posted September 06, 2015 09:13 PM            

More other uranus events happened today for instance her aunt had to spend the night with her and I know the wifi and her aunt and her job isn't her fault and this stupid 9 hour different time zone is stressing me out more then ever and all of these (URANUS) events are happening between us that are totally OUT of OUR CONTROL and I feel like not talking to her for a while because im so sick of us talking when im busy our schedules are always clashing lately and am noticing more VISIBALLY NOW.

Ps: I don't know if it's this uranus retrograde transit effecting me and her but transit uranus retrograde in aries is SQUARING my sun/Union and its squaring our composite saturn in the 4th house and it's conjuncting her VERTEX/APHRODITE in the 7th. And plus uranus is transiting BOTH of our 7th houses INCLUDING our composite 7th house. Im just so stressed out and transiting pluto retrograde is also effecting our composite MOON/MARS/NEPTUNE in the 4th and many more transits.

posted September 06, 2015 09:38 PM            

I'm thinking that this period is to prompt (apparently, us) to evaluate our needs more closely, and ask what we're really seeking, and if we're getting it.

Have you considered spending some time solo? I don't mean break up; just spend some more time engaged in solitary activities?

In my case, my boyfriend has been overcome with a kind of ennui; his usual warmth is gone. He's grown cold, distant, and is dealing with emotions he'd had buried for ... only three decades. And it's driving me a little crazy. I keep wanting to break through; to thaw what's encasing him. To free him from this sadness and emptiness.

... but I can't. No one can. Only he can. All I can do is be here, when he needs, as he needs it.

posted September 06, 2015 10:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
I know exactly how you feel. And I have issues with engulfment, commitment, and emotional intimacy myself. Serious ones.

I'm thinking that this period is to prompt (apparently, us) to evaluate our needs more closely, and ask what we're really seeking, and if we're getting it.

Have you considered spending some time solo? I don't mean break up; just spend some more time engaged in solitary activities?

In my case, my boyfriend has been overcome with a kind of ennui; his usual warmth is gone. He's grown cold, distant, and is dealing with emotions I'd had buried for ... only three decades. And it's driving me a little crazy. I keep wanting to break through; to thaw what's encasing him. To free him from this sadness and emptiness.

... but I can't. No one can. Only he can. All I can do is be here, when he needs, as he needs it.

That's ... actually very hard. To be present, and not feel with the depth that he's inspired within me. But, this too, is a greater lesson.

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Thank you so much for understanding Aubyanne and I'm sure you do understand since your also in a prominent uranian relationship as well and a cardinal libra that's going under the transit as well and your fellow cardinal bf ;( (I think i remember you saying he's a cap as well....).

Anyways thank you so much for your Turanus interpretation and that i must take it into account. and Yes i have thought about spending more time alone and just telling her that we should take a break on the phone calls since it seems that our schedules have been clashing so much since this transit has taken into effect on us, but i feel like she won't be happy about it and that i need to relax that this ****** period will be over soon.

and yes i understand what your saying I'm sorry to hear your bf has been distant with you lately =( that must suck so much and you are right all we can do is be here when they need and need it and to just trust them and be patient and understand the events he is going through.

Your message made me feel better thank you

posted September 07, 2015 10:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
... okay, that's just weird.

I'd typed 'emotions that he'd buried for three decades'. I know I did. Why did it come out 'I'd' ? That was ... strange. Granted, I had buried my emotions for ... almost my whole life (35 years). But I was referring to the 30 years that he's been emotionally withdrawn.

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