posted May 09, 2015 04:43 PM            

My Lilith conjunct his sun (& pallas & ceres)
His lilith conjunct my sun.

My lilith is also conjunct pluto - so my pluto is conj his sun.

And lastly...our liliths are opposite.

Venus opp venus
My NN opp his his venus.
My moon trine his venus.

posted May 09, 2015 07:20 PM            

LILITH, whether she's the asteroid or the Black Moon, is the independent, no-holds-barred feminist and ball-buster. One's SUN will illuminate that in the other's chart, possibly causing the SUN to appear to embody those traits, or just drawing attention to them internally. The SUN always illuminates. At times, it's the mere reflection of the image that causes the SUN to follow suit.

So the most dangerous side of Lilith is the home-wrecker or promiscuous vamp. The one about which men fantasise but could never realise in any functional form. And so Lilith carries with her a feeling of unattainability and perpetual fantasy. Of wanting and never possessing, as she won't be possessed.

When a woman's SUN illuminates a man's LILITH, he tends to unconsciously attribute these traits to her: the dominatrix, the man eater, the one over which there can be much fruitless obsession. It can be quite attractive -- or dangerous. Or both.

If the mean Black Moon, then she's her more civilised form; not domesticated, but able to integrate into society. If true, she'll be wilder and uncompromising. The asteroid, LILITH 1181 is a mixture of the two, per my data. She's the lady in white with the crotchless leather panties; the happy homemaker -- who just may have the pool boy in the closet, as well as dinner on the table at 7. She's a wily one. Much depends upon her natal aspects, and how much she's likely to find conventional integration into society versus going against its dictates most to her liking or preference.

In either case, the female SUN will not only bring these traits to light in a man's LILITH, but he will unconsciously attribute them to her, as it's what he perceives. Many times, she'll follow along, discovering or deepening these facets of herself. Eventually, it's tough to see where the signal originated: from within LILITH per his perception of the SUN? Or due to elements in the SUN's nature which were readily visible by LILITH?

The goal is for both to understand how the less conventional and more equality-based -- even feminist -- attitudes towards sexuality operate in relationship dynamics. And they're likely to have to compare notes, and realise that perceptual differences are part and parcel for the experience.

In the case of male SUN on female LILITH, he's bringing these to light within herself, typically so she may integrate and at least acknowledge these parts of herself -- which tend to be seen as less societally desirable and often buried.

When it's male LILITH to female SUN, she has to reflect back the man's own concept of Lilith, rather than embody or discover her own. She may even feel she's been cast in a role she has no idea how to play, as it's being written and conceived by him, rather than her.