posted September 02, 2015 07:48 PM            

We've been friends for 5 years now, yet everytime we talk which is usually every week, we instantly put each other in a good mood. We argue in a way that is so comfortable, where we talk it out and tell each other how much we care about each other, that it doesn't even feel like an argument. We make each other laugh, we renember little tidbits each other has said, we comment on how much we love each others certain quirks. It's the attention to these little things that consumes me with love for him. He makes me feel a way no one else has ever had.

Yet we're both with someone else, and we both love the other person inmensely. But I just can't look past how he makes me feel... What should I do?

Here is our composite chart

and our synastry chart

posted September 02, 2015 08:11 PM            

Your story is hardly unbelievable to me. It happens. Stories all come from somewhere; faerie-tales originate from some place; some state of feeling or experience. Though -- good heavens, I'd hope you'd not think of Twilight when you think of true love! While I can see how there's a relationship to the feeling of 'being in love', there's so much about that story that's flat-out ridiculous, it's hardly a model upon which to base an understanding of anything.

But, returning to your actual experience here, I suppose I'll have to ask; even as I know you're quite young, to have a solid, close friendship that continues on for years despite being in relationships with other people -- is often a good enough basis to be certain you're not making a mistake being with other people. Now, in some cases, there's karma to sort out and what-not, but in others ... it's an indication you may be happier in another relationship.

No one's married with kids, so you've both got the means to sort things out accordingly, rather than be stuck in a more troubled situation.

If you ask me, the worst thing you can do is be in love with someone else while involved with another. It isn't fair to either in the situation, and is most often resolved by changing your circumstances.

Have the two of you talked openly, honestly, and straightforward about your feelings for one another? That's not being unfaithful -- that's being real. And, should you both decide that, were circumstances different, you would have pursued a relationship, now you have to question whether or not it's worth it to both of you to do so -- which means the uncomfortable business about coming clean with your partner (and he doing the same with his) and deciding where to go from there.

Not to mention, there's always polyamory as a workable solution. If you're in love with your best friend and your boyfriend, you may actually be capable of it. However, if you're only in love with your best friend, and haven't been in love with your boyfriend for a while ... monogamy is more likely your basic orientation.

posted September 02, 2015 09:58 PM            

Person in blue has Venus conj Pluto and Moon conj South Node natally. Do they often have troublesome relationships with others? Do they often project feelings intensely which turn out to never be in their best interest?

I don't know what the hell it is about Uranus leading to immediate, electric chemistry. I find that so weird - like why *that* planet and not Neptune, or say, Pluto? But I guess it makes sense. You want psychic dreaminess and an immediate sense of home? Neptune. You want to feel your cheeks burn with desire and experience a full body rush of sexual hunger and psychological obsession? Pluto. You want to immediately be zapped to a stand-attention-military pose because this strangers energy has suddenly caught your eye? Uranus.

posted September 02, 2015 11:12 PM            

My boyfriend and I, actually.

VENUS square URANUS (0°)
URANUS conjunct VENUS (9°)

Why count the second, right? I do so merely for the symbolism of the dual-aspect. Not to mention with URANUS rising on our composite, 0° conjunct ASC. It could be his URA in my 1H which adds to the effect, or the exactitude of the square.

I do believe it's troublesome if you're not exhibiting very Uranian traits, or the relationship isn't very Uranian in nature. Then the two might always be struggling to 'sync up', as you'd mentioned. That, or one of you could be bold enough to refuse to allow obstacles to stand in your way. But few are truly so brazen.

posted September 03, 2015 04:50 AM            

It has already been mentioned you two have aspects for attraction. You're the one that need to decide if it's worth pursuing.

I see you two have a very special friendship. You already have a treasure there.