posted June 28, 2015 01:52 PM            

Any cap moons here? I am really confused, I can not understand my boyfriend, who has cap moon (Venus Gemini).
Lately, he is keeping emotional distance, but at the same time talks about our future together which is very confusing. We have been together over a year.
An acquaintance of mine is trying to take advantage of the situation and is showering me with attention, which is not making things easy. It makes me feel more strongly of what I am deprived of in my relationship.

posted June 28, 2015 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I am a Cap Moon.

He's most likely dealing with a problem of some sort. We disappear into our brains when that happens because all we can concentrate on is solving the damn problem! Just remain yourself to show him you are loyal and for the love of all things holy, do NOT, get tempted by this other suitor!!!! Your Cap Moon will never forgive you and quite possibly destroy your mental well-being in the process.

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posted June 28, 2015 06:46 PM            

Emotional and spontaneous displays are not a Cap moon's forte, that's for sure. It's just not our default setting and we're a bit awkward with hugs, cuddling, love declarations, etc. We show our love in more practical ways and are subtle when smitten. One way or another, our childhoods reinforced self-reliance and stoicism as key survival mechanisms. That said, we feel deeply and are affected by quite a few things, but believe in "holding it together".

If your Cap moon guy is more emotionally distant than usual, he is probably especially burdened with something (personal or professional) and is slowly working things out. That's one thing that links Caps with Cancers; we tend to sort of shut down when overtaxed, but lean all the way into our ambition. If he's still contemplating a future with you, chances are the issue doesn't involve you and you'll have to wait for him to divulge. Cap moons, thematically, are steadily working towards emotionality and vulnerability. I can't adequately express how hard that is. Time and patience are key.

Now as for this acquaintance, I'm not one to judge. I'd guess that he's a more expressive type, right? I can see how, compared to the Cap moon model, his attention would seem appealing. Just remember that what Cap moons lack in spontaneity, they make up for in devotion, dependability, and reverence. In short, they're in it for the long haul whereas some of the more demonstrative types can be changeable.

If your Cap moon guy is no longer what you want, just be upfront and do not cheat. At the 1+ year mark, you've already passed the all-important test of time in his book; don't ruin it with disloyalty. That certainly won't help to bolster his emotional availability. That'll also mess with your karma; a Cap theme, ironically . In the end, honor yourself and go with who will really cherish you in the ways you need. What are your placements? What do you need to feel secure and loved --in the long and short term?

Here are some articles that provide a closer glimpse into this energy (from a site I love): http://www.theastrologyplace.uk/2010/10/moon-in-capricorn.html
http://www.theastrologyplace.uk/2015/04/moon-saturn-aspects-give-me-just-little.html

posted June 29, 2015 12:11 PM            

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Originally posted by leosag:
Hey,

Any cap moons here? I am really confused, I can not understand my boyfriend, who has cap moon (Venus Gemini).
Lately, he is keeping emotional distance, but at the same time talks about our future together which is very confusing. We have been together over a year.
An acquaintance of mine is trying to take advantage of the situation and is showering me with attention, which is not making things easy. It makes me feel more strongly of what I am deprived of in my relationship.

I love my boyfriend and it will break my heart if we would split up. How can I get him to become more emotionally available?

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Cappy Moon guy here-basically concurring with what others have said, I personally find expressing my emotions difficult, though not impossible under certain circumstances (my moon makes a trine to my Torus Venus and another to my Vergo Asc, which probably helps a bit). Not wanting to worry "the other" is a big reason I've held back from being more emotionally expressive in relationships in the past from what I remember.

I also agree with those who say that if I have a problem confronting me I'd favour trying to sort it myself at all costs rather than sharing it. It could be worth saying the "a problem shared is a problem halfed" shpeel-though be as subtle as you can be about it.

Finally I'd echo the sentiments expressed earlier on in this thread-if you want to break off the relationship, better to do it now than later. Personally I haven't been in a relationship for 6 years not because I really don't want to be in one, but because I want to be 100 % sure that committing to someone is the right thing to do-for them as well as for me if that makes sense.

Best of luck in resolving this issue, one way or the other.

posted June 29, 2015 01:59 PM            

Yes, he is awkward with hugs, cuddling, love declarations, etc. So, I try not to overwhelm him with display of affection.
I do not know if it is my Leo sun or Virgo venus that makes it hard to keep my hands off him. My Virgo venus makes me take love very seriously: http://www.alwaysastrology.com/virgo-venus.html. Fortunately I have Sag moon help to be happy-go-lucky and free-spirited, it softens the Virgo seriousness.

About yungang_grotto´s comment, is the cap moon, gemini venus person really able to contemplate infidelities and at the same time tell me that he wants me to meet his parents, when they come to the city next month?

How would a cap moon, gemini venus behave, when actually loosing interest and not just withdraw to deal with his problems?

posted June 29, 2015 02:40 PM            

And here is synastry chart:

posted July 01, 2015 02:51 PM            

Btw, today I got a hint about what is worrying him. Luckily it is nothing bad, actually, rather good to our relationship and I feel that he is starting to open up to me again.