posted December 16, 2015 05:44 PM            

I haven't really looked at our synastry for a while, but now I suddenly realised that my Pluto squares both her Jupiter, Mercury and Mars in leo.

These are really bad aspects to have in any sort of friendships/relationship!!

I really feel we are struggling with some kind of power issue... she is very popular and liked by everyone, while I am sort of.... anonymous (or at least I'm not especially popular)

I never cared especially much about that we are so different before, until she started to "hit on my boyfriend" to a party "for the fun of it" (she is so well-liked by everyone that she just does whatever she wants for the fun of it - shes leo).... I asked my boyfriend what he thought of her without revealing my thoughts, and he said that he really liked her personality.... then it really started bothering me that her personality seems so much more fun than me....

And now I just think it's no fun anymore, to be taken advantage of all the time, to be given the cold shoulder and especially that she seems to have a soft spot for my (libra) boyfriend and he just think she is nice (like everyone else)

posted December 16, 2015 06:34 PM            

personally when it comes to a friendship or relationship i dont like to see heavy prominent dejanira in the synastry. i would not particpate and nessus. i have my own experience with friends with heavy dejanira and nessus and trust me it was abusive and lots of jealousy. i mean lots. i experienced a woman having her nessus on my ASC i am talking exact and she was JEALOUS of me she was so intmated by me and she was very manipulative and sent bad energies towards me. im not joking. But honestly that's just my preference when it comes to synastry with friendships.

posted December 16, 2015 07:09 PM            

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Originally posted by llewsacm:
In my experience, there are some friendships and relationships that you outgrow. You learn something from them and move on, making new friendships. I have very few close friends that have been in my life for 20+ years. The others had a place in my life at certain times, but the focus turned elsewhere after a while. Most just faded away without any confrontation.

It may be my synastry with them aspecting my nodes. I've noticed some ( for those I have birth data for) had contacts with my lunar nodes, and perhaps I was to learn something from that contact. You should reflect on what this relationship is triggering in you and determine if you are learning something from it. Thats what I would do anyway. Then figure out if it can bring any further value to your life. If you now feel it is destructive, fond out why and figure out those feelings in you. Then work on strengthening the relationship...or let it fade.

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I think it would be best to let it fade out now... I don't grow from this friendship anymore, I only get more and more annoyed.

posted December 16, 2015 07:22 PM            

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Originally posted by angel4845:
no not at all. bad synastry and bad composites doesnt make or break a relationship or friendship to be honest. it really depends what the individual Natal's are doing.

personally when it comes to a friendship or relationship i dont like to see heavy prominent dejanira in the synastry. i would not particpate and nessus. i have my own experience with friends with heavy dejanira and nessus and trust me it was abusive and lots of jealousy. i mean lots. i experienced a woman having her nessus on my ASC i am talking exact and she was JEALOUS of me she was so intmated by me and she was very manipulative and sent bad energies towards me. im not joking. But honestly that's just my preference when it comes to synastry with friendships.

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posted December 16, 2015 09:42 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
So why are people telling me I won't have a good friendship with this guy after they read our synastry and composite chart if it doesn't make or break a relationship?

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Because they don't have enough experience. There analysis and research is based by just looking at synastry. We have to see the individual natals and decide what is suitable for you in a synastry in terms of friendship and relationship.

posted December 17, 2015 08:41 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
I like or dislike people because of their personality/behavior and astrology comes second. I will never hang on due to great synastry or avoid due to "bad" synastry.
Astrology never influences who I allow into my life.

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And to add... If you are referring to her as a "friend" (and I cant blame you) instead of a friend, I would drop her like a bad habit. Sefiously who needs enemies with friends like that?

Astrology aside, you need to surround yourself with people who love and respect you. What she did, flirting with your boyfriend "just because", is so unbelievably disrespectful I have to give you kudos for not dragging her outside by her hair and teaching her a swift painful lesson in respect. I cant say I would have been able to hold myself back.

posted December 17, 2015 09:20 AM            

To me it's not a harmless game. In my view she was testing the water to see if she could steal your boyfriend from you (or get him to cheat) to make herself feel better. A way to compete against you. Not that she had those intentions, to get him to cheat etc but just to see if he'd "bite" so to speak.
Her ego taking priority over your friendship. That to me is the "unevolved" Leo type.

posted December 17, 2015 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by LionFish:
And to add... If you are referring to her as a "friend" (and I cant blame you) instead of a friend, I would drop her like a bad habit. Sefiously who needs enemies with friends like that?

Astrology aside, you need to surround yourself with people who love and respect you. What she did, flirting with your boyfriend "just because", is so unbelievably disrespectful I have to give you kudos for not dragging her outside by her hair and teaching her a swift painful lesson in respect. I cant say I would have been able to hold myself back.

Dang that makes my blood boil.

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Yeah so true, I felt I was burning inside afterwards... 1: Because one of my good friends just hit on my boyfriend all in the open in front of me 2: Because I asked my boyfriend what he thought of her afterwards and he just said she was sooo funny and had such an amazing personality...

You know, really it is a dealbreaker to me. No matter how much they fit together or whatever, you just don't hit on your friends boyfriend.
I feel that if we ever broke up she would go all in, and thats disturbing to me. It's like she has no self-control, but doesn't respect my feelings at all.

posted December 17, 2015 04:46 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Yeah so true, I felt I was burning inside afterwards... 1: Because one of my good friends just hit on my boyfriend all in the open in front of me 2: Because I asked my boyfriend what he thought of her afterwards and he just said she was sooo funny and had such an amazing personality...

You know, really it is a dealbreaker to me. No matter how much they fit together or whatever, you just don't hit on your friends boyfriend.
I feel that if we ever broke up she would go all in, and thats disturbing to me. It's like she has no self-control, but doesn't respect my feelings at all.

Thats it, this "friendship" is so over seriously

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