posted July 18, 2015 09:25 PM            

Because he told me his birthdate awhile ago, I have known that our synastry was strong. Last week, I finally got up the nerve to ask him his birth time and place (kind of a weird question to ask a coworker, ha ha), and now that I know his ascendant, it is official that this is by far the best chemistry that I have ever experienced, and probably will ever experience in this particular lifetime. Sigh.

Even though it is ironic and bittersweet that I share this great synastry with someone who is not available for a romantic relationship with me, I am still enjoying the chemistry and the friendship for what it is (of course, I wish circumstances were different, but I accept reality).

I am going to post our synastry chart in another post, in case anyone has any thoughts, words of comfort, validation, guidance, etc. for me about how to approach this situation.

In the meantime, here is a list of some of the major aspects between our charts:

Less than one degree orb:

My Sun trine his Sun
My Sun square his Moon
My Descendant conjunct his Moon
My Mars opposite his Mars
My Venus opposite his Mars (= 1 degree orb)
My Moon opposite his Sun/Moon midpoint
My Moon conjunct his N Node
My Neptune conjunct his S Node
My Neptune conjunct his Sun/Moon midpoint
My Chiron opposite his Venus
My Moon Square his Mercury
My Saturn opposite his Saturn

Less than 2 degrees orb:

His Uranus opposite my Venus
My Ceres opposite his Venus

Less than 3 degrees orb:

My Venus trine his Venus
My Uranus conjunct his Venus
(the rulers of our descendants conjunct)
His Chiron conjunct my Venus
His Sun trine my Saturn
My Sun opposite his Saturn

Approx. 4 degree orb:

My Mars trine his Venus

House Overlays:

-- My Sun, Moon, Saturn, and Mercury in his 7th House
-- My Venus and Mars in his 8th House
-- His Moon conjunct my Descendant in 7th

Thanks in advance for any comments anyone has to offer. I will try to post the chart in a few minutes.

posted July 18, 2015 09:33 PM            

Is the Universe torturing me, or what? :-)

posted July 19, 2015 09:35 AM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

AstroMandala

posted July 19, 2015 04:47 PM            

LeeLoo, I did not realize that our incongruent genders/orientations actually showed up in the synastry. That is very interesting!

Starmoon, thanks for the reassurance. Yes, one of my fears is that this is a very rare, "once-in-a-lifetime" synastry that I will not be able to find again. But, I do realize that it is up to the Universe, and all things are possible.

Aunt Anomalia, thank you for your sympathy and understanding! Believe it or not, when I met this particular guy, I was already in the throes of a connection with another guy where we had Venus conjunct Chiron double whammy as well as lots of other close aspects. I thought that that particular soul connection would be the best that I would ever encounter, when along came this other one. I am still in touch with Soul Connection (SC) #1, but he moved out of the country before the romance ever materialized. SC #1 caused a lot of pain, then along came SC #2 (my coworker) and his energy actually helped to heal my heartbreak from SC #1, without inflicting similar pain. So, I am very grateful to him for that (perhaps one day I will have the opportunity to share that information with him). But I hope that I am done with chiron/venus for this lifetime, as it has been brutal, ha ha!

Yes, I will continue to appreciate the friendship and the loving energy between us for what they are. In a way, the orientation issue makes it easier to detach because it leaves no room for me to hope for a romance in the future. My romantic karma in this lifetime has been rough and heartbreaking, but also very useful for accelerating my spiritual path. Lots of strong connections with unavailable men. But, on the positive side, I do have lots of love in my life in other forms, and I am an autonomous person who enjoys my own company and living alone (with pets).

posted July 21, 2015 06:34 PM            

Also, the synastry with this guy is not bad, but I wouldn't say it's the best I've ever seen. You activate his 7th and 8th houses of partnership and intimacy, but don't really touch his 5th house of romance. From your side he does active you 5th and 7th houses, but his Virgo Sun and Mercury are not really apart of your attraction pattern. Right now you are enamored with his Aquarius Moon, Sag Mars/Uranus/Neptune, and Libra Venus/Pluto. But if you were with him eventually you'd see his is not completely your type.

Another point I'd like to make... I'm one of those who believes that great synastry is made of a mixture of soft and hard aspects. Only there are some hard aspects that are very difficult to handle over long periods of time. Saturn opp Saturn can be a problem because your orientations towards responsibility contradict each other, and with both Saturns in fixed signs this could lead to long stand offs where neither wishes to compromise their practical priorities. Another hard aspect which can be difficult is Mars opp Mars conj Uranus. By itself Mars opp Mars might be manageable, but with Uranus on his end as part of it things could get very volatile, and he might have a tendency to rebel against your wishes. Your Venus is also part of this opposition, and that is why you're attracted, because on a surface level Venus/Mars/Uranus combos provide great chemistry... Up close and personal though, clashes would become much more evident with that electrified Mars/Mars/Uranus combo. As Leeloo pointed out I can see how this aspect literally shows your opposite orientations, you'll passionately want opposite things.

Okay, so there are positive things about this synastry too. His Venus in Libra trine your Venus/Mars in Gemini is very nice, and would help clashes to be mitigated with diplomacy and basic liking. It probably also shows again why you are attracted, and why he likes you in general. But underneath the veneer of politeness the clashes are still there. When the polite surface is ripped away from the relationship things could get angry and volatile.

posted July 21, 2015 09:26 PM            

And thank you so much for your thorough, thoughtful analysis, Lotis White! I appreciate you reminding me about the downside of some of our aspects.
My natal Moon/Neptune opposition gets me into trouble sometimes with romantic fantasy and delusion, so it is good to be reminded of reality. Even if he were straight and single, our relationship would still not be perfect (age difference, among other things).

Uranus and Saturn are definitely spoilers here, as you pointed out, and I would have to add Chiron to the mix as well. Yes, I have already had glimpses of the volatile, rebellious dynamic that you mentioned. But above all else, there is just so much intense energy and electricity between us, it can certainly be difficult to handle for any length of time. So, perhaps that is another downside of a synastry with too many close aspects (esp. where certain planets are involved) -- it can be overstimulating to be around each other, sometimes to the point of exhaustion. I can tell that the energetic connection between us really has him feeling very confused and bewildered sometimes as well.

But I have to admit that I am surprised that you stated that his Virgo Sun is not a part of my attraction pattern because I adore Virgos! Virgo Suns and Moons seem to consistently magnetize me more often than any other placement! Huh. I suppose you are referring to where Virgo falls in terms of my house placements.

I also recently realized that transiting Pluto in Cap is currently forming a Grand Trine with both of our natal Suns (mine at 15 degrees Taurus and his at 15 degrees Virgo), so perhaps Pluto is making our connection feel more potent right now, and hopefully the intensity will eventually subside once Pluto moves further along?