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posted July 06, 2015 03:08 PM            

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Hello! I've watched the site for a long time but just recently decided to join. Could someone look at our chart and give your opinion. I feel like the mars sq venus is getting in our way for sure. We both have natals with badly aspected moons. We have a connection for sure, his venus in aqua always wants to do the "friend" thing and HATES it when I get overly emotional. Which I tend to do. Then with my taurus mars I get pushy and don't stop. I'm not sure if I should give it up, I feel like maybe I'm more into him than he is me? He never lets me go though either and forgives everything unconditionally so that gets confusing for me, lol.

Thanks a ton in advance for your responses!
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posted July 07, 2015 10:24 PM            

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Liz, there's no chart to reference. Try reposting.

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posted July 10, 2015 01:15 AM            

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posted July 10, 2015 01:17 AM            

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It will enlarge when you click on it. He's the outside, I'm in inside. Thank you

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posted July 10, 2015 07:12 AM            

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Venus sq. Mars can be an attractive dynamic even with the harder aspects so I wouldn't think that would be a real deal breaker. I believe there's lots of other aspects that are causing the push and pull.

My first thoughts are that your Sun and Pluto trine his Moon and therefore he feels uncomfortable because he may feel like you have a certain 'power' over his emotions. If he hasn't come to grips with his own emotional nature (Moon in Cancer), he most likely becomes defensive as a way to avoid looking at his own emotions. With his Pluto in his 8th house and yours in there as well, you almost highlight his own intense nature to a degree that may be uncomfortable for him. Lastly, your Mars signs are opposites so I would give that more weight than Venus sq. Mars. Mars in Taurus and Mars in Scorpio don't usually agree on the way to go about doing something.

Generally, these issues can be overcome as there's never solely negative aspects but they depend on the growth and maturity of each individual to look at their dynamic and want to change it. Making you 'overly' emotional may be his way to feel more powerful and reduce the effects of the power he feels you have over him. If he were to make a more concerted effort towards his own emotions, he wouldn't need these defensive measures. It's interesting that both your NN are in the 12th house of Pisces, indicating that the push/pull of savior/martyr are in both your subconscious, so this back and forth, overly emotional dynamic is something that you both want to grow through and evolve towards a more balanced emotional state.

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posted July 10, 2015 11:55 AM            

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Interesting perspective about the moon/Pluto trine. I guess I'm so used to Pluto being negatively aspected to me that I didn't think about the tribe being very powerful!

I appreciate your reply!!

Sometimes it feels perfect, other days I just feel like I need to walk away because he isn't interested in me and I hate to waste my time :/

But then shortly after, it's perfect again, we both forgive so easily.

With a Mars/Venus DW I'm not sure how he couldn't be interested in me though.

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posted July 10, 2015 12:30 PM            

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Looking at the chart some more, I think it's his issues and you have to decide whether he has it in him to deal with them.

His Moon in Cancer opposite Saturn in Capricorn, both their natural rulers means it's a real tough struggle for him, not to mention Moon opp. Neptune, Uranus, Mercury. He's just not quite there emotionally and it's going to be a large growth aspect for him.

So the flip-flopping is basically the oppositions. He doesn't have a framework or understanding of how to be balanced, so he either goes from one extreme to the other.

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posted July 10, 2015 04:26 PM            

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posted July 10, 2015 04:28 PM            

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Do you believe there to be any hope with these placements? His moon isn't great and neither is mine. It definitely shows in our actions.

Changing him obviously isn't an option, is there a way that I can attempt to better deal with these placements of his maybe?

Thank you so much for your help! This has been nagging at me, bad! Lol

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posted July 10, 2015 07:43 PM            

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Do you mind posting your individual charts? It might allow me to better see where each person can rely on their strengths outside of the relationship dynamic.

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posted July 10, 2015 07:53 PM            

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posted July 12, 2015 07:49 AM            

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Looking at the charts, I keep getting that his Saturn Return in 2 years will be a big deal for him. You're going through yours right now, but his, especially with Pluto following closely behind is going to almost be healing for him.

I just noticed both times are 12pm? Does that mean you don't know the birth times? It will affect the house overlay positions and won't give an accurate reading in synastry.

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