posted November 01, 2015 08:10 AM            

And how do aspects to it play out?

posted November 02, 2015 06:12 PM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

posted November 02, 2015 08:50 PM            

My boyfriend and I have been on this slow, steady path, in many ways, beginning 5 years ago (but only having been formalised for 2 -- as of this past week). I agree entirely that CHIRON can become a powerful glue that binds you, once you've taken (or decided to undertake) the complicated -- even gruelling and painful -- work of lancing these long-festering wounds, so that they may finally be expelled and begin to heal.

Ohhhhhh, my, yes.

It's all just a little bit surreal when we're together; the way it's all come about. We began our relationship under the complex auspices of being very good friends who decided that, as asexuals, we might be missing out on a deeper sense of integration as human beings -- legitimately, not intended to be facetious. We decided to explore this via sexual relationship, which led to a total deconstruction of the very nature of sex itself, building upon scores of bodies of research that's come before -- and all of it, curiously, leaving our very demographic completely out of the picture.

Over time, we became this strange force working behind the scenes that's set off a true watershed -- leading to so many healing either directly, or indirectly. We've never claimed any of this for ourselves; in fact, we can't, as the potential scandal resulting from it could be damaging to those who might be harmed. CHIRON is, undoubtedly, pain as well; not to mention being brave enough to break from the herd, do your own thing, and live authentically. We desperately try to do this, but, again, being part of a greater society, and a matrix within that, we must consider the effects upon others that would be affected. Those who must know, know. Those who don't know are being shielded from this information for many reasons: most of which is prejudice, potential ostracism, and failing to understand why certain unconventional decisions were made -- in the pursuit of authenticity -- and greater happiness.

Through that lens -- wow -- our relationship is incredibly Chirotic. I know, I know; as if the 0º conjunction to the DSC wasn't enough of a sign.

In order to be able to teach, we've first had to learn. And, of course, in order to heal others, we've first had to learn to, and engage in, our own healing.

At this stage in the process, we must actively hide our relationship and its nature, as our interaction is so instinctive and in sync. We've transcended the sort of familiarity engendered by best friends, family, and even spouses; (though, I have such a powerful intimacy with my husband, in my case, it's the exception, not the rule.) There's an 'old' adage among TV producers and writers that your partner becomes your most 'intimate' link; even as these are platonic 95% of the time, the level of intimacy is extreme in its nature, so that it rivals actual intimate relationships. We are so aligned, on such a profound level, it's staggering. The fear and security-seeking behaviours are releasing; the validation-driven needs are giving way to stronger, healthier bonds built upon a solid foundation of trust and mutual understanding, rather than the need for control, or to possess out of fear of abandonment.

It's really, really, really amazing.

Perhaps this is the other side of the Chirotic nightmare: if you endure, hold together, and strive to overcome your wounds -- together, as well as independently -- rather than running from the relationship which excavates so much deep wounding and unresolved pain. You truly can experience a depth of love -- unconditional in its composition, devoted yet liberated, and truly transcendent.