posted December 18, 2015 12:02 AM            

In your opinion, which charts look better? Do these charts indicate that they are attracted to me but not in a long term, meaningful way?

Here is the synastry with the one who is very open with me, Guy 1:

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And the composite:

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And Guy 2 synastry:

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Guy 2 Composite:

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posted December 18, 2015 09:31 PM            

The composite looks strong (especially the Sun conjunct Venus in 4th house is excellent for intimacy, comfort, and harmony in the marriage/domestic life). Jupiter on the Ascendant is an awesome aspect to have in the composite and probably has a lot to do with why he is so open and honest with you. The only thing that is hampering your attraction to him is the Mars opposite Saturn =( , which in my experience points to sexual incompatibility/unsatisfying sex life or just no exciting chemistry or "spark". Of course the Mars trine Jupiter could help off-set this

Now the other guy,
The reason you are probably more attracted to him is because of his Ascendant in Gemini in your 8th house, which usually produces a ton of sexual attraction, same with his Mars conjunct your Moon, Mars trine Mars. Also, his Ascendant Ruler conjunct his Sun in the 10th strongly resembles your Leo Mars, so he is definitely your sexual "type", but not necessarily romantic, long-term marriage partner material as much as the other guy (Just my opinion =) )

posted December 18, 2015 09:38 PM            

Q: What does a nosy pepper do?

A: Get jalepeno business.

posted December 19, 2015 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by cchampliss2:
Jalepeno,
this has absolutely nothing to do with your question on synastry/composites but your username made me think of a favorite joke of mine:

Q: What does a nosy pepper do?

A: Get jalepeno business.

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Wasnt expecting this! Love it!

posted December 19, 2015 12:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
Wasnt expecting this! Love it!

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posted December 19, 2015 03:56 AM            

Also, is there anything that shows he is afraid of commitment?

As for the second guy, we had an instant attraction to one another, and that never ever happens for me. Does the synastry show his attraction was strong too? Does the synastry show unrequited attraction on my part?

We spent very little time together, and nothing manifested. but I'm not sure what I did to scare him off! I get he may not be right for me but I never felt attracted to anyone like this.

Here is my natal if you're curious to peek, for which I would be grateful! I think I have too many intense signs and aspects that makes it hard for people to approach me.

Thank you All!!

[IMG]http://i300.photobucket.com/albums/nn1/jalapeno2/469e3816-34ce- 4f84-8288-ea26896d16be_zps3xir0vjm.png[/IMG]

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
The first guy, who is very open with you, definitely views you as long-term marriage partner material. I also think you are a lot more romantically compatible with him, based on your synastry and composite. His Pisces stellium falls in your 5 house which is great for fun, romance, and attraction; and his Taurus ascendant of course being the number 1 long-term attraction/compatibility factor.

The composite looks strong (especially the Sun conjunct venus in 4th house is excellent for intimacy, comfort, and harmony in the marriage/domestic life). Jupiter on the Ascendant is an awesome aspect to have in the composite and probably has a lot to do with why he is so open and honest with you. The only thing that is hampering your attraction to him is the Mars opposite Saturn =( , which in my experience points to sexual incompatibility/unsatisfying sex life or just no exciting chemistry or "spark". Of course the Mars trine Jupiter could help off-set this

Now the other guy,
The reason you are probably more attracted to him is because of his Ascendant in Gemini conjunct your 8th house, which usually produces a ton of sexual attraction, same with his Mars conjunct your Moon, Mars trine Mars. Also, his Ascendant Ruler conjunct his Sun strongly resembles your Leo Mars, so he is definitely your sexual "type", but not necessarily romantic, long-term marriage partner material as much as the other guy (Just my opinion =) )

This composite is also a bit more complicated, with all the Saturn oppositions and the moon being quite afflicted, can make for a heavy/strained/distant/critical or just making the relationship feel like an uphill battle; although the Moon in 7th house is strong and good for intimate relationships. The 8th and 7th ruler being in the 5th house does bode well for romance/attraction too.

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posted December 19, 2015 03:59 AM            

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Originally posted by cchampliss2:
Jalepeno,
this has absolutely nothing to do with your question on synastry/composites but your username made me think of a favorite joke of mine:

Q: What does a nosy pepper do?

A: Get jalepeno business.

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posted December 19, 2015 09:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Jalapeno:
Thank you Lunalscariot for your reply! Yes, you're right, I don't feel so sexually attracted to guy 1, although we get along great and he makes me laugh. I like him, and he tells me the same, but there's no "spark" from my side as you mentioned. He seems very sexually attracted to me though, but I'm afraid that's all he wants from me.

Also, is there anything that shows he is afraid of commitment?

As for the second guy, we had an instant attraction to one another, and that never ever happens for me. Does the synastry show his attraction was strong too? Does the synastry show unrequited attraction on my part?

We spent very little time together, and nothing manifested. but I'm not sure what I did to scare him off! I get he may not be right for me but I never felt attracted to anyone like this.

Here is my natal if you're curious to peek, for which I would be grateful! I think I have too many intense signs and aspects that makes it hard for people to approach me.

Thank you All!!

[IMG]http://i300.photobucket.com/albums/nn1/jalapeno2/469e3816-34ce- 4f84-8288-ea26896d16be_zps3xir0vjm.png[/IMG]

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You're very welcome! It's my pleasure to help (Virgo Moon ) :P

The first guy shouldn't have a probably committing once he's really passionate about someone, as Scorpio/Pluto/Saturn is EXTREMELY loyal and intensely involved once committed in the context of a relationship, usually with a tendency to become consumed by the partner to the point of obsession; especially towards you, as you strongly resemble his 7th house of committed partnerships and the ideal mate. If he doesn't want to commit to YOU, there must be more deeper, underlying attachment issues at hand, which is more Nurture (Conditioning) than Nature (Astrology).

The instant attraction you mentioned could be related to the Double Whammy Vertex conjunct Ascendant aspect you share, this usually manifests as an instantaneously "electric", intensely magnetic pull that has a fated quality attached to it; Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have this both ways and we all know what happened with them lol. Also, I noticed that your Gemini/Sagittarius Axis is intercepted, which are dominant signs for him as his ASC/DSC Axis in which he strongly embodies those traits and characteristics. I noticed that this usually causes an attraction/compatibility, based on admiration for the qualities that person feels they are lacking and for the sense of a feeling of completion, wholeness or balance that person offers the other with the intercepted signs/planets and is a strong karmic/soulmate indicator IMO.

IC/MC sign conjunct is a strong bond/compatibility factor; Any Angle-Angle or Angle-Angle Rulers connections are very powerful magnetic ties, even by sign as there is still an energy resonance, just not as binding or strong of a pull if it were in Orb. You also have with him;
- Your Ascendant Ruler (Mars)/His IC, His ASC Ruler (Mercury)/Your IC = sign conjunct DW
-Your Midheaven Ruler (Sun)/His IC= conjunct
-His IC Ruler (Sun)/Your IC= sign conjunct and falling in your 4th house
- Your IC Ruler (Uranus)/His DSC, His DSC Ruler (Jupiter)/Your IC = Another Double Whammy conjunction! Also notice the symbolism matches both ways of your IC in Aquarius conjunct Jupiter, His DSC in Sagittarius conjunct Uranus and vice versa!? VERY powerful glue in which those energies are intensely connected and fused together in a sort of Super Conjunction if you will, and may potentially manifest as a more intense Moon/Venus conjunction which I recommend you research upon because it's probably one of the main themes/dynamics in your bond =) You already have a planetary Moon/Venus conjunction with his Venus/Mars on your Moon, so this is again just reiterating that 4th/7th house dynamic.

posted December 20, 2015 12:21 AM            

He lives half way across the world now, where he grew up. He is always the one who initiates contact with me, and to this day, still checks in. I don't consider him more than a very, very close friend, although it is kinda sad to hear that we never had a chance!
He describes me as the perfect person for him, but has not made any real attempts to pursue it further. He literally told me when things get "real" in matters of the heart, he "gets scared and runs away". He is a mystery to me and will always be.

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Originally posted by todd:
hi jalapeno
composite one has pluto square to Jupiter. this is a gamebreaker for a serious relationship because the guy is all about his ambitions. a emotional relationship is not possible because his priorities are on his blind ambitions. it might be fun but this will never turn in to a committed relationship and or any type of relationship as he simply doesn't have time.making more money

todd

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posted December 20, 2015 12:47 AM            

The very few times we did spend together we spent talking about family - our parents and siblings, how important it is, and future kids (not exactly OUR kids, just the fact that we both really wanted kids). I think that's the moon/mars-venus conjunction?? He would also bring up the word 'wife' a lot in front of our mutual friends, and it at the same time cute and awkward because I know he was trying to demonstrate to me that he was mature and ready to settle down.

I don't necessarily just pick guys who are ambitious, but it just so happens that I have sun and mars in leo, both in the tenth house. With Saturn in the first, it just further supports my Saturnine/Capricorn nature. I just like people who work hard, like myself. I do not come from a rich family, so having my own financial stability is important to me to be able to take care of them.

I do notice though they are both Aqua suns, with venus and mars conjunct by sign in their natals!

Any else interesting you all see?

thank you!

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Originally posted by todd:
well I don't onow jalapeno, this composite also has a Jupiter/pluto square, though not as tight, but it marks him as also blindly ambitious. btu this one definitely has a spark and electricity to it as the sun/mercury/venus are all conjunct. the emotional attraction is very strong.
the moon sextile to Neptune and trines to pluto so there is very sensitive and concerned emotional connection.
mars is conjunct to chiron so he may be a bit edgy and not what you normally are looking for, but he is quick and has a sharp edge to his personality . Jupiter is trine to mars/chiron so he may not have rough edges and is usually a gentlemen and considerate.
it is interesting that you pick two guys who are both self motivated and ambitions in their professions.i quess you are upward mobile.
todd

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posted December 20, 2015 02:34 AM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
You're very welcome! It's my pleasure to help (Virgo Moon ) :P

The first guy shouldn't have a probably committing once he's really passionate about someone, as Scorpio/Pluto/Saturn is EXTREMELY loyal and intensely involved once committed in the context of a relationship, usually with a tendency to become consumed by the partner to the point of obsession; especially towards you, as you strongly resemble his 7th house of committed partnerships and the ideal mate. If he doesn't want to commit to YOU, there must be more deeper, underlying attachment issues at hand, which is more Nurture (Conditioning) than Nature (Astrology).

The instant attraction you mentioned could be related to the Double Whammy Vertex conjunct Ascendant aspect you share, this usually manifests as an instantaneously "electric", intensely magnetic pull that has a fated quality attached to it; Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have this both ways and we all know what happened with them lol. Also, I noticed that your Gemini/Sagittarius Axis is intercepted, which are dominant signs for him as his ASC/DSC Axis in which he strongly embodies those traits and characteristics. I noticed that this usually causes an attraction/compatibility, based on admiration for the qualities that person feels they are lacking and for the sense of a feeling of completion, wholeness or balance that person offers the other with the intercepted signs/planets and is a strong karmic/soulmate indicator IMO.

IC/MC sign conjunct is a strong bond/compatibility factor; Any Angle-Angle or Angle-Angle Rulers connections are very powerful magnetic ties, even by sign as there is still an energy resonance, just not as binding or strong of a pull if it were in Orb. You also have with him;
- Your Ascendant Ruler (Mars)/His IC, His ASC Ruler (Mercury)/Your IC = sign conjunct DW
-Your Midheaven Ruler (Sun)/His IC= conjunct
-His IC Ruler (Sun)/Your IC= sign conjunct and falling in your 4th house
- Your IC Ruler (Uranus)/His DSC, His DSC Ruler (Jupiter)/Your IC = Another Double Whammy conjunction! Also notice the symbolism matches both ways of your IC in Aquarius conjunct Jupiter, His DSC in Sagittarius conjunct Uranus and vice versa!? VERY powerful glue in which those energies are intensely connected and fused together in a sort of Super Conjunction if you will, and may potentially manifest as a more intense Moon/Venus conjunction which I recommend you research upon because it's probably one of the main themes/dynamics in your bond =) You already have a planetary Moon/Venus conjunction with his Venus/Mars on your Moon, so this is again just reiterating that 4th/7th house dynamic.

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