posted August 21, 2015 06:32 PM            

I should say I am not not exactly single. I have a boyfriend (Aquarius Sun/Scorpio Moon) whom I am trying to make things work. The Aquarius/Taurus knows about him. In fact when I was working with him we had just broken up. When we hung out I mentioned that we weren't done and were sharing a phone (and other financial obligations)...he immediately asked me if he see's all my messages. The night ended with him telling me that I shouldn't get back with my boyfriend as I have a lot of potential (I probably should have asked him to elaborate on that).

I don't want to leave my boyfriend unless I know I've tried my hardest to make it work...and I was starting to think about the Aqua/Taurus a little (ok...lot) more than I'd like. As a result of that, I told him that I cared more than he did (ie he's not attracted to me), and that it was for me to deal with. I also told him I'd be pushing for friendship to not make him feel uncomfortable. So as of right now I'm trying to be a friend to him (you'd think it would be easy...he's a Super 11th house/Uranus Aqua), but it's not exactly working as he went mia on me. As a result of him going mia I decided to leave it alone. Since then I can't stop thinking about him (or stop from being super jealous...he has Transiting Jupiter exactly Conjunct his DC right now...plus he meets soooo many women). But back to my point, right now I'm trying to convince myself that these feelings aren't real as I'm seeing what I want to see, and that he couldn't possibly feel anything. My question is...is it though? For some reason I feel a huge pull towards him and I'm not entirely sure why...I'm chucking it up to sexual attraction but is that really all there is?

posted August 21, 2015 06:35 PM            

My Natal:

His Natal:

Our Synastry:

Our Composite:

posted August 21, 2015 06:52 PM            

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posted August 21, 2015 11:04 PM            

Have you considered that you may be having an emotional affair? Are you okay with this? If we tell you, 'wow! This is amazing synastry!' is that justification for what is essentially an emotional affair?

The simple fact is, if you're 'waiting to see' if something is going to happen with someone else, you're not dedicating yourself to your boyfriend to make your relationship work.

posted August 22, 2015 12:47 PM            

No, I'm not looking for justification as to why do have an emotional affair. I'm more looking at why am I so drawn towards him. I've had crushes before but they weren't so intense, so I'm just wondering what is going on as to why I seem to actually have feelings for him.

I know about my Mars Opp his Venus/Mars, I was wondering was the intense attraction more due to the Moon Conjunct his Venus/Mars. The Mars Conjunction to my Moon is under 1 orb. Or perhaps the Vertex/IC Conjunction, the SN and NN stuff, or his chart ruler (Nep) loosely Conjunct my chart ruler (Moon). I'm just at a loss for why I feel the way I do. But I'm also wondering if I'm projecting, after all his Neptune does touch a whole lot.

posted August 23, 2015 11:39 PM            

For your Taurus moon, I was born 2 days before your guy. Venus and Mars in Cap do not hit on people who are attached and when he said he is not interested and is looking for serious relationship, add that with his Taurus moon and going MIA, id say that he doesnt want anything from you romantically. There's nothing to reading between the lines here. He offers his opinion on your Scorpio moon bf out of kindness really. Lots of us Aqua give unsolicited advices to other. He's heavily fixed and he's not just in and out like mutable ppl.

Mars in Capricorn knows what he wants and so does benus in Cap. We don't develop feelings for others easily. This guy also has sun-square Pluto bar ally. From his natal chart, I know he doesn't have feelings for you.

posted November 30, 2015 03:47 AM            

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posted November 30, 2015 08:15 PM            

but there is a major difficulty.
satrun id quintile to the moon/node which means that you sometimes are a cross ends of things. this is an aspect friction. and the satrun/moon midpoint is opposed to orcus and square to pluto and mercury. this unfortunately shows there are real problems with intimacy in that there are deep emotional issues that are not talked about. so in spite of the amazing chemistry, there seems to be emotional periods when everything seems cold and distant yet for no reason.
with the moon square to juno and pholous, there are feeling of commitment but there may be cultural or religious difference that hinder this.

posted December 03, 2015 03:09 AM            

Everything you said is so true. We do experience some occasional blocks and someone going a little cold/withdrawing. But I chucked that up to us both being very Saturn/Cap like, along with Saturn being aspected by both of us. It's strange he gets very distant if I say something that expresses "mushy" like appreciation. Responsive, but distant. He also gets distant when I talk about other men (I have a feeling that is the Taurus side). I will admit that I have admitted how I feel about him, but I also admitted that I don't think we are a good fit. The sad part is I kinda do feel like we might be a good fit, there is (I guess) fear is the only way to describe it.

You are scarily right about there being some cultural and/or religious issues. He's actually a different race than I. I see he has a 7th house Jupiter, which might make him attracted to other races, and while I'm not the first Latina he has "hung out" with, I am the first black Latina. So there is that. I actually have been thinking that I want to keep him as a friend and not pursue anything. I can't help but shake the idea that he really doesn't want to be just my friend. It's a shame because I do care for him, but it's hard being friends when you can't talk about certain things. For instance he gets distant and unresponsive everytime I talk about being interested in or meeting someone or when I asked him to set me up. He also refuses to even talk about other girls, or if there is one. In fact right now he hasn't texted me back when we were talking about 5k marathon training. That was shortly before Thanksgiving, I in passing (because we are just friends) had mentioned a man I was flirting with at the gym and haven't heard from him since. I do care for him I want him to be happy. I just am starting to realize that perhaps this is someone that being friends with isn't an option. He's an Aquarius with a stellium in the 11th Conjunct Uranus...this should be something he can do.