posted April 25, 2015 04:36 PM
Hi everyone here. 
I hope you can help me figuring this out. For ages, I've been wondering what this past boyfriend's placements could've been, as I can't remember his birthday. I didn't know him long enough to find out, but he was my first boyfriend and how he treated me affected me for years.
I can only say he was born in 1989 and school had this age boundary for children born in summer - I think everything before July was a year ahead of me. So that eliminates at least half of his possible birthdays. But I've been racking my brain, using ephemeris for possible birthdays. I think seeing the synastry can really help me heal from this, and to check if it fits into my pattern of relationships.
The story in short: we had been classmates for over a year and not really talked much, but that changed once we had to work together on some school assignments together, being assigned in the same group. Also, around that time, I started rebelling - like with dressing alternatively and quite androgyn, I cut my hair short and dyed it with red streaks, listened to heavy metal and became more into that scene, became mouthier to classmates who had, at that point, teased or made fun of me. But I also became friendlier, it was really weird, I would bike to school with some of them and just talk and hang out with more people.
He chased me for weeks, would compliment me a lot, wish me luck for tests and speeches right before we had them, rate my work high (the teachers wanted the class to decide more how they would rate it), stop to talk to me more often, work together on projects (I helped him with his school a lot) and when I was auditioning for the school's talent night with my guitar, he was really interested in what I was going to play, etc. Kept asking me about if I was seeing anyone, if I've had boyfriends before, what kind of guys they were and how it ended, how much experience I had period - all in front of other friends, even teachers. He made it really obvious and obviously wasn't scared to put himself out there, risking rejection.
I really, really liked him, and since he put in that much effort, I got over my nerves (I had this hunch at first, thought I had to see first and then believe) and told him I wanted to be with him. So everyone started getting into it - they all kept asking me what I thought of him, how we were doing, etc. And then, at lunchbreak, through walking by some of his friends talking about me, gossiping and telling him he had to tell me the truth because I "wouldn't understand" (none of them noticed me and a girlfriend passing by). At our final class, they were asking me again and constantly laughing at my responses (I had a really bad feeling at that point) and then went into the classroom.
I was slow, but he was late, entering shortly after me right before the teacher came in. And he yelled all through the classroom: "Rie, it was just a joke!" And that was it. I couldn't leave, the teacherr was there, so I had to sit through that class. My friends didn't even comfort me. After school, some of his friends asked me what I felt for him again. I just brushed it off, I was so embarrassed and ashamed I let this happen. Didn't want to give them any more things to make fun of me about.
The real kicker? He asked me to try again about a month later, after first altering between ignoring me and making rude comments to me, once even blocked my way into the classroom just for the lulz. He kept insisting he still had feelings for me and how we could try it again, but just not tell anyone (right in front of his best friend, whoo was there, too). I didn't trust him anymore and told him that. I think he trashed me again a couple of times even when I changed classes (I was taking a higher level of classes than he was).
So... long story, but what I want to know is: when youu're reading this, what aspects or signs come to mind? Either for his natal or synastry. I wrote down how I looked, too, because I may have suddenly matched his Venus sign. But even then I still took good care of my looks and made sure to put together a good outfit, etc.
My partner thinks he may have been treated badly by a past girlfriend he was in love with, and now he's taking it out on other girls (possibly so he can change the outcome - has the control this time). My dad thinks he genuinely had feelings for me, but peer pressure got to him - his status mattered more and he got scared , so he told everyone it was a joke.
So, what do you guys think? I have some ideas as well, but I mostly want to hear yours. Does this sound like a certain sign or aspect?
Many thanks to everyone who wants to help me!!
Lindaland
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posted April 25, 2015 04:36 PM