posted March 30, 2015 03:21 AM            

Ok , so in brief , I have had a short marriage of 3 months - where I got ditched and moved out and it took me 2 years to file for a divorce . it was 3-4 years back . since 2013 , i came to know about a colleague who had some mutual friends with me . we would rarely contact - and that too just about work . Then one day he called me up on my birthday and shared some things about his family . I connected immediately to him , but as i was going through divorce , i had changed a lot and hardly ever let myself have feelings for someone .
So a year and a half passed before I started realizing I really liked him and I almost said it . He said he was busy with settling down in his career and all . And being a leo , I said even i wasnt looking for a relationship and lied that i was committed , but just felt he was cute so was simply expressing it .
Later , i told him again i liked him . But again he didn't initiate anything , so i stepped back .
6 months later , we started talking again . I was havign some hard time in life with my parent's health , and he would call me up almost daily to give me courage . I fell for him and this time , I told him honestly that I wanted to see how it is to be with him . Just to make him feel easy , i told him i won't ask for a commitment . He told me he was in a relationship and loved that girl and they were going to get married . But he spent a nice day with me , talking to me over phone and texting the way I wanted.
Then he got busy and i also never contacted him after that .
3-4 months later , we connected back and when i asked about hsi marriage , he told me they had broken up . he was rude to me every now and then . I think he was just having hard time getting over the break up . But , he would say me sorry , the very next day.
He cared for me, i could see that . I asked him to atleast flirt with me and give me happiness. But he denied . He always said i am just a very good friend and he never feel the other thing for me - for reasons unknown .
Now we are back on the talking terms . He has started calling me up if i leave him a message . He lets me tell him i like him . Today , he didnt panic when i said i luvd him - first time on the phone . He shares his insecurities - tells me he feels i might not like him in person (We have never met each other in real life). I reassured him that all those insecurities meant nothing to me and i just wanted to be with him .
Am happy that he let's me atleast say what i want to . But then in the end of covnersation , he again tells me nothing is possible between us and that he can't think of me as smone more than a friend . However , he is coming to skype with me tomorrow - again for the first time . He wouldn't have agreed to do that in so many months.
He wished me morning today -something he won't do even if i almost begged for it . But in the end , again the same > we are jst friends dialogue !

Should i post some kind of a chart ? a horary ? any tarot reading ? something ??? I just am goign crazy thinking what is it that connects us so well since 2 years . Why is he running away from me and still cares ? is he insecure? is he cautious? is it something to do with my past? does he not find me appealing ? does he have some misconception about me or us ? he won't tell me the reason and says > i dnt know . so please tell me , where and how could i find the reason ? I really want to !

posted March 31, 2015 02:19 PM            

Just based off of the story, I would say meet him! That's the best way to progress things. Being together is a lot more intimate than texting/skyping. He sounds like he's taking you for granted. Generally if a guy doesn't want to lead a girl on, he'd avoid her. So I think he may feel something but he's passive for a number of reasons.