posted June 25, 2015 09:43 PM            

I've only had relationships with soul mates or deep connexions. (A lot of ground to cover, karmically speaking.)

posted June 25, 2015 10:30 PM            

I think if we were to meet our perfect mate too early in life, we may not be able to appreciate them as much as we should had we struggled a bit first (either with them or other people).

I will say though, my current love interest and I have really great synastry. Best I've ever had. It's too early to tell what's gonna happen though.

posted June 25, 2015 10:42 PM            

His NN conjunct my ASC
My NN conjunct his DSC
His Mars/Vertex conjunct my IC
My Vertex conjunct his SN
My Mercury conjunct his MC
My Pluto conjunct his IC (we're a generation apart)
His Jupiter conjunct my SN

posted June 25, 2015 11:11 PM            

Really good synastry like 1 in a hundred thousand? More often that mere chance would suggest!

In part, I think it's due to how my natal chart is set up. It's hard to make just one or two aspects because so many of my planets aspect each other. If you hit my Venus, you hit my NN and probably touch Saturn and my Asc too. Touch Mercury, and touch the Vortex axis along with as many as 3 squares... Moon? Another T square looking to be a grand cross in synastry...

The ones who don't tend to have some other crazy thing going, like Mars *and* Venus both conjunct my sun 1° orb.

posted June 26, 2015 02:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemini Blues:

In part, I think it's due to how my natal chart is set up.

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posted June 26, 2015 07:41 AM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

AstroMandala

posted June 26, 2015 09:11 AM            

He wasn't ready for commitment and I didn't know my worth to make a long story short and we were way to young to have met and fall in love so it was just a lot of confusion, chaos, and deep feelings. We used to literally cry together on the phone because were so in love.& we were only teenagers! Our story is a crazy one, but all and all, it wasn't all bad. Looking back at our relationship then viewing our synastry, it was unrequitted on his part because despite our amazing synastry, his Venus is unaspected in our synastry besides a weak sextile to my chiron! Haha.

I do consider him a soulmate and without that experience, I wouldn't have learned what true love feels like. Even if it wasn't real love, it felt like the real deal so I'm content with that. Besides my parents love, I came close to it.

In our Synastry, here are some aspects I think contributed to such a fated relationship:

My Sun in his 8th house.
My Pluto in his 8th house.
My Mercury in his 8th house.
My mars in his 8th house.
My NN in his 8th house.

My Moon in his 7th house.
My Jupiter in his 7th house.
My Venus in his 7th house.
My Juno in his 7th house.
My 7th house cusp in his 8th house.

My Valentine in his 5th house.

His Moon on my 8th house cusp.
His NN in my 7th house.
His Venus in my 7th house.
His Mercury in my 7th house.
His 7th house cusp in my 5th house.

His Karma in my 5th house.
His Psyche in my 5th house.
His Vertex in my 5th house.
His Jupiter in my 5th house.

And those were just our House Overlays! <3

Actual Aspects Between Us?

His Sun conjunct My Venus.
His Sun conjunct My Mercury.
His Sun conjunct My Jupiter.

Moon sextile Moon (5 degrees).
Moon semi-sextile Pluto both ways.

His Mars trine My Sun.

Mars trine Mars.
His Mars trine My Pluto.
His Pluto conjunct my Sun.

His Mercury conjunct My Pluto.

His Saturn trine My Moon (9 degrees).
His Saturn square My Sun.
His Saturn square My Mercury.
His Saturn square My Venus.

My Saturn sextile his Moon (3 degrees).
My Saturn square his Mercury.
My Saturn square his Venus.
My Saturn quincunx his Mars (1 degree orb).

Saturn quintile Venus double-whammy (1 degree orb).

His Psyche conjunct My Moon Exact (0 degrees).
His Karma conjunct My Moon Exact (0 degrees).

His Valentine opposite My Mercury.
His Valentine opposite My Venus.

His NN sextile My Moon (Exact).

My Amor conjunct His Moon (2 degrees).
My Psyche conjunct His Venus (0 degrees).

My Valentine opposite His Saturn.

In Composite!

Packed 7th house.
Mars in the 5th house.
Scorpio Love Stellium (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Pluto).
Karma in Scorpio.
Psyche in Scorpio.

Saturn in the 10th house square Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus

Pluto in Scorpio conjunct Moon, Mercury, Venus in Scorpio

Pluto Sextile Mars.

Karma conjunct Mercury and Venus (Max 3 degrees).
Psyche conjunct Sun and Mercury (Max 3 degrees).

Destinn conjunct Jupiter (1degree).
Juno conjunct chiron (3 degrees).
Vertex conjunct Jupiter (2 degrees).

posted June 26, 2015 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by polkadotstars:
I am curious. How many of you have found someone that you had AMAZING synastry with? Did it work out? Did it not work out? And how rare is this to find? Granted "amazing" is subjective to everybody's individual opinions, however I'm referring to almost "soul mate" like synastry.

I looked up Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt's synastry yesterday and was amazed at their vertex-venus and vertex-ascendant conjunctions and all these other aspects that make them almost "soul mates" together. And I started thinking- wow I wonder how common it is to meet someone who you just have outstanding synastry with.

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There is a guy I know who we have over 10 trines. Literally our every personal planet is trined from sun to Venus, with our Mars' being conjunct.

We met, immediately became friends, had an extremely short-lived fling, then went back to being friends. The physical chemistry was there but the physical attraction is not strong for me, and I think for both of us the emotional bond was just not strong enough to form a lasting relationship. We are still good friends, though and we DO have tons in common. Just not the same goals (or esoteric ideas).

posted June 26, 2015 11:54 AM            

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
I think if we were to meet our perfect mate too early in life, we may not be able to appreciate them as much as we should had we struggled a bit first (either with them or other people).

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I agree with this.

I think we're all different as well in terms of what is ideal synastry. Like for me, being so heavily fixed and Plutonian with a water moon, my needs are going to be different than someone who is all Venusian or mutable, you know? Such a person would probably prefer all trines. I prefer sextiles to trines personally.

posted June 26, 2015 01:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:

There is a guy I know who we have over 10 trines. Literally our every personal planet is trined from sun to Venus, with our Mars' being conjunct.

We met, immediately became friends, had an extremely short-lived fling, then went back to being friends. The physical chemistry was there but the physical attraction is not strong for me, and I think for both of us the emotional bond was just not strong enough to form a lasting relationship. We are still good friends, though and we DO have tons in common. Just not the same goals (or esoteric ideas).

Meanwhile, the guy with whom I have 10 squares, 4 conjunctions, 6 sextiles and a single trine is the love of my life . For me, soulmate synastry is apparently not the easy synastry!

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Same here. I had a very "easy" relationship with who I considered to be my "best friend" but I really struggled with it romantically because it was...too easy? Like there was no...drive or passion or OOMPH that I wanted to feel.

Now in my relationship with what seems like impossible squares I feel bound to him in a way I didn't with my ex even though it's definitely not as easy.

posted June 26, 2015 02:16 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
Same here. I had a very "easy" relationship with who I considered to be my "best friend" but I really struggled with it romantically because it was...too easy? Like there was no...drive or passion or OOMPH that I wanted to feel.

Now in my relationship with what seems like impossible squares I feel bound to him in a way I didn't with my ex even though it's definitely not as easy.

Funny how that works.

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I think you need hard aspects and contacts to the angles/ascendant to add "sparks," compatible moons so that your home doesn't turn into a complete war zone, and Neptune to add forgiveness.

posted June 26, 2015 07:45 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:

His NN conjunct my ASC
My NN conjunct his DSC
His Mars/Vertex conjunct my IC
My Vertex conjunct his SN
My Mercury conjunct his MC
My Pluto conjunct his IC (we're a generation apart)
His Jupiter conjunct my SN

All of these orbs less than 4 degrees apart

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Hmmmmm. What's 'less than 4°' exactly? Closer to 2° or 3°? Because with NODES and VERTICES, it's best to keep them very tight. 3° or less.

posted June 26, 2015 08:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Hmmmmm. What's 'less than 4°' exactly? Closer to 2° or 3°? Because with NODES and VERTICES, it's best to keep them very tight. 3° or less.

As it stands, looks like soulmate synastry, to me.

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Hi Aubyanne! You just inspired me to check..

My Vertex is conjunct his SN at 0°49
His Vertex is conjunct my IC at 0°57
My Moon is conjunct his DC at 2°21
My Mercury (ASC ruler) is conjunct his MC at 3°25
My Pluto is conjunct his IC at 4°48
My Mars is conjunct his SN at 3°38
His Jupiter is conjunct my SN at 1°22
His NN conjunct my ASC is rather wide (7 degrees)

posted June 26, 2015 08:22 PM            

Sounds so much like my first 'deepest love' that it's eerie. (Minus the age gap.) I was 19, he was 17. Powerful Soulmates. But, ohhhhh, how we loved each other.

'Twas not to be. His mother is a paranoid schizophrenic who declared war on any woman who might manage to steal his heart. We were both paranormal investigators who met through friends on a creative project. We became friends after, and I invited him to my birthday (which was often a dual Hallowe'en party). When he arrived as Mulder, and I was Scully ... it was pretty much a done deal after that.

I had been free to take my own assignments for the past three months, but I didn't have a partner, and the organisation operates via buddy system. He joined, was a natural fit, and we were taking cases together, driving all over North Texas within a month. I was also a new collegian, and we had the First Year Formal upcoming the following year ... I invited him along as a friend. Plus, he was my partner, and it wasn't THAT crazy. Hell, he even hung out while I got ready for the dance. So when I say 'he was my bud', I'm not being euphemistic. We were tight.

We danced to a song that was really popular that year, 'The Dolphins Cry' by Live. He came back up to my apartment, and we stumbled into the 'what are we?' conversation. Yeah, we were crazy about each other, with neither wanting to make the first move. First kisses are always lame. This one was magical. I can still lose myself in the memory of it; the delicious mixture of anticipation and fear -- your heart racing and your brain screaming but your soul soaring.

His mother tried to run me over in her car. She bashed his head into the door as they left. He had moved in with my parents a month prior and starting seeing my mother (who was a practising psychologist then) in order to escape his abusive parents -- and heal. He was only allowed to see me once -- to end the relationship.

I hid his shoes so that he couldn't leave, and stood before the door. He cried when he found them, and I had to move. I vowed to never beg a man not to leave after that. I broke it, but only once, when I was 30.

I was also an on-call vocalist at my campus. He came to a show I had a month later. I sang Sarah McLachlan's 'Possession' from the depth of my soul. He offered to bring me back to my parents' house, as I stayed there on weekends. This huge storm had been building for most of the day. 'Dolphins Cry' came on the radio; the rain was already pouring down before the third verse, and I was in his lap, feeling the whole of his energy envelope me finally once again. We'd never even pulled out of the parking lot.

It begun in November 1999 and ended 15 April 2000. Permanently.

His mother attempted suicide. His father was in the process of assembling a rifle. He called me from his car on the way to pleading with his father not to kill me. And, of course, agreed never to see me again -- to have zero contact -- after the call.

He got my answering machine. I was in College Station having the time of my life with my two besties from elementary and high school; the soul-sisters of which we're 'the triplets'.

We were starring in my first audio drama series, which was seeing a good run. I'd just written the toughest episode -- the season finale. Our characters are torn apart by the establishment. (It was bizarrely X-Files-y for the fact it predates it by a year.) I'd written it early that morning. 'The Price of Truth'. Turns out it's high.

We only 'spoke' again Valentine's Day, 2002. It was online. I'd contacted him under an alias. We had a good conversation -- for strangers. As I was leaving for class, he said 'talk to you later, Auby.' He knew.

I was in a new relationship by then. It was serious, too. I'd lost my virginity and was wearing a promise ring. But at least I knew he was okay. It was then, that evening, that he told me everything; why he disappeared. Why he had to be so cruel. He sought my forgiveness. He received it.

He's married now. Interracial. (Take that, bigot!) His mother hates it. He doesn't care. He's a successful vet with a wife also in the bio-sciences.

He drank heavily the night before his wedding, and watched my wedding video on YouTube. More than once. We had a long talk. I wanted to know he was happy. He said 'I gave up on happiness long ago. Now I just want to not die alone.' It broke my heart.

I admitted, at some point, that he taught me what real love was. He agreed. You could see it, too, in every photo we took. Real love.

posted June 27, 2015 01:59 AM            

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Originally posted by polkadotstars:
Aww Auby, can I give your hug??? That is so heart wrenching

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:: hugs :: Thanks, polka. It's weird how, after all of these years, I'm still able to recount it 'as if it were yesterday'. These are the Soulmates that shape us along our journey, though. And I am SO grateful that he taught me what real love should be, and at such a young age.

posted June 27, 2015 07:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
:: hugs :: Thanks, polka. It's weird how, after all of these years, I'm still able to recount it 'as if it were yesterday'. These are the Soulmates that shape us along our journey, though. And I am SO grateful that he taught me what real love should be, and at such a young age.

I bungled it a few times thereafter -- perhaps because it's rare. Then we settle. Then we realise we shouldn't be settling. Then we elevate ourselves, and find real love again, and at the right time.

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