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Topic: please help! why does he keep coming back?
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mereiposa
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posted August 03, 2015 08:21 PM
  
this is a past relationship. he is very erratic, disappears and then resurfaces. We have some wonderful synastry aspects, plus some ugly ones. And our composite chart is VERY challenging. At the same time, we have a few soulmate clues. Karmic soulmate? I have this uncanny telepathy with him. Dreams, thinking of him and he shows up, and 11s surface all the time when I was with him, and then they disappeared when I walked away. A few days ago I started seeing 11-11 everywhere, and he showed up out of the blue. Clearly seeking me out. synastry:
[IMG]http://i394.photobucket.com/albums/pp22/merehart1/3cb73a75-5a7e -408a-aa40-34f9bd323cac_zpsq13jlefr.gif[/IMG] composite:
[IMG]http://i394.photobucket.com/albums/pp22/merehart1/4117f2d4-dcad -4d0a-8232-bb076380e8ce_zpszjzacpia.gif[/IMG] IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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From: New Jersey
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted August 03, 2015 08:50 PM
Are you on the outside or inside?IP: Logged |
mereiposa
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posted August 03, 2015 09:15 PM
I am on the inside!IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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From: New Jersey
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted August 03, 2015 09:25 PM
Venus/Mars opposition, Mars/Pluto conjunction, Moon/Neptune Conjunction. His sun falling into your 8th, along with your sun. All very romantic, and passionate. IP: Logged |
mereiposa
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posted August 03, 2015 09:30 PM
we have moon pluto dw, and his juno completes a grand trine of my venus and chiron.but he disappears. why? for months? and he does not want a public relationship. he does not want to date, he just contacts me out of the blue and reconnects, only to disappear again. sag moon and mars? why does he not want to show commitment? we talk about all kinds of things and I see him as an ideal partner, and I think he sees me that way too... but he's being a jerk! why no commitment and why the disappearing? IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted August 03, 2015 11:40 PM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Venus/Mars opposition, Mars/Pluto conjunction, Moon/Neptune Conjunction. His sun falling into your 8th, along with your sun. All very romantic, and passionate.
What are your thoughts on MARS conjunct PLUTO, Lacey? And, for that matter, MOON-NEPTUNE? IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
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posted August 03, 2015 11:42 PM
Also, tVENUS Retro is when exes tend to come back into the picture. It's a time for review and reevaluation, possibly reconsideration, but not always. Oftentimes, there's an attempt at resolution of some form; closure, typically.IP: Logged |
mereiposa
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posted August 04, 2015 05:32 AM
I forgot about tVenus retro. This is my second pluto mars. My ex-husband has the same pluto conjunct my mars. It did nothing sexually for me with him, but there were definitely power struggles. However, my ex-husband and I also had venus pluto trine. But with this one it was crazy sexual. With this one we have trine and sextile moon/pluto, trine and square mars venus, etc. His mars on my AC, venus on my DC. My sun on his AC, my moon on his DC. Our chart rulers talk, and as per reading LeeLoo's explanation (thank you LeeLoo)- we are our secondary venus type. But does that mean we are supposed to work out for long term? Composite uranus squares look like no! moon neptune is interesting. I dreamed of him and he told me he was coming back in the dream. He did. But that was the first break up. When I left this time, I didn't say anything to him, just let the lapse grow. I never dreamed of him and felt at peace with my decision. I also felt like I knew what his thoughts were, and why he would do what he would do. But maybe that is my moon on his DC as well?
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LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted August 04, 2015 05:58 AM
Good charts, and even Mars/Uranus can be workable, it's in a stable structure.
But what you need is to accept him ONLY in the conditions you like; this is a lesson for you, it's not in the synastry; don't accept him coming and going. He's either in or out; if he disappears, he looses you, period.He's coming back because you accept it. Tell him or show him what kind of relationship you really want. ------------------
I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... AstroMandala Summer Readings IP: Logged |
florence
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posted August 04, 2015 08:53 AM
I was thinking moon/neptune before follow up posts as that was my exp of it. IP: Logged |
mereiposa
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posted August 04, 2015 04:11 PM
thanks everyoneI agree that I am done with his disappearing act. I just quit participating and he never followed up. It's been more than two months since I saw him. I actually started dating someone else, but the second he showed up the other day all the thoughts and feelings came back. If, and its a big if, he contacts me about getting together, I plan on telling him its not ok with me to be back and forth. I do agree thats not synastry, but bad habits of him doing it and me accepting it. I have stopped myself from feeling more, but I felt from the very beginning I could love that man. His true self is kind, but instead he has been showing me he's a jerk. Thats why I moved on.
The composite though- uranus squares, saturn squaring the ascendant, and pluto squares everywhere. That's not a good composite is it?
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