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Topic: Is she a (true) friend or a foe?
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MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1326
From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 08, 2015 05:14 PM
  
I'm not 100% sure I can trust this girl. She already sabotaged a potential fling with a guy I liked very much. It's as though she's trying to ruin it on purpose. Her behavior is beyond shady whenever this guy comes into play. I am sure she is not into him, but I simply do not understand why she is acting so strange when he is around/his name comes up in a conversation. Can anyone enlighten me? Thank you! She is on the outside.  IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
Knowflake Posts: 144
From: New Jersey
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted May 08, 2015 05:19 PM
I'm worried about YOUR moon and mars falling into her 8th house. Whenever I have had someone's moon in my 8th house, they always turned on me. I'd express your concerns with her so you two don't end up doing things that could potentially ruin your friendship. IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1326
From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 08, 2015 05:32 PM
Than you Lacey  I tried, once but she told me she feels "lonely" even when I'm around because I don't understand her which is quite odd because to be fair, you shouldn't be friends with someone who apparently doesn't understand you! As for the guy situation, she's in denial. I talked to her about it but whenever I do mention the topic, she starts talking about something else or goes silent with a blank stare. She's not open to communication at all when it comes to him which makes me suspect she said something to him behind my back. Not to mention, she openly told me I don't look "pretty". Weird. IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
Knowflake Posts: 144
From: New Jersey
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted May 08, 2015 06:17 PM
Wow, she sounds like a huge jerk. I'm hoping the ugly comment was just some undetected sarcasm. Are you sure she doesn't like him? It kind of sounds like she does. IP: Logged |
Eirlys
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Registered: May 2013
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posted May 08, 2015 06:39 PM
quote:
Originally posted by MineAgain:
Than you Lacey I tried, once but she told me she feels "lonely" even when I'm around because I don't understand her which is quite odd because to be fair, you shouldn't be friends with someone who apparently doesn't understand you! As for the guy situation, she's in denial. I talked to her about it but whenever I do mention the topic, she starts talking about something else or goes silent with a blank stare. She's not open to communication at all when it comes to him which makes me suspect she said something to him behind my back. Not to mention, she openly told me I don't look "pretty". Weird.
She's jealous.
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Liliya
Knowflake Posts: 1169
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted May 08, 2015 07:03 PM
I've been following your threads about that Leo guy, and how your "friend" embarrased you in front of him. Are you sure she doesn't fancy him? Looks like there is a Sun/Venus, Sun/Moon, and other nice aspects going on. She may as well like him, even if she won't admit it, but deep down she sounds jealous, hence why she tried to "innocently" jeopardise your own comfortable order of events. Let me tell you, when I was a teen I had a best friend. She was 3.5 years older Pisces, much more experienced than me, and I really looked up to her. Every guy I fancied, she tried to something with him! For example, one guy she asked on a date, another she asked for a dance on a school disco. Fortunately for me, they refused, even though she was extremely gorgeous. Her excuse? "I just want to get to know them closer for you"  Ahh, forgiving and innocent me. These things would not pass with me now, obviously. My advise for you, lovely, don't share anything with her, try not to take her around with you on lunches, and try to catch your Cat alone without her around, you know, to avoid any situations where she'd try to embarrass you. Btw, I think that guy fancies you A LOT, as a Leo I see that from your descriptions, but you need to be a bit less harsh with him. It's not about his ego, it's the fact that you were a bit mean to him and hurt his feelings. Anybody would turn cold, be it Leo or Capricorn. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted May 08, 2015 08:13 PM
Can you put up her synastry with him?IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1326
From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 09, 2015 02:55 AM
Thank you all for your kind help!I realize I was a bit too naive confiding in her. Everything was going great with the guy until I told her I liked him. Things really started going south from that point on and he suddenly started backing off. I feel as though there is something I'm not aware of between her and him (I'm sure he does not fancy her, but she might have sabotaged it purposely). Although I admit I hurt his feelings by being a bit "tough" on him, my "friend's" shady behavior didn't help either. She told me the Leo guy doesn't say "Hi" to her anymore (for whatever reason). I said "Hi" to him two days ago, he replied and even stopped to have a small chat but we were both in a hurry so it didn't happen. Yesterday, I went to the kitchen to grab a coffee and she followed me there! Then, the Leo guy entered the room and at that point she told me: "Let's go, we have a lot of work, unless you wanna stay ..." (then she looked at him).
We didn't have a lot of work. I can arrange my work however I please especially as I am far more efficient than she is. Whenever I get an opportunity to interact with him, she comes in between and asks to leave or finds an excuse to avoid any possibility of him and I being in the same room.
Funny thing is whenever I got to the kitchen, he comes in like 3/5 minutes later (he's got no way of knowing whether I'm there or at my desk).
This is so not right. I didn't realize it at first but now I think she might fancy him because we went for lunch last time and she told me: "Did you see the page T. liked on FB yesterday?". Even I, the girl who has a crush on him, don't have enough time to check every single FB move this guy makes. Yet, she did check when she supposedly says she doesn't like him.
She even went as far as saying: "I think he's very well equiped down there". This thought didn't even cross my mind! Lord. She actually spent time thinking about this. Funny thing is whenever I got to the kitchen, he comes in like 3/5 minutes later (he's got no way of knowing whether I'm there or at my desk). She always follows me there, so there's no way I can have a chat with him. He blatantly ignores us when we're together.
One thing I noticed is that the Leo guy never speaks or says "Hi" to me when she's around. Super bizarre.
Anyway, here is her synastry with him:  IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1326
From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 09, 2015 03:08 AM
quote:
Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Wow, she sounds like a huge jerk. I'm hoping the ugly comment was just some undetected sarcasm. Are you sure she doesn't like him? It kind of sounds like she does.
No, she was not sarcastic. She literally told me: "Yeah, you don't look that pretty". Then, she tried to take it back by saying: "No, I mean you're cute, wear a necklace, T will find you pretty". What on earth? IP: Logged |
Bluejay
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Registered: Jun 2013
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posted May 09, 2015 05:45 AM
I think she's definitely jealous of you. Your Sun, Venus and Pluto conjunct her Pluto...in Scorpio no less, probably makes her feel very inadequate in your presence, and brings out her jealous side. I agree that she might like him too, and is trying to sabotage your chances with him. I think she's the one that doesn't get you, since she's a water void, and is probably oblivious to how her behavior affects your feelings. Also, I've seen your picture before and you're gorgeous, so any girl that says you aren't pretty is being a hater.I've had three very close "friends" that called themselves my "best friend", yet they were always trying to sabotage things with every guy that I liked. One girl even went as far as to tell guys that I had a crazy jealous boyfriend that I kept secret, a lie to scare guys away. Another girl messed around with every guy I liked. Even my childhood best friend(a Virgo Sun with Moon conjunct Pluto) carved "I love Chris" (my junior high boyfriend) into her arm with a razor the day after we started going out. She never once expressed any interest in him, so it was completely insane and unexpected. She just didn't want me having a boyfriend. I'm also a Scorpio Sun and Mercury with 5 planets in the 8th including Moon conjunct Pluto, so even my female relationships have themes of jealousy and possessiveness. You will probably have that problem too with your Scorpio Sun/Venus/Pluto stellium. This girl seems very shady. I think the Leo probably likes you, and she's jealous. Why else would she be checking his social media. She might not even like him that much, but just doesn't want you to have him. IP: Logged |
12muddy
Knowflake Posts: 2170
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posted May 09, 2015 09:39 AM
I don't think she's your "friend". No friend would say or do crap like that. quote:
Originally posted by Bluejay:
She might not even like him that much, but just doesn't want you to have him.
Exactly. And with those pluto synastry aspects, there's a chance she might be obsessed or possessive of you so she doesn't want you to get away from her grip. ---
You're a scorpio, I'm pretty sure you can come up with some decent plans to ditch the meddling girl and find some private moments with him.
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MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1326
From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 09, 2015 10:24 AM
I agree. She might be slightly possessive of me to the point where she alienated me from the rest of our colleagues because they're not "good enough". Last thursday, I went for a run with another colleague of ours (she wasn't invited, nobody talks to her), I swear she got a bit weird with me after that. I really want to find a way to talk to him, alone without her around but it's hard because she won't have lunch with people other than me. When I asked her, she was like: "I don't want to. You're the only one I want to have lunch with, I don't care about the others". I don't think she's into him at all. She just doesn't want me to "date" him. She knows he likes me, she's the one who pointed it. I'm not sure how to behave with her, because she seems immature when she doesn't get what she wants. IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1326
From: A Thousand Miles From Philadelphia
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 09, 2015 04:24 PM
According to this synastry, do you guys think she likes him? Thanks! IP: Logged | |
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