posted May 06, 2015 05:52 PM            

Haven't visited this forum for a while and am back. Have a question about a Virgo guy I recently met who seemed to be super interested in me in the beginning. We've gone out on a few dates, did some fun things together like hiking, movies, clubbing. He introduced me to his friends. Intimacy has happened. I've noticed that he has been a bit not as much with texting and calling as he was in the beginning. But he has been dealing with some personal/work related stuff, not sure if that may be what has been preoccupying his mind.

I am a Virgo too and even though I can be a bit aloof in the beginning, his change in behavior is starting to bother me. I've never dated a Virgo, so I don't know how they are when it comes to relationships. And I have to admit that my insecurities are coming out now and I am starting to freak out that maybe he just did all that pursuing, chocolates and flowers in the beginning so he could get sex.

Can someone shed a light on our compatibility. I don't know how to read sinastry charts.

One thing I should mention is that I was a bit surprised that he was very "charge on", calling, texting, making plans, coming to pick me up every time, not a typical "shy, reserved" Virgo man behavior that I usually read about. He is also very outgoing, definitely a "go getter" type of personality, jokes a lot, very confident with me and around with his friends. Are there any planets in his chart that make him act this way?

But when it comes to emotions, talking about feelings, last relationship, and being intimate, touchy (holding hands, kissing, hugging in public), he is very distant, which I am not used to because I am very affectionate and like it when a guy shows affection toward me. He also didn't seem comfortable when I asked him about his last relationship. He did tell me but it was brief answer and I could sense that he didn't want to talk about that, so I dropped it.

Is it again his planet placements that make him be so emotionally cold and uncomfortable about feelings/relationships subjects, or is this just a natural way Virgo men are? Or is he just starting to loose interest and trying to distant himself/fade away now that the chase is over?

I really like this guy and just want to hear if we are potentially a good match or if I should walk away before I get emotionally attached.

Appreciate any input.

posted May 07, 2015 03:02 AM            

I thought that synastry was what one usually needs to look at in order to see compatibility and how each planet connects/impacts each of the people's placements. No?

posted May 07, 2015 01:00 PM            

Please see his natal chart below.

Note that I don't know his exact time of birth, so I defaulted it to 12 noon.

posted May 07, 2015 02:03 PM            

Neptune on the Sun almost always creates an individual that is very difficult to understand and comprehend. Their sensitive disposition cannot be overstated. Moodiness and being unreachable at times is part of their disposition.

There is a stellium of Virgo that connects the chilly Saturn to the Venus in Virgo through the Sun/Mercury conjunction also in Virgo.

Saturn tends to make people very "proper" and very shy in showing/displaying physical affection. Especially when the conjunction is in "keep it simple" Virgo.

This is made even worse by the shy,evasive and difficult to pin down Neptune aspecting his Saturn/Sun mix- and thereby indirectly affecting the other two(Mercury and Venus)

So this is an individual who can be very distant(Saturn),but also very elusive (Neptune).

But the Mars/Moon conjunct in Cancer is quite the contradiction.

Mars warms up the Moon's affections and makes him the type who loves to cuddle and seeks out physical intimacy. But not necessarily always sexual intimacy.

This is the "go getter" that you saw because he really does want romance and all that mushy stuff in his life(Cancer).

But I don't see a particularly consistent individual. But one who often needs to be continuously encouraged and probed to make contact. Often very shy and self-doubting

He fears isolation and being loveless,but is also extremely retiring in expressing his affections satisfactorily.Almost loving in a defensive manner.

Moon/Mars conjunct, Neptune squaring the Virgo stellium makes for one enigmatic but moody disposition.

He is no player. Just someone who needs to figure out what is going on within most of the time. Hence the withdrawals.

posted May 07, 2015 02:34 PM            

Thank you for chiming in. It's a little hard for me to understand the technical terms you are using to describe him. The only things that are clear to me is where his "go getter" behavior was coming from and that he is not a player but rather "confused" about his needs/wants? Is that accurate?

Are you saying that because of his Virgo stellium and his Sun/Saturn conjunction, he is a hard person to deal with when in relationship?

Would you be able to interpret our Synastry? Are we a good match?

And most importantly, how do I behave around him? Meaning - do I just let him be and let it unfold, more like friends type of relationship, just hang out and see if a stronger bond develops? Or can I actually tell and ask him personal/deeper type of things? Or would it completely make this guy run for the hills? I am not sure if his Cancer Moon would appreciate my opening up to him and talking "more intimate things."

posted May 07, 2015 08:06 PM            

Here is our correct Synastry chart. I am on the inside in blue and he is on the outside of the wheel.

Thank you!

posted May 16, 2015 03:05 AM            

So sorry for the late reply, I had a lot going on.

The reason I asked for your natals was because its always the first thing you look at when determining compatibility.

The natal is what determines one's preferences, patterns and behaviour when it comes to relationships.

Although due to his brith time being unknown, it'll be hard to tell since the houses are greatly important in determining attraction.

But apart from that, I'll try my best to judge from his planetary sign placements/aspects.

Venus is what a man is attracted to in a romantic/aesthetic sense, the Moon is what gives him security, comfort, trust.

Him being a Virgo Sun & Venus will make him want a partner who fits his mental checklist of "perfect", (not necessarily in a conventional sense, but of what he thinks is suitable for him).
This can make him picky with whom to settle down and have a serious, committed partnership with. You having planets in Virgo appeals to him in a sexual/pleasurable type sense, but saying weather or not there's anything deeper would be determined by the Moon.

His Moon could either be in Cancer or Leo depending on his birth time, but regardless, you don't activate his Moon strongly enough, or fit its symbolism.
Your Jupiter conjunct his Moon does help, but it's not strong enough in and of itself, unless of course Jupiter was a significator if his romance houses.
But you might at times feel as though you're more wiser/mature than him, as if you're doing the teaching/guiding.

Venus-Node and Venus-Saturn conjunctions are very karmic in nature and its impact results in great growth for both individuals.
Your lessons with him will be those of maturing and letting go (Saturn), as well as unconditional love (Venus).

His open and fiery personality could be because of his Moon possibly being in Leo, or his natal Mars-Moon conjunction.

As to how you should behave around him, I'd suggest that you just go with the flow and be real and open.
Or else how would you both know if you want anything serious with one another?
There's no point in behaving in a way that's unnatural or not "you".
You don't have to be deep and raw with him right off the bat; let it unfold naturally like you said.
If he trusts you enough and is interested enough, he'll want to progress things further.
If he becomes even more distant, then it's his loss.
I don't think you should put up with his game playing and waste your time any further. It simply could be that he's not interested. If he was, he would pursue you.
Regardless though, you deserve a man who is into you just as much as you're into him.