 AM
That chart is really close to my bf's. 10 days apart but same houses for the planets minus the moon and sun. Crazy...For the longest time I never knew my bf liked me. He's always talk about trying to date other girls and how he'd have trouble with dates. Sounds familiar... xD So with that being said, OP are you a female?
Late cancer planets would probably go well. Mars also does not have a lot going on. Someone's Venus in soft aspect to mars would probably draw him out as well.
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MoonBunny
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posted February 21, 2015 07:22 PM
themischievousone, thank you for your reply!!! ^__^Omg how on earth did you manage to capture your boyfriend??? lol. You DEFINITELY are impressive !! lol! Yes I am female  . Do you feel like these types (my friend and your bf) are so afraid of failure that it paralyzes them from taking that first step??? I think Capricorn Sun + Scorpio Moon Must be hard. Almost like having all this intensity and feeling yet unable to fully process or allow it to be. Do you mind telling me more about your boyfriend??? I can definitely imagine him with a Cancer/Lots of Cancer Placements, but unfortunately it boils down to him making the effort/first move to lure her in @__@ IP: Logged |
ueharaa
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posted February 21, 2015 07:55 PM
What do you mean by lack of action? that he's too shy and doesn't make move?
Has he ever been in love ?IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted February 21, 2015 10:00 PM
Yes he has been in love a few times, but its never worked out. It has always been one sided, with him unwilling to let it go. So he came along as semi stalkerish when they didn't want it to continue. Basically he ends up chronically friend-zoning himself. I think he is just feeling hopeless from past experiences. Now he is very hesitant to ask a girl out period. I think he just doesn't understand how to woo someone, there is a huge disconnect. His extreme shyness and has very low confidence. Poor guy x___x, I am trying to help him as much as I can. Actually he asked me to help him. I think he is just tired of being single. IP: Logged |
ueharaa
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posted February 21, 2015 10:46 PM
Is there someone he's interested in at the moment?
I ask this because I have similar "energies" in my chart. I'm a cap sun, cap moon and retro aqua venus with a cancer asc (this aside a lot of my placements aspect his chart!! ) and I also take the friendly approach that never works out.
Caps and scorp (and also the retro venus) can make one rather selective in who gets their affection and the process is a slow one (not because the person is slow but because first you must earn their trust hence the whole friendship part...)
I noticed he has a sag mars, his only fire planet so I guess he can be rather impulsive but the mutability of sag is certainly overwhelmed by the requirements of his Scorpio moon and his desire for things to be serious and perfect of his cap venus/sun and asc. And the confidence thing is definitely a cap issue. The problem with that is that cap do not trust words, it is nice to hear compliments but he is the one making this judgement of himself based on his past experience. As long as his experience isn't positive and he doesn't realize that he's the one being hard on himself and that it does him a disservice then it won't resolve anything.
Maybe he needs a good self analysis to come to terms with his confidence issue and .. relax?? not take it so seriously (at first) and not make the whole thing a big deal.
Did he say he liked a certain type of woman?
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MoonBunny
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posted February 22, 2015 12:12 AM
~~~ueharaa, thank you for your point of view. Its interesting that you two have a similar chart. Yeah that totally makes sense (about the self confidence being a capricorn issue). You are right, he just has to do some self analysis and maybe decide on his own that he IS handsome, smart, funny etc all the things he thinks he is not. Have you gotten over low self confidence??? Are you funny?? I am asking since you have a similar chart, because he is a pretty funny guy. I think he is taking it way too serious because of his age. He hates that he is 24 and still single. He is freaking out about it. Also, he definitely feels the only place he can meet women is at work, which sometimes is problematic. Hah poor thing, a lot of times people think he is mad but he calls that his unintentional * ***** * face lol. Cappy rising problem I am guessing. About the girls he likes, I think he likes girls who are into the same music as him, slightly nerdy who isn't TOO mature (he likes silly girls). Thats all I really can gather. I wish girls were a little more patient with him. I feel they don't get the 'spark' feeling from him right away so they don't give him a chance and get to know him. So he goes straight into the friend zone. i agree ueharaa, he needs to chill and try to fix some stuff going on with him before this can happen. I am afraid to tell him this though... IP: Logged |
themischievousone
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posted February 23, 2015 11:11 AM
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Originally posted by MoonBunny:
themischievousone, thank you for your reply!!! ^__^Omg how on earth did you manage to capture your boyfriend??? lol. You DEFINITELY are impressive !! lol! Yes I am female . Do you feel like these types (my friend and your bf) are so afraid of failure that it paralyzes them from taking that first step??? I think Capricorn Sun + Scorpio Moon Must be hard. Almost like having all this intensity and feeling yet unable to fully process or allow it to be. Do you mind telling me more about your boyfriend??? I can definitely imagine him with a Cancer/Lots of Cancer Placements, but unfortunately it boils down to him making the effort/first move to lure her in @__@
I have no idea. He liked me for about 1 year before he even told me. We were good friends for a couple of years. I do think that lots of Capricorn placements can make someone scared of failure. Although it can make them very persistent. If your friend's mind is set on someone or something, I think he will go for it, even if it is in a sideways manner. I think Capricorn Sun and Scorpio Moon would make him even more so persistent versus other moon combos with Capricorn Sun. With my bf, he did end up making the first step after a deep conversation about relationships. I'm guessing it made him think we were on the same page about how people should act in relationships. I actually "rejected" him at first. He told me he loved me and I said I didn't but I cared about him a lot. His response was "You are worth being patient for."
My bf's chart - http://i.imgur.com/BMUa4VE.gif I can say that he cannot stand girls who are superficial (for lack of better word). He gets so annoyed by girls who are more concerned about where they are going to party and etc. (Think the stereotypical valley girl). He likes brains, nerdiness, classiness, and maturity. I think the classiness, maturity, and someone level headed may appeal to your Capricorn friend. And are you sure he doesn't like you? lol
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