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Topic: Why Am I SOOO Fixated On Him? (Synastry)
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hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 04:38 PM
 
His birth time is unknown so I just used noon, I seriously just feel connected to him on a gut level and though he is not going to contact me again I still feel the connection. Why is this?? I can read horary charts or do a tarot reading for whoever helps me out here.  IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted March 22, 2015 04:41 PM
Because you are in a box. A box connecting Moon and Venus with a lot of serious outer planets stuff. Plus a highly personal Venus-Mars-Sun-Yod, intensified by Pluto. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 04:53 PM
How do you just immediately see that?! I have a habit of always looking at the aspects first, like Moon-Neptune which I found this description for:Hard aspects also indicate a great amount of possessiveness and clinginess on the part of the Moon person. Both the Moon and Neptune are highly sensitive planets, which makes this relationship excessively emotional and co-dependent. This is especially damaging if Neptune becomes elusive and distant, as it will greatly upset the Moon person. Normally I don't approach people in the beginning and I let them do it, but I found myself comfortable with this one after just three days of talking. Ugh, I hate feeling like I'm the only one who feels something especially when my intuition says he felt it too. And all of that stuff is not dependent on his birth time? IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted March 22, 2015 04:58 PM
Add some love asteroids too I am curious: 433,16,447,2101,1221, h22,1585,4386, 3811, vestaIP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted March 22, 2015 05:05 PM
well I thought in the image it sort of just jumps out at you, that blue box. Which is a mystical or golden rectangle btw, consisting of two oppositions, cushioned by the harmonious aspects in blue. his angles and Moon are dependent on his birthtime, but in this instance it is YOUR Moon and HIS Venus, and his Venus might just differ about a few minutes of orb, so will not change too much.
Well actuall iw ould like to see the orbs, but it seems like your Moon is opposing his Sun, right?
And if his birthime is about near the time you chose, his Moon would be conjunct your Sun probably. And a DW of Sun-Moon that strongly can definitely feel like soulmates or at least give you that comfort around each other.
However the opposition to Pluto, and Pluto is interconnecting both big aspect figures, the blue box and the green triangle (Yod), might feel insanely intense, maybe for you especially as it brings your natal aspect into full play. And with all of them, your Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars being part of it, ALL relationship planets, you must simply feel him on so many levels all at once, that it might make you feel a little powerless with not much ability to resist this. However luckily his Venus seems to be part of it as well so he might feel some romantic attraction or triggering here as well. I`d like to see stronger aspects to his Mars though for the sexual attraction. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 05:06 PM
Here's with the asteroids, but I don't know what they mean especially considering his houses aren't accurate. I just am really trying to figure this out because despite logic, I just don't feel I was getting lead on. He wanted to spend a whole day together before we even met because we connected fast and really well and he seemed to value me as a person PLUS we were attracted to each other. It just really sucks that I don't know and wasn't ready for him to just stop talking to me.  IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted March 22, 2015 05:11 PM
His Priapus conjunct your moon bingo. Theres that fixation! Your Priapus square his saturn. Supplmented by Eros on your Dsc and adonis conjunct Eros. You can't help but be magnifiedIP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 05:12 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Ceridwen:
well I thought in the image it sort of just jumps out at you, that blue box. Which is a mystical or golden rectangle btw, consisting of two oppositions, cushioned by the harmonious aspects in blue. his angles and Moon are dependent on his birthtime, but in this instance it is YOUR Moon and HIS Venus, and his Venus might just differ about a few minutes of orb, so will not change too much.
Well actuall iw ould like to see the orbs, but it seems like your Moon is opposing his Sun, right?
And if his birthime is about near the time you chose, his Moon would be conjunct your Sun probably. And a DW of Sun-Moon that strongly can definitely feel like soulmates or at least give you that comfort around each other.
However the opposition to Pluto, and Pluto is interconnecting both big aspect figures, the blue box and the green triangle (Yod), might feel insanely intense, maybe for you especially as it brings your natal aspect into full play. And with all of them, your Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars being part of it, ALL relationship planets, you must simply feel him on so many levels all at once, that it might make you feel a little powerless with not much ability to resist this. However luckily his Venus seems to be part of it as well so he might feel some romantic attraction or triggering here as well. I`d like to see stronger aspects to his Mars though for the sexual attraction.
True, after I looked at it I saw the box just as blatantly, lol. Yes, my Moon is opposing his Sun which I would also think opposes his Mercury and Mars too. YES it felt intense. I wouldn't say I was in love or anything just yet, I just felt very emotionally close to him and was taken off guard by it. Three days of non-stop talking and having that initial guard completely dissipated is a new thing for me. He was definitely attracted to me but polite about it, nothing like the Scorpio with Venus in Sag who wouldn't shut up about what he wanted to do to me O-O. Interesting about the DW Sun Moon though. So it doesn't have to be a positive aspect all the time, just the fact both our Sun and Moon connect with each other? Man I REALLY liked how I felt with him. I didn't feel judged or like I was weird because we had different beliefs, and he even commented how we were friends already etc. But I am usually not trusting of anything guys say anymore because it's so sporadically backed up with action. : / IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 05:13 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
His Priapus conjunct your moon bingo. Theres that fixation! Your Priapus square his saturn. Supplmented by Eros on your Dsc and adonis conjunct Eros. You can't help but be magnified
Would that make him magnified as well? What / Who is Priapus? IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted March 22, 2015 05:27 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Would that make him magnified as well?What / Who is Priapus?
He's a ferility god and in synastry associated with this intense desire to merge with the person those contacts hit him. Priapus is sort of the yin to the yang of lilith.
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hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 05:50 PM
^^ He definitely wanted to "merge" with me, but stated such in a classy and non-offensive way.IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted March 22, 2015 05:59 PM
Well it's more than sexual, it can be a intense Longing to the point where you can feel powerless with them. Priapus can and will make you compromise on things you've never thought of doing for another person more negatively even committing humiliating actions.Eros/saturn is another biggie karmic too, I've seen this in the charts of couples who have something them together for years one example that popped up a few times were children but more so with power play in relationships. IP: Logged |
Peluches
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posted March 22, 2015 06:03 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
Well it's more than sexual, it can be a intense Longing to the point where you can feel powerless with them. Priapus will and make you compromise on things you've never thought of doing for another person more negatively even committing humiliating actions.
Would that energy be restricted with PRIAPUS conjunct SATURN ?
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ail221
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posted March 22, 2015 06:22 PM
I haven't seen it restricted perhaps the person denies that the other person has that effect on them.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 06:33 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
Well it's more than sexual, it can be a intense Longing to the point where you can feel powerless with them. Priapus can and will make you compromise on things you've never thought of doing for another person more negatively even committing humiliating actions.Eros/saturn is another biggie karmic too, I've seen this in the charts of couples who have something them together for years one example that popped up a few times were children but more so with power play in relationships.
Interesting. I wonder if this is why he suddenly stopped contacting me. Part of me really does believe something happened because things were going swimmingly, but all this talk of longing and whatnot I could definitely see in him. He was really, really nervous about meeting me and I was nervous about meeting him but excited. He has control issues in the sense he used to be an addict and he does not like feeling controlled by anything or controlling anyone (personally I think those are avoidable.) He had mentioned we'd been texting for two or three days non-stop and I agreed with that too. I asked him how he felt and I think his response was telling. Initially he said "Well, I don't know." and in the same sentence said he felt good and asked how I felt about it. But I think he inherently he was a little freaked out it was so comfortable so fast. With his Moon in Aries and whatnot I wonder if he prefers a back and forth, dramatic chase. IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted March 22, 2015 07:03 PM
He probably does have control issues with Sun/pluto/mercury conjunction and it looks like he has a wide Venus/Saturn conjunction, his reserved polite nature may be a part of this as well. Him not knowing how to express how he felt or understanding why he was so comfortable in a short amount of time may be due to this as well IP: Logged |
Peluches
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posted March 22, 2015 07:05 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
I haven't seen it restricted perhaps the person denies that the other person has that effect on them.
Got it. You're pretty good in your interpretations, you know  IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 22, 2015 08:08 PM
Agreed  @Ceridwen - I set up a thread for you in PR if you want to ask a question IP: Logged |
Orange
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posted March 22, 2015 08:55 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
Well Priapus can and will make you compromise on things you've never thought of doing for another person more negatively even committing humiliating actions.
ips.
Is that what Priapus does or the planet person affected by Priapus? IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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posted March 23, 2015 03:43 AM
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
His Priapus conjunct your moon bingo. Theres that fixation!
I've honestly found the fixation to be when it's your PRIAPUS that's hit. So perhaps his MOON is also on her PRIAPUS. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 23, 2015 11:55 AM
It looks like its in the same house but not close enough to be conjunct.IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted March 23, 2015 05:25 PM
Was this a new guy Hanna?IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 23, 2015 08:34 PM
Yeah, but he blew me off  I was SO bummed!IP: Logged |
Peluches
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posted March 23, 2015 08:36 PM
quote:
Originally posted by hannaramaa:
It looks like its in the same house but not close enough to be conjunct.
Depends on his birth time, actually. IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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posted March 23, 2015 08:58 PM
Yeah, his MOON is entirely TOB dependent, even though PRIAPUS tends to stay (like BML) in a degree for 24-36 hours. So his PRIAPUS is on your MOON, it would seem. But that doesn't explain the fixation from your end. PRIAPUS, I'm also becoming convinced, does not kick in until sexual energy is exchanged. Even if it's merely by one signalling the other; that is enough. PRIAPUS is so deeply devoted to the principle and prospect of merging that he has to guard himself to some extent. If he throws a line and nothing hooks, he's unlikely to continue to actively pursue. In short, PRIAPUS doesn't want to be friends. He can't merge mind, body, and soul on the level of friendship. He longs to meld deeply and powerfully with an energy that can welcome and orient his raw intensity. I've done a lot of work with PRIAPUS/BML dynamics within the past few years, to better understand the natures of both. It's been fascinating study that's proved very enlightening on the deeper dynamics of human relating. IP: Logged |
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