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Topic: hii help me please, are we going to break up? transits
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actiondilaa
Newflake Posts: 16
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 10:13 AM
  
ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 7 months, and we love each other a lot. it was love at first sight. but lately ive been feeling that he is drifting apart from me and so am i from him, i feel like i just wont care if we are over, i dont know whats wrong with me, because i love him so much.
so my chart transits are:
NN in 1st house
uranus in 6th house
SN in 7th house
pluto in 8th house
uranus in 10th house
and his transits are:
uranus in 4th house
venus in 11th house
uranus in 1th house
pluto in 10th house
neptune in 4th house
saturn in 7th house
neptune in 12th house
those transits scare me.. does this mean were gonna be over soon? IP: Logged |
Cappi112
Knowflake Posts: 398
From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: May 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 10:20 AM
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Originally posted by actiondilaa:
ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 7 months, and we love each other a lot. it was love at first sight. but lately ive been feeling that he is drifting apart from me and so am i from him, i feel like i just wont care if we are over, i dont know whats wrong with me, because i love him so much.
so my chart transits are:
NN in 1st house
uranus in 6th house
SN in 7th house
pluto in 8th house
uranus in 10th house
and his transits are:
uranus in 4th house
venus in 11th house
uranus in 1th house
pluto in 10th house
neptune in 4th house
saturn in 7th house
neptune in 12th house
those transits scare me.. does this mean were gonna be over soon?
My only advice for you is not to do this to your relationship, or you definitely will... I mean that gently. I did what you're doing, repeatedly, the entire first year my boyfriend and I were dating... it caused us to break up each time, not because of a transit, but because I was CONVINCED something bad was going to happen because of reading into the worst possible transits. Some people can get comfort in looking at upcoming transits, some people just dig their graves. All transits have the potential to shake things up. Many couples go through rough transits and rather than break up, wind up pregnant or engaged, or moving in together, or some other LIFE CHANGING thing. Others break up. None of us can tell you if you guys are going to survive these transits. Do you have reason to think you two are on thin ice? If yes, then focus on that and how to work it out. If no, then I advise you to not look for trouble where there isn't any. 
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actiondilaa
Newflake Posts: 16
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 10:30 AM
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Originally posted by Cappi112:
My only advice for you is not to do this to your relationship, or you definitely will... I mean that gently.I did what you're doing, repeatedly, the entire first year my boyfriend and I were dating... it caused us to break up each time, not because of a transit, but because I was CONVINCED something bad was going to happen because of reading into the worst possible transits. Some people can get comfort in looking at upcoming transits, some people just dig their graves. All transits have the potential to shake things up. Many couples go through rough transits and rather than break up, wind up pregnant or engaged, or moving in together, or some other LIFE CHANGING thing. Others break up. None of us can tell you if you guys are going to survive these transits. Do you have reason to think you two are on thin ice? If yes, then focus on that and how to work it out. If no, then I advise you to not look for trouble where there isn't any.
thank you so much
but there is trouble, he is drifting away from me and i did nothing wrong, and when he does this i start feeling like i dont care anymore, but i love him so much i dont wanna lose him IP: Logged |
Cappi112
Knowflake Posts: 398
From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: May 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 11:18 AM
Is he drifting away in a real way, or are you perceiving it that way?I've done what you're saying a lot - insisting that he is being 'distant' or doesn't seem interested, when in actuality he was just busier during that time and if I had waited it out, things would have been fine. But if I was looking for trouble... this always escalated to major problems. If he is blatantly ignoring you or standing you up all the time, that's one thing. If he just 'seems' a little distant, I would give it some time. Wait for him to contact you. Wait for things to even out. IP: Logged |
Cappi112
Knowflake Posts: 398
From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: May 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 11:20 AM
Also, if you did nothing wrong, this is not your problem anyway. Ask him what's up, but if he says things are fine, you need to just chill and wait. And don't look at transits. :-pIP: Logged |
Empty Spaces
Knowflake Posts: 449
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 11:36 AM
I dont know much things about transits.Unfortunally.How is pluto in 8th??How it feels?
Sorry i should help you instead of asking a question but i dont know anyone dealing with that and Im scared.
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PLEASE dont quote!♡
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actiondilaa
Newflake Posts: 16
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 11:36 AM
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Originally posted by Cappi112:
Also, if you did nothing wrong, this is not your problem anyway. Ask him what's up, but if he says things are fine, you need to just chill and wait. And don't look at transits. :-p
thank you so much ur right IP: Logged |
actiondilaa
Newflake Posts: 16
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 11:38 AM
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Originally posted by Empty Spaces:
I dont know much things about transits.Unfortunally.How is pluto in 8th??How it feels?
Sorry i should help you instead of asking a question but i dont know anyone dealing with that and Im scared.
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PLEASE dont quote!♡
idk i dont really feel anything yet but i guess i will in a few days maybe because this transit is very long for me IP: Logged |
Empty Spaces
Knowflake Posts: 449
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 03, 2015 11:48 AM
Yes is a very long transit.I will have that soon! 
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malicefey
Knowflake Posts: 311
From: New York, NY
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 03, 2015 11:53 AM
I've always felt that when the other person is 'drifting' away we all tend to react rather than reflect. One thing I can suggest is having open honest communication. Not one where you are reacting. Hopefully he can be honest too and let you know what's been going on in his world. Then and only then can you two come to a potential compromise/solution. Be brave! If you love him, you need to learn to be more intimate and enforce a loving bond. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
Moderator Posts: 22923
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted December 03, 2015 12:34 PM
transits through houses do not mean anything on their own. They have to make close aspects to natal planets to manifest outwardly.
Anyway as for anything else I think the other posters gave good suggestions.
Do not worry yourself sick about something that could or could not happen. Communicate with your boyfriend about what worries you.
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Aries23Degrees
Knowflake Posts: 2616
From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 04, 2015 11:53 PM
I'd like to see both your charts.IP: Logged |
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