posted November 22, 2015 03:07 PM            

We have been "dating" the past 6 months. Not oficially together.

We met due to some really extreme circumstances going on in his life when he asked for my help, from there I fell in love.

I have had this stange connection to him from the moment I met him, and I know he feels it,too, although he would never say it.

In the beginning when we were hanging out as friends and I was helping him he was very chatty, upbeat, and fun. Now, he literally won't show emotion. We are always together when he comes back from work on the weekeds. He has introduced me to friends and family, and I have gone with him as his date to more than a few family/friends parties.

I take the emotionally shut down part as a form of rejection, then feel all insecure, and it drives me nuts. I am very cuddly with him, and he is sweet in other ways, and he said that since we started seeing each other he isn't seeing anyone else, but I just can't figure him out. I want more of a comittment from him (maybe actually referring to me as his girlfriend, that's a good start) but he said everything takes time. I see that eveything as far as emotional things are snails pace with him. I also know he is searching for "the one" (his words, and this was all before I looked up his sign info) but I wonder if I am just a time-passer for him while other issues are going on in his life or if he actually has deeper feelings for me, would like a future, but really is painfully cautious about letting himself feel for someone and expressing it.

I have read everywhere that Scorpios are very attentive and expressive when in love. Maybe he just isn't as into me as I am into him? Maybe he never will be? It's like he put up an even bigger wall once we crossed from the friend zone into dating.

I think he might be testing me to see if I will stick around (he has a history of women breaking his heart, but I bet it is also caused by his bad behavior during dating). He said in the past on 2 occasions when he really felt like she may have been "the one" and decided to commit, that they ended up leaving him. Says he doesn't know why.

To be honest, I don't mind sticking around if I know in the end when he feels like he can trust me and let's his guard down that we will be together and it will be different. I just don't want to think I am investing my feelings for nothing, and I can't just back off a little. It has always been an all or nothing thing with me, and even if I try to distance myself so I don't get to emotionally involved it just doesn't work. I also don't want to pressure him at all. I have never been a casual dater, and it's either 100% from me or nothing. I am also very verbal when it comes to expessing emotions, I prefer to talk out an issue than remain silent (most of the time), and he just gets overwhelmed and shuts down and then needs his space to recharge (which I'm ok with, as I do the private recharge thing myself at times).

I don't know this is so confusing.

If somebody could please please please help with a synastry breakdown I would oh so very much appreciate it.

It really is a long and crazy story, and I have this deep down feeling like we were supposed to meet and this was all supposed to happen and I haven't had that feeling before with someone (though I have had long-term relationships before).

He also has certain things he does or thinks is acceptable concerning other women that just really make me totally insecure and even harder in my mind to trust him.

there are so many more details, probably important, I just don't want to make this post too drawn out if it might not be helpful

Any help would be greatly appreciated please

My birthday : June 27 1986 in Washington DC time unknown (either 8:04 am or pm, not sure)

posted November 23, 2015 05:38 PM            

This is from Astro.com

I wasn't sure which box options to click

posted November 23, 2015 07:57 PM            

My suggestion is to back off and see what he does. If he comes after you, then there's your answer.

posted November 24, 2015 10:42 AM            

I really appreciate it